How to Make an Aries Man Obsessed with You

Written by Stina Garbis | Edited by Madeleine Criglow

Last Updated: March 17, 2023 References

Crushing on an Aries man can feel positively thrilling. They're independent, spontaneous, and always dedicated to finding new experiences. To make an Aries man obsessed with you, you'll have to show him that dating you is the adventure of a lifetime. Keep reading for the best tips on how to make an Aries man fall for you.

This article is based on an interview with our psychic astrologer, Stina Garbis, owner of Psychic Stina. Check out the full interview here.

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Reveal only a little bit about yourself at a time.

Aries men like to work to get to know you. When it comes to love, they enjoy the chase. Encourage him to pursue you by being mysterious and only giving him a little bit of information at a time. You might also try being a little unavailable to him when he asks to make plans. He'll be super intrigued and obsessed with learning more about you.^{[1]
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- When he asks about your night, give him only a few details. You might say, "It was a lot of fun! I checked out a show with some friends 🙂" That leaves him room to ask questions and learn more.
- Make plans with your friends and family, too. He'll likely be more enticed to get to know you if he sees that getting on your schedule is a challenge.

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Be super flirty and compliment him often.

Aries men want to feel adored by their partners. Though they're usually not lacking in confidence, they do need to feel appreciated.^{[2]
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Stina Garbis
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Expert Interview. 10 December 2021.} To get his attention, tell your Aries man what you like about him and be specific. You might try being flirty in other ways, too. Physical affection and a sweet smile will likely make him super into you.^{[3]
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- When you see him walk by, look him in the eye and give him a genuine smile.
- On dates, lean in close to him while he talks, touch his shoulder, or even greet him with a hug and a kiss on the cheek.
- To compliment him, you might say something like, "I love the way you approach life. You really go for what you want!" or "You've got the coolest taste in music. I always want to know your recommendations."
- If you want to compliment his good looks, be specific so that your words feel genuine. You might text something like, "I love your freckles. I think they're so cute 😊"
- Aries men love to feel like they're being actively pursued, so it's important to make him feel wanted.^{[4]
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Go on fun, adventurous dates.

As the Ram of the zodiac, Aries men charge towards new experiences. Make him obsessed with you by planning dates that feel thrilling and unexpected. You might try planning activity or sports-themed dates to keep him energized. If you do, he'll be dying to keep making plans with you.^{[5]
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- Try dates like mini golf, bowling, or an evening at the arcade.
- As you get to know each other, you might try planning longer dates. Go on a day trip to the beach or spend all day exploring a new neighborhood. Aries men often enjoy dates that extend through the day and into the night.^{[6]
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- Don't be afraid to let him take the lead on your dates, since Aries likes to be the boss.^{[7]
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Joke around and show off your sense of humor.

Aries men enjoy boisterous and physical comedy. No stranger to being the center of attention, they like making people laugh and want a partner that feels the same.^{[8]
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Stina Garbis
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Expert Interview. 10 December 2021.} Encourage your Aries man to really fall for you by showing him your unique sense of humor.
- Send him funny GIFS or memes from TV shows or movies. An Aries man will likely appreciate shows with a goofy sense of humor, like The Simpsons or Big Mouth.
- Tease him playfully to show off your irreverent side. You might say something like, "Up late watching movies again? Do you ever sleep?"

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Engage in interesting, spirited debates.

An Aries wants an intellectual match in a partner. Show off your quick-thinking mind with a fiery conversation. To get things going, bring up topics like current events, philosophy, and politics if you're comfortable. An Aries man will go crazy for you if he sees that you can keep up with him (or beat him) in a debate.^{[9]
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- To kick off the conversation, you might try sending him a link to an article or news story with the caption, "I've got a lot of thoughts on this. What about you?" If you're talking in person, you might give him a rundown of the story and ask for his opinion.
- Keep things respectful throughout your conversation. If things get too heated or he doesn't seem into talking about the subject, you might try changing the subject.

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Show your passionate side in the bedroom.

Aries men are known for their unparalleled sexuality. As you get to know each other, try to embrace your unique sexuality, too. Be open about what you want and ask him what he likes. He'll fall for you if you show him that you're open to experimenting and having fun.
- It's okay to hold off if you're not ready to get intimate just yet. There are tons of ways to get an Aries man's attention, and you can totally wait until you feel more comfortable.

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Embrace spontaneity and be a little unpredictable.

Aries men are go-getters that are always looking for the next best thing. As you get to know each other, keep things exciting and try to avoid falling into a routine. Otherwise, he might get a little bored. If you show him that you're just as spontaneous as he is, your Aries man will fall head over heels for you.^{[10]
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- If you've been on a string of dinner dates, spice things up by going out to breakfast or planning an afternoon picnic instead.
- Change up your plans in the moment for an exciting thrill. If you're on an evening stroll and walk by a bar with live music, for example, go inside and check it out!

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Get along with his friends.

Aries men love meeting new people and often have many friends. To win him over, show him that you're comfortable with his social lifestyle.^{[11]
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- Avoid getting jealous of your Aries man’s friends. This might make him feel like his independence is being threatened, which could send him running.

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Give him space.

Ruled by the 1st House of the Self, Aries men are very independent. This means that they might need a little more alone time than other signs. To capture the heart of an Aries man, respect that about him. If he sees that you're comfortable with his need to do his own thing sometimes, he'll be obsessed with you in no time.^{[12]
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- Be understanding when he needs to spend a few days by himself instead of going on dates back to back.
- Avoid checking up on him or double-texting if you don't immediately hear back. He might have ditched his phone to go on a solo hike or take a drive. You'll likely hear from him when he gets back.

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Be independent and ambitious.

As cardinal signs, Aries men are often leaders and independent thinkers. To really strike his interest, embrace those qualities in yourself. Keep living an active life without your Aries man by making plans with your friends and family, striving to meet your goals, and devoting time to your other passions in life. He'll be super impressed and excited to be by the side of such a successful, dynamic person.^{[13]
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- Plan fun nights out with your friends and catch up with your family if they live in the area. You might even try going on some solo outings, too, like a trip to the movies or a long drive by yourself.
- Even if your romance is making you feel a little distracted, remember to focus on your other goals in life, too. Keep striving to follow your dreams and dedicate plenty of time to your hobbies.
- To be independent while still including him in your life, ask him for help or advice. You might say, "I've got a big deadline for my grad school application tomorrow. You think I could read you my personal statement?" This will appeal to his protective nature.

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Remain confident.

Aries men are often very confident and appreciate that quality in others. He'll be attracted to you if he sees that you're similarly self-assured. When you go out with your Aries man, keep your head held high, speak with assurance, and remember all of your strengths. He'll be enamored by your charisma and faith in yourself.^{[14]
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- It's hard to be confident all of the time. To give yourself a boost, try writing down a list of your favorite qualities about yourself. Turn to that list anytime you find yourself lacking in confidence.

Expert Q&A

Question

What traits are Aries attracted to?

Stina Garbis
Psychic Astrologer
Reverend Stina Garbis is a Psychic Astrologer and the Owner of Psychic Stina. With over 30 years of experience, she specializes in providing personal and professional advice through astrology and tarot card readings. Reverend Stina has experience working with high-profile celebrities, sports figures, politicians, and CEOs. She has been featured in many publications, including Bustle, Vice, The New York Post, and Readers’ Digest and she also has a 200k+ following on TikTok. Stina holds an Ordained Minister License from The International Metaphysical Ministry University Seminary.

Stina Garbis

Psychic Astrologer

Expert Answer

They are into themselves. Whatever they like about themselves is what they are into. I wouldn’t advise becoming a competitor to Aries and trying to do everything that they do, but rather, be a spectator or do something to complement them.