Dealing with a cheating boyfriend can be one of the most infuriating things ever. He betrayed your trust and you may be so angry you could scream. But hold off a sec. There may be a better way to get back at him. To help you do it, we’ve put together a list of tips and strategies you can use to make your cheating boyfriend feel bad for what he did.

Things You Should Know

  • Tell him clearly and honestly that he hurt you. He’ll feel horrible once he realizes the damage he’s done to your feelings and your relationship.
  • Show him you’re upset by giving him the cold shoulder or even breaking up. Hang out with other guys or update your look to make him jealous.
  • Remember to focus on yourself and your happiness. Show him you’re doing better than ever without him to make him regret his actions.
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Give him the cold shoulder.

  1. It could make him try to convince you that he’s sorry. If you’re willing to forgive your boyfriend, let him know that it’s not going to be easy. Make him live in the doghouse and avoid talking to or spending time around him until he manages to earn back your trust and respect, however long that is. If he’s really committed to fixing things, then he’ll do whatever it takes.[4]
    • Every situation is different, and you shouldn’t feel pressured to do anything that you don’t want to do. If you feel like you want to give your boyfriend another chance, you can absolutely do that.
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Tell everyone what happened.

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Erase him from your life entirely.

  1. Delete his number, unfollow him, and completely ignore him. Force him to live with the consequences of his actions without any relief from you. Cut off communication by deleting his number and not responding to any calls or texts. Remove him from your social media so he can’t see any of your stuff and you can’t see his. Deny any of his requests to communicate with you. It’ll drive him crazy and you won’t have the added stress of having to deal with him.[12]
    • You could even change your number so he really can’t contact you.
    • You can also delete all of your pictures together from your social media so it’s like he was never even there.
    • If he’s really persistent on social media, you can completely block him.
    • You can even ask your friends and family to block him. He’ll feel powerless to do anything to get you back, just as he should.[13]
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Focus on making yourself happy.

  1. Being the best version of yourself can be the greatest revenge. Don’t let his actions keep you down. Show him that you’re better than ever by doing things that you enjoy and make you happy and healthy. When he sees how well you’re doing without him, it’ll make him regret how he treated you.[14]
    • Try eating healthy and exercising. Sure, it can make you look good, but it can also make you feel good, which can be really nice following a crappy relationship.
    • You can also try some new things that you’ve always wanted to do. For instance, give that yoga class a try, go rock climbing, or take a cooking lesson. Do whatever you think will make you happy!

Expert Q&A

  • Question
    How can a relationship recover after infidelity?
    Elvina Lui, MFT
    Elvina Lui, MFT
    Relationship Expert
    Elvina Lui is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in relationship counseling based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Elvina received her Masters in Counseling from Western Seminary in 2007 and trained under the Asian Family Institute in San Francisco and the New Life Community Services in Santa Cruz. She has over 13 years of counseling experience and is trained in the harm reduction model.
    Elvina Lui, MFT
    Relationship Expert
    Expert Answer
    While it is hard, many couples overcome the damage from infidelity and make their relationship stronger. The key is rebuilding trust from the rubble, for both people to keep showing each other that “you are worth this, and I believe in us”. It takes time and patience to rebuild trust. For the offender, be patient and show that you are sorry. This could take a while, but eventually your partner will heal. In their pain, your partner will appear angry at times and sad at times, sometimes they might seem back to normal but then go back to being angry. Please be patient. They are acting this way because you hurt them, and you have the power to help them heal faster by being loving and patient. Your efforts of being humble and loving, to be giving and understanding, this creates the best environment for their wound to heal.
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Warnings

  • Don’t break anything, try to physically harm him, or take anything that he could use to accuse you of stealing. Avoid giving him the opportunity to get back at you in any way.[16]
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This article was co-authored by Elvina Lui, MFT. Elvina Lui is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in relationship counseling based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Elvina received her Masters in Counseling from Western Seminary in 2007 and trained under the Asian Family Institute in San Francisco and the New Life Community Services in Santa Cruz. She has over 13 years of counseling experience and is trained in the harm reduction model. This article has been viewed 151,133 times.
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