This article was co-authored by Elvina Lui, MFT. Elvina Lui is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in relationship counseling based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Elvina received her Masters in Counseling from Western Seminary in 2007 and trained under the Asian Family Institute in San Francisco and the New Life Community Services in Santa Cruz. She has over 13 years of counseling experience and is trained in the harm reduction model.
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Dealing with a cheating boyfriend can be one of the most infuriating things ever. He betrayed your trust and you may be so angry you could scream. But hold off a sec. There may be a better way to get back at him. To help you do it, we’ve put together a list of tips and strategies you can use to make your cheating boyfriend feel bad for what he did.
Things You Should Know
- Tell him clearly and honestly that he hurt you. He’ll feel horrible once he realizes the damage he’s done to your feelings and your relationship.
- Show him you’re upset by giving him the cold shoulder or even breaking up. Hang out with other guys or update your look to make him jealous.
- Remember to focus on yourself and your happiness. Show him you’re doing better than ever without him to make him regret his actions.
Steps
Expert Q&A
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QuestionHow can a relationship recover after infidelity?Elvina Lui, MFTElvina Lui is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in relationship counseling based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Elvina received her Masters in Counseling from Western Seminary in 2007 and trained under the Asian Family Institute in San Francisco and the New Life Community Services in Santa Cruz. She has over 13 years of counseling experience and is trained in the harm reduction model.
Relationship ExpertWhile it is hard, many couples overcome the damage from infidelity and make their relationship stronger. The key is rebuilding trust from the rubble, for both people to keep showing each other that “you are worth this, and I believe in us”. It takes time and patience to rebuild trust. For the offender, be patient and show that you are sorry. This could take a while, but eventually your partner will heal. In their pain, your partner will appear angry at times and sad at times, sometimes they might seem back to normal but then go back to being angry. Please be patient. They are acting this way because you hurt them, and you have the power to help them heal faster by being loving and patient. Your efforts of being humble and loving, to be giving and understanding, this creates the best environment for their wound to heal.
Warnings
- Don’t break anything, try to physically harm him, or take anything that he could use to accuse you of stealing. Avoid giving him the opportunity to get back at you in any way.[16]⧼thumbs_response⧽
References
- ↑ Elvina Lui, MFT. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 29 May 2019.
- ↑ https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/episode7/
- ↑ https://www.huffpost.com/entry/how-to-get-revenge-on-a-c_b_2410980
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/between-the-sheets/201812/cheating-and-getting-even
- ↑ https://hernorm.com/things-to-say-to-your-boyfriend-when-he-cheats/
- ↑ Elvina Lui, MFT. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 29 May 2019.
- ↑ https://www.midlifedivorcerecovery.com/revenge-cheating-husband/
- ↑ Elvina Lui, MFT. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 29 May 2019.
- ↑ https://jezebel.com/how-to-get-your-stuff-back-after-a-breakup-5889680
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- ↑ https://mashable.com/2018/01/22/reddit-revenge-ex-cheating-ghosted/
- ↑ https://www.marriage.com/advice/infidelity/get-revenge-on-your-cheating-boyfriend/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/suffer-the-children/201309/after-the-infidelity-can-counseling-help
- ↑ https://www.macleans.ca/culture/how-to-get-revenge-on-a-cheater/