Are you ready for the next steps in a relationship but aren't sure if the girl you like is on the same page? Some girls will tell you how they feel right away, but your partner might let you know she’s invested in a more subtle way. Fortunately, there are some common things you can look out for to get a better idea of how she feels.

Here are 12 signs that a girl is serious about your relationship.

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She remembers the little details.

  1. Even if you mention something small in passing, she’ll pay attention. See if she’s giving you her full attention without any distractions as you’re talking to her. If she’s listening closely, she’ll remember the things that are important to you and keep them in mind for the future. Notice when she brings up the topic again or surprises you with something you talked about in passing since it means she’s attentive and cares about the things that matter to you.[2]
    • For example, if you mention that you love ice cream but you’re lactose intolerant, she may surprise you with a dairy-free version of your favorite flavor.
    • As another example, if you tell her that your mom is having surgery, she’ll ask about how she’s recovering.
    • Some people don’t have as good of memory, so don’t get discouraged if they don’t remember every little thing you’ve brought up.
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She starts deep conversations with you.

  1. She’ll want to learn more about you and your beliefs if she’s interested. Rather than bringing up casual topics like the news or work, listen to see if she asks about your past or family. She might also try to find out more about your goals and what you want out of the future. If you hear her mention things about marriage or kids, it could even be a sign she’s looking to settle down.[3]
    • If she’s really invested in you, she’ll initiate conversations frequently. Make sure you also talk about deep topics too so it doesn’t feel one-sided.
    • You should feel comfortable expressing your personal views and beliefs around her. She doesn’t have to agree with everything the same way you do, but she should be open to your perspective.[4]
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She says “we” instead of “I.”

  1. “We” shows that she’s invested in your future together. During casual conversation, see if she refers to herself individually or to you as a couple.[10] When she uses terms like “we” or “us,” it shows that she thinks about the two of you together and doesn’t feel as anxious or avoidant of the relationship. However, if she refers to herself as “I” or “me,” it might mean she’s not ready to commit.[11]
    • For example, when she’s talking to her friends about your relationship, she may say, “We had such a fun time this weekend,” rather than, “I had a lot of fun this weekend with him.”
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She plans her time around your schedule.

  1. If she’s actively finding ways to get together, it’s a sign she’s serious. Rather than coming up with things last minute, she’ll ask what you want to do together in advance. She may try finding out when you’re free so she’s able to work around your schedule and come with a few things to do. While you don’t have to spend every night together, it’s a good indicator if she’s searching for ways to see you more often.[12]
    • For example, if you say you have to go grocery shopping, she might ask if she can come with you so you can buy ingredients and cook a meal together.
    • She may also turn down going out with friends to spend more time with you if she’s invested in your relationship.
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She includes you when making decisions.

  1. She’ll ask for your opinions and input even for small choices. It may be something as small as what outfit she should wear or as big as a career change, but check if she asks about your thoughts. That means she values your opinion and how the decision affects you as a couple. While she can still make decisions on her own, she cares and wants you to feel heard in the relationship.[13]
    • Be wary of controlling behavior if she makes choices that you’re not comfortable with. Make sure you voice your concerns right away.[14]
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She introduces you to friends and family.

  1. Meeting the people close to her means you’re an important part of her life. See if she suggests going out with some of her friends or to a family gathering. That way, you take your relationship to the next level by meeting her loved ones so they can give her their honest opinions about you. If you still haven’t met anyone, you can always ask her directly to see if they want to get together.[16]
    • Show her off to your friends and family if you’re serious about the relationship too.
    • It might be tougher to meet her friends and family if they live out of town, but she may offer to call or video-chat with them.
    • If she actively avoids introducing you to anyone that’s close to her, it might be a sign that she doesn’t see your relationship as long-term.
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She tells you directly

Expert Q&A

  • Question
    How can I tell if a girl likes me based on body language?
    Cher Gopman
    Cher Gopman
    Dating Coach
    Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post.
    Cher Gopman
    Dating Coach
    Expert Answer
    If she's leaning in to talk to you, she goes out of her way to be close to you, or she finds reasons to "accidentally" touch you, it's a good sign that she's interested in you romantically.
  • Question
    She says she loves me but it doesn't always feel like it. Why?
    Cher Gopman
    Cher Gopman
    Dating Coach
    Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post.
    Cher Gopman
    Dating Coach
    Expert Answer
    People show their affection in all sorts of different ways. Some people express their love through physical touch, while others identify more with giving, or words of affirmation. If she says she loves you but it doesn't feel like it all of the time, try to look for those little signs you may be missing. She may be expressing her love without you really picking up on it!
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Warnings

  • If she tells you that she’s not looking for anything serious directly, take her word for it and don’t get upset if she doesn’t want a committed relationship.[21]
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  • Watch out for relationship red flags, such as her not being present when you’re together, not wanting to meet your friends or family, or refusing to talk about the future.[22]
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