How to Be an Attractive Woman

Co-authored by Nejla Renee and Danielle Blinka, MA, MPA

Last Updated: March 10, 2023 References

Everyone wants to feel attractive, and you deserve to look and feel your best. Fortunately, there are many ways to be attractive to others, so anyone can be an attractive woman. The best way to make yourself more attractive is to exude confidence, but it also helps create the perfect look. Additionally, make yourself seem like a more dynamic, engaging person by showing off your personality. Finally, take good care of your body and mind.

Method 1

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Creating Your Best Look

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Choose a hairstyle that’s easy to maintain or wear nice headscarves. Your hair frames your face, so styling it makes a big difference in how you look. Simply styling your hair can make a big impact, so it’s best to do it every day. Find a style that works great for your hair texture, time constraints, and preferences.^{[1]
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- As an alternative, you can create a stylish look with an attractive headscarf.
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Opt for clean, well-fitting clothes that make you feel your best. You don’t need expensive, trendy fashions to look attractive. Just choose items that fit you well, rather than baggy, boxy clothes. Similarly, wear outfits you think look good on you because feeling great will make you look better.^{[2]
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- To ensure your clothes suit your body type, think about how you can balance the top and bottom of your body, like adding more volume on the top if you're wider on the bottom, or cinching in your waist if you're equally wide on top and bottom.^{[3]
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- A tailor can help you get the perfect fit, no matter what your body type is.^{[4]
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Express your personality through your clothing. When you're trying to identify your sense of style, think about your lifestyle, like what you do for work and what you do in your time off. Then, think about what you like and dislike when you see other people wearing it. That can help you figure out what will work for you in your daily life.^{[5]
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- For instance, you might wear a flower print if you’re feminine or leather if you’re a bit edgier.
- Wearing red clothing can catch people’s attention, so it makes a great power color for when you want to make a statement!^{[6]
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Apply makeup if you want to emphasize your features. For instance, eyeshadow and eyeliner can really make your eyes pop, while a bold lipstick can make your smile stand out. If you have blemishes or wrinkles you want to hide, foundation and concealer can help you get the look you want.^{[7]
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- Natural makeup is typically seen as more attractive.^{[8]
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Wear a signature scent that makes you smell good. A pleasant scent is a subtle way to make people perceive you as more attractive. In addition to catching people’s interest, it shows people you take care of yourself. Plus, a good smell usually indicates good hygiene.^{[9]
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- If you don’t have a favorite fragrance, ask for samples at your local beauty store or counter. Then, try out different scents on your body, since your body chemistry will alter the scent of the perfume.

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Exuding Confidence

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Stand up straight so you have good posture. Good posture conveys that you’re confident and comfortable in your skin. To stand up straight, elongate your spine and roll your shoulders slightly back. Then, tilt your chin up and look straight forward.^{[10]
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- If you have bad posture, practice standing up straight in a mirror. Over time, your muscles will learn how to stand tall, and it will become a habit.
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Use open body language, like leaning forward and making eye contact. Smiling also makes you appear confident and open. Additionally, when you’re standing, keep your arms open and down at your sides. This kind of body language invites people in, making you seem more attractive.^{[11]
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- Don’t feel like you need to smile if you don’t feel like it. However, smiling often will make people view you as more attractive.
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Adopt a positive attitude. Positivity is one of the best ways to appear more attractive. To seem more positive, make a point to look on the bright side, even if you don’t feel optimistic at times. Similarly, encourage people and share the positive events from your life.^{[12]
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- For example, you might feel worried about how a group presentation will go. Rather than expressing that worry, you might say, “It’s been great working with everyone, and I’m so excited we get to share our product today!”
- If someone is feeling down, say, “I can tell you’re going through something difficult, but I believe you can make it through. You’ve been through hard times in the past, and they’ve only made you stronger.”
- When you’re chit-chatting with your friends, tell them stories about recent accomplishments, funny things your pet did, or goals you’re currently pursuing.
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Dive into new experiences to show people you’re interesting. Taking risks and stepping outside your comfort zone will show people you’re an interesting, dynamic person. This makes you appear more attractive. Put yourself in the position to try something different by visiting new places and inviting your friends to do something different.^{[13]
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- For example, sing karaoke, take a dance class, go bungee jumping, skydive, audition for community theater, or go rock climbing.
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Celebrate what’s unique about you. Spend time getting to know yourself so you can recognize what’s awesome about who you are. To do this, make a list of your talents, accomplishments, favorite things to do, goals, etc. You have a unique set of qualities that makes you special, so share them with the world.^{[14]
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- Don’t compare yourself to others, as this makes it easy to forget what’s amazing about you.

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Showing Off Your Personality

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Be friendly and kind when interacting with others. People are more attracted to you if you’re nice to them. Smile or say, “Hi” to people when you pass them. Similarly, memorize a set of questions you can ask someone to spark a conversation with anyone. Additionally, offer help if you notice someone who needs it.^{[15]
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- Acknowledging people and smiling at them is all it takes to seem friendly.
- If you’re not sure what kinds of questions to ask, you might use, “Seen any good movies lately?” “Any fun plans for the weekend?” or “How’s your week going so far?”
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Engage in fun activities that you enjoy. When you’re having fun, you appear most attractive. Additionally, having hobbies makes you look like a more engaging, well-rounded person. It helps you be more interesting, which, in turn, makes you more attractive.^{[16]
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- For example, join a band, go bowling, write poetry, enjoy concerts, or join a recreational sports team.
- If you’re not sure what you like to do, try out different things until something feels right.
- As a side bonus, you’ll also boost your confidence when you do what you love!^{[17]
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Show off your unique or quirky interests. Being different makes you seem more alluring and attractive, so play up what separates you from the crowd. Maybe you have an obsession with pop-culture-inspired desserts or like to upcycle soda cans into jewelry. Whatever it is that you do, show it off!^{[18]
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- Being unique or quirky doesn’t mean that you’re the only one who does something, so don’t feel pressured to do something no else has ever done. For example, collecting typewriters is something unique, but you aren’t the only person who does it.
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Show genuine interest in other people. People will be attracted to you if you seem to care about them. Ask them questions about themselves, and listen to their stories. When they share something with you, show your appreciation by acknowledging what they’ve shared and giving a kind response.^{[19]
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- For instance, let’s say someone told you a story about their vacation. You might say, “Wow, that trip sounds so fun. Thanks for sharing your travel recommendations with me.”
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Talk positively about yourself rather than self-critiquing. No matter how exciting you are as a person, you can undo it all by being too critical of yourself. Instead of sharing your flaws, highlight what’s great about you. Similarly, tell stories that present you in your best life. This helps people see you at your best.^{[20]
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- For instance, don’t tell people you’re having a bad hair day. Instead, focus on something that’s going well. You might say, “I’m so proud of myself because I got to work 5 minutes early today.”
- Along this same line, accept compliments with grace instead of telling people why they’re wrong. If someone says, “You look great!” Say, “Thank you so much! I was just about to say the same thing about you!”

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Practicing Self Care

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Maintain good hygiene by showering daily. Keep your body clean by using soap and warm water when you bathe at least once a day. To continue smelling good, use deodorant, antiperspirant, or body powder to combat sweat and odor. Additionally, using lotion daily will keep your skin soft and smooth.^{[21]
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- If you get very sweaty, you might take more showers or use a body cleansing wipe to maintain your cleanliness.^{[22]
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Follow a skincare routine to prevent premature aging and blemishes. Wash your face with a mild cleanser in the morning and evening. Follow up with a face lotion or cream. Additionally, you can address your unique skin concerns with products like an eye cream for wrinkles or under-eye bags, acne cream for blemishes, or lip balm for dry, cracked lips.^{[23]
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- Never sleep in your makeup, as it’s very bad for your skin.^{[24]
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- Ideally, it’s best to use a lighter moisturizer during the day and a heavier cream at night.
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Eat a healthy, balanced diet. Fill half of your plate with veggies, a quarter of your plate with lean protein, and a quarter of your plate with starch or grains. Then, snack on fresh fruits and veggies whenever you feel hungry between meals. Additionally, make sure you’re drinking about 8-12 glasses of water daily to stay hydrated.^{[25]
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- If you tend to overeat at mealtimes, try eating off smaller plates, which can make it appear that you have more food.
- Don’t try to cut out foods you enjoy, as that will make you miserable. Instead, add in your favorite foods in moderation, and look for healthier ways to make foods that don’t fit into your healthy eating plan.
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Exercise at least 30 minutes a day to improve your fitness. Choose a fun exercise that you will keep doing. For example, you might try walking, jogging, dancing, aerobics, group gym classes, kickboxing, or swimming. Find what works for you!^{[26]
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- Don’t feel pressured to work out constantly or lose a bunch of weight all at one time. You can be attractive at any weight, so just focus on sustainably improving your health.
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Do regular beauty treatments at home or a spa. Beauty treatments like face masks, massages, bath soaks, and pedicures can make you feel more beautiful. This makes them a great way to help you feel more attractive. If you’re budget conscious, doing your beauty treatments at home is a terrific option. However, it’s also fun to splurge sometimes and go to a spa.^{[27]
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- You don’t need a lot of money to do beauty treatments at home, so don’t let your budget become an obstacle.
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Relieve stress so you can keep feeling your best. Stress is a normal part of life, but too much of it can be harmful. Not only can it wreak havoc on your skin and appetite, but stress can also affect your mood, making it hard for you to be your most attractive self. Say goodbye to stress by doing these relaxing activities:^{[28]
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- Talk to a friend.
- Play with your pet.
- Soak in a warm bath.
- Write in your journal.
- Color in an adult coloring book.
- Go for a nature walk.
- Watch a funny movie.
- Meditate for 10 minutes.

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Expert Q&A

Question

What is the most attractive outfit for a woman?

Nejla Renee
Fashion Stylist & Image Consultant
Nejla Renee is a fashion stylist, image consultant, and personal shopper based in New York, New York. With over seven years of experience, Nejla specializes in helping people enhance their positive attributes and express their identities through style. Nejla holds a BS in Marketing and Finance from Northeastern University and worked in finance prior to starting her own business. Nejla combines her business experience with her personal creativity, passion, keen eye for detail, innate sense of style, and strong understanding of fit and proportion to help her clients create peace and acceptance around their style.

Nejla Renee

Fashion Stylist & Image Consultant

Expert Answer

Look for an outfit that fits your body type or work with a tailor so your clothes fit you perfectly. Additionally, try to balance your top and bottom halves. If your top half is curvier, add volume on the bottom, such as with a wide skirt. Try cinching your waist if your top and bottom are roughly equal in volume.
Question

How can I explore my sense of style?

Nejla Renee
Fashion Stylist & Image Consultant
Nejla Renee is a fashion stylist, image consultant, and personal shopper based in New York, New York. With over seven years of experience, Nejla specializes in helping people enhance their positive attributes and express their identities through style. Nejla holds a BS in Marketing and Finance from Northeastern University and worked in finance prior to starting her own business. Nejla combines her business experience with her personal creativity, passion, keen eye for detail, innate sense of style, and strong understanding of fit and proportion to help her clients create peace and acceptance around their style.

Nejla Renee

Fashion Stylist & Image Consultant

Expert Answer

First, think about your lifestyle. What do you do for work? What is the dress code? What do you do with your time off? Then, take a look at what other people are wearing, and note elements you like or dislike. Think about famous people who you think always look good. Then, use that information to help you narrow down your style to what you like and what's going to actually work in your daily life.
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No guy should ever "demand" anything like this from you, and you definitely shouldn't give in to these demands. Tell him that this is disrespectful behavior, and it has to stop. If you're a young person, and you feel unsafe, get a responsible adult involved.