How to Play a Gemini Man at His Own Game

Co-authored by Tara Divina and Glenn Carreau

Last Updated: June 12, 2022

Gemini guys are lots of fun, but sometimes their indecisiveness and shifting moods can be challenging. Has he been distant, and you want to know how to get his interest? Or maybe he's struggling to commit, and you want to get past his indecisiveness? If you think your Gemini is playing you and you'd like to beat him at his own game, we're here to help. Read on for a complete list of tips on getting your Gemini's attention (and keeping it) using his own tactics!

1

Cut off contact for a few days.

Force your Gemini to contact you, not the other way around. When this free-spirited air sign plays games, he'll take his time texting you back. Instead of being the first to text every time, maintain radio silence and don't interact with posts on social media while waiting for him to contact you. Give him time to miss you! Soon he'll start wondering where you are and make an effort to call or text.
- Don't be discouraged if this takes time. You may be waiting on him for a week, as Geminis are easily distracted. However, he'll set aside time to call once he realizes he needs to make you a priority.
- If he hasn't called or texted you for a week, it might be good to ask him what's up. Don't bombard him, however; just send one quick text and wait for a reply.

2

Play hard-to-get with him.

Send mixed signals to make mercurial Gemini work for your attention.^{[1]
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Research source} Gemini is also known for his mixed signals; he often runs hot and then cold, switching between showing interest and acting aloof. You can do it too: give Gemini lots of attention, and when he finally reciprocates, become distant for a few days. Avoid hanging out, and let him sit at home wondering what happened.
- Gemini is a mutable sign, meaning he's flexible and quick-thinking, but can also be highly indecisive. Playing hard-to-get this way will make Gemini see that he has to fight for your affection if he wants you in his life.

3

Live your best life.

Show fun-loving Gemini that you don't need him to have a good time. Try new things, pursue your favorite hobbies, and go on adventures. Post about your activities on social media, so your Gemini can see every cool thing you're doing. A Gemini guy might start avoiding you if he feels stifled in the relationship, so beat him at his own game by acting just as carefree and adventurous as he is.
- Gemini guys are independent and uncomfortable with clingy partners, so he won't be offended if he sees you having fun without him. On the contrary, it'll make him want to join in.
- Geminis are easily bored and prefer constant stimulus to keep them entertained. He'll be impressed by you when he sees how fulfilling your life is and make more effort to be part of it.

4

Spark his jealousy by flirting around.

If he sees you getting attention from others, he'll want you to himself. This sign is social and a natural charmer, so he might get flirty with someone else right in front of you when he's playing games. Thankfully, he'll pursue you with more determination if he realizes you're doing the same. Flirt with someone where your Gemini can see you, and you'll see how territorial he becomes.
- Be careful not to overdo it; openly breaking things off and going on dates with new people won't win him over, but attracting interest from other guys and engaging in some light flirting can.

5

Prioritize your own plans.

Make plans and keep them, rather than canceling for your Gemini. He can be downright flaky when playing games, so don't rearrange your schedule or prioritize seeing him while trying to get the upper hand. Make time to hang out with your friends instead. This will teach Gemini to move faster if he wants some of your precious time while reinforcing how independent you are.
- Gemini isn't the most romantic sign and doesn't like being overly attached. He values his personal freedom, so he'll take comfort in knowing you can do your own thing while you're together.

6

Dress to impress.

When you look your best, Gemini will see what he's missing. If you're still meeting up with him, take the time to make sure you're looking good and feeling confident first. Upload flattering photos to social media to remind him how attractive you are. He's drawn to confidence; the more self-assured you appear, the more he'll want to stop playing games and earnestly pursue you.^{[2]
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- Gemini guys will appreciate any trendy and eye-catching outfit, so don't worry about sticking to a particular style. Just make sure you feel good in whatever you're wearing, and he'll think you look good too.
- If you have something unique to wear, try that out. He'll admire your ability to stand out from the crowd.

7

Be mysterious when you talk to him.

Hold off on the details to keep him wondering about your life. Stir up Gemini's curiosity by sharing information slowly. Give him tidbits while hinting that there's more to learn, and always save a story for the next time you talk. Show him that he doesn't know everything about you yet—but if he sticks around, he could. Geminis are inquisitive by nature, so he'll be chomping at the bit to learn more!
- You don't need to be evasive when he asks you questions; just slowly open up to him and offer fewer details at first.

8

Tease your Gemini.

This witty sign enjoys trading fast-paced banter, even at his expense. He'll probably tease you while joking around, especially when he's trying to get your attention, so don't be afraid to tease him back. Poke fun at his outfit, give a sarcastic compliment, or ask a teasing question. Geminis are lighthearted with a good sense of humor, so he'll love exchanging playful, creative banter.
- "Wow, the way you're butchering that dance is so elegant and skillful, I can't stop looking!"
- "How did you not know that? Did you grow up under a rock or something?"

9

Charm his friends with positivity and friendliness.

Make an effort to attend parties and be social, just like outgoing Gemini. As one of the biggest social butterflies among the signs, your Gemini prides himself on being the most popular person in the room.^{[3]
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Research source} Go to parties with him and win over the crowd by mingling and introducing yourself to everyone. Impress his friends and beat Gemini at his own game by being the life and soul of the party.
- Make sure you move around the room and talk to everyone so he can see that you're just as outgoing as he is.
- When you introduce yourself, try asking for the other person's name and make an effort to learn a bit about them and their interests.

10

Impress him with your smarts.

Think of thought-provoking topics your brainy Gemini will love. This sign is ruled by Mercury, the planet of communication, and he craves having an intellectual connection with his significant other. Be ready to talk intelligently about any topic you're passionate about. You can play Gemini at his own game by fascinating him and beating him in friendly debates.
- Send him an intriguing news article and ask for his thoughts on it, or talk to him about your favorite movies, books, and other media.
- Challenge him to a game of both chance and skill, where you can show off your brainpower and knowledge.
- Ask about his opinions and preferences to impress him further. Geminis are very dual-minded, so questions like "Do you prefer pop music or country?" are entertaining for him.

11

Surprise him.

Make spontaneous Gemini see that life with you will never be boring. Turn the tables on this impulsive sign by trying new things and going on spur-of-the-moment escapades when the mood strikes you. Show him that you're always ready to learn, explore, and discover things you didn't know about yesterday. You can even invite him along to share the fun!
- Propose an adventure with him where you'll go somewhere in town that neither of you has ever been before.
- Get him to join you for a spontaneous lunch date at a new restaurant in town.
- Ask him to come on a weekend getaway with you and try visiting either a city you've never seen before or a place in the woods with lots of trails and activities to explore.

12

Keep your feelings ambiguous.

Gushing about feelings might scare this cerebral and lighthearted sign. Your Gemini wants to have fun, so focus on light, cheerful, and funny interactions to get him hooked on your company. Hold off on saying things like "I miss you," which can translate to clinginess. Beat him at his own game by making him be the first one to confess his feelings, and reciprocate after.
- He might try to play you by refusing to put labels on the relationship, but show him you're even better at having a good time than he is and he'll be itching to commit.
- When Gemini gets attached to you he'll be overly chatty, even slipping up and saying something inappropriate, or he'll clam up around you when he's normally laid back.