How to Not Look Too Obsessed over Your Crush

Co-authored by John Keegan

Last Updated: January 31, 2023

When you like a person you shouldn't look obsessed over them. Because if you look over obsessed then they will think you're over obsessed with them and they will try to stay away from you as much as possible without you even knowing it.

Steps

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Talk to them about themself. Try not to ask them too personal questions, as it might make them feel uncomfortable. If you ask questions such as "Where do you live?" or "How old is you sister again?", your crush may become uncomfortable. Keep it light with questions like, "You have any pets?" or "You like jazz?".
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Be friends with their friends. If their friends are your friends too, it gives you a reason to be around them. This is a great way to get to know your crush better and more importantly a great way for your crush to get to know you.

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Always try to make eye contact. People love it, but try not to make too much eye contact. It might make them feel like they're under a microscope.
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Joke around with them, but keep in mind, some people are more sensitive than others, so be careful of what you say. Start out with light jokes about everyday things or inside jokes you share. Over time you will begin to learn what they do and don't find funny.
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Be yourself. People are very good at noticing when someone is trying to be something they aren't, so just be yourself! Your crush will trust you more and feel more comfortable around you if you are honest about who you really are.
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Stay relaxed. If you're stressed out and worried about talking to/hanging out with your crush, take a deep breath and remember they are just a human too. You will be a lot more fun to be around if you appear calm and relaxed.
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Give hints and if they're not getting them, tell their best friends you like them or write them a note and put it in their locker.
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Feel confident. Be happy with your look and just go for it.
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Act silly and maybe they will too to make you even more comfortable around them.
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Focus on other things, too. Like schoolwork. If you get bad grades, they might think you're way too unfocused. Some people don't like that.
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Don't be too obsessive about talking to them. Let them talk to you or go a day or two without talking to them. If you sit at home waiting for them to get online and send them a message right away they may think you're being too clingy and creepy. Just resist talking to them for a while or wait for them to make the move.
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Don't text the person if they don't reply. Either they eventually will, or they're done talking or don't want to talk. Wait until a couple hours or a day later to send them a "Hey" or wait for them to talk to you.

Warnings

Don't act like someone you're not.

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Don't be focused on just them.

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Don't be too friendly or ask them personal questions.

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Don't be too tough on them.

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Don't be over obsessive.

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