No Need to Guess! 11 Signs to Know if a Guy Is Thinking About You

Co-authored by John Keegan

Last Updated: March 21, 2023 References

If there’s a special guy in your life, chances are he’s on your mind 24/7. So it’s perfectly natural for you to wonder whether or not he’s thinking of you. Fortunately, you don’t have to guess! There are actually plenty of ways you can figure out if a guy is thinking about you. To help you out, we’ve put together a list of signs and clues you can look for to tell you if he’s got you on his mind.

1

He texts you good morning and good night.

You’re on his mind day and night. If a guy sends you a good morning text, then you were one of the first things he thought about that day (he maybe even dreamt about you). A good night text is a clear message that you were on his mind as he was winding down his day and getting ready to go to sleep. Both messages are huge signs that the guy can’t stop thinking about you.^{[1]
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- It could be something simple like, “Good morning!” or something a little more flirty like, “Hey beautiful. Good morning.”
- Even if you haven’t talked much during the day, if a guy texts you, “Hey, hope you had a great day. Talk to you tomorrow,” it means he just couldn’t rest until he talked to you.

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He sends you random messages all day long.

It could be a sign that he can’t get you out of his head. While a message here and there may seem insignificant, it actually means that you were on his mind and he just had to reach out to you. It could be a meme, a short message, or even a link to an article or video, the point is that he wants you to know he was thinking about you.^{[2]
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- If he sends you a meme that is specific to your sense of humor, it means he saw it and immediately thought of you.
- If he sends you a link to an article, it’s likely that he read it and wanted to share it with you. That’s a pretty clear signal that he’s thinking of you!

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He asks you lots of questions.

It means he wants to get to know more about you. If he wants to know more about you, it’s likely that he’s been thinking about you.^{[3]
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Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.} He may also ask you questions or get your opinion about something to see what you think, which is another major clue that you’re often on his mind.^{[4]
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- If he says, “I was wondering what you like to do for fun. Do you have any hobbies?” then he was thinking of you and wanted to ask.
- It can be something small, too. If he says, “I love Buffalo wings with blue cheese, and I was wondering if you think they go together, too?” it means he was thinking about you and wanted to know your opinion!

4

He double-texts you.

If he’s got you on his mind, he won’t care how it looks. Double-texting, a.k.a. sending multiple texts in a row, is usually a no-no that can make you come off as too strong. But if a guy can’t stop thinking about you, chances are he won’t be self-conscious about messaging you back-to-back.^{[5]
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- If you’re into him, don’t leave him hanging! Message him back so he doesn’t feel like he’s putting himself out there for nothing.

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He likes and comments on your social media posts.

He wants you to know he's checking you out. If he likes a post or a picture you posted, then he’s obviously thinking of you because he saw your post. If he takes it a step further and comments on it, he may be trying to initiate a conversation or just send a clear signal that it left an impression on him.^{[6]
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- For instance, if he comments something like “Love this” or if he leaves a bunch of flame or heart emojis, then he definitely likes what he sees.
- If he likes or responds to an older post or picture, then he may have been thinking of you so much that he searched through your profile and couldn’t help but react.

6

He messages you when he’s with his friends.

He could easily just hang out with them instead. If you get a message from a guy while he’s with his buddies, that’s a big deal! It means that even while he’s spending time with his friends, you’re on his mind.^{[7]
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- If he says, “Hey what are you up to?” and you know he’s with his friends, try teasing him a bit with, “Not much, aren’t you supposed to be with your friends?” He might respond with something like, “Yeah, but I’d rather be with you.”

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He talks about how something reminded him of you.

He can’t help but think of you. If he messages you to say that he heard a song, saw a video, read an article, or was doing something that made him think of you, it’s not an accident. It means he’s been thinking of you and he had to tell you about it.^{[8]
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- For instance, if he says, “I was watching a movie the other day and it reminded me of the time we went to the theaters and I spilled my drink all over the seat!” it means you were on his mind even when he was doing something else.

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He remembers everything you tell him.

He listens and cares about you.^{[9]
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Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.} It’s easy enough for your friends to remember your birthday or what your favorite sports team is. But if a guy knows exactly how you like your eggs cooked or what books you like to read, it means he’s trying hard to know as much about you as possible, and you’re on his mind a lot. He also probably really likes you.^{[10]
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- For instance, if you get a message from a guy wishing you good luck on a test that you briefly mentioned to him before, it means he’s thinking of you.

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He surprises you with things you like.

He’s paying attention to you and your interests. If you get a gift from a guy that seems tailored to your interests, then he obviously thought of you whenever he saw it. He just had to get it and give it to you!^{[11]
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- For example, if you told a guy that your favorite TV show is Dr. Who, and he gets you a stuffed TARDIS as a gift, then he’s obviously paying attention to you and thinking about you!

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He tells you he misses you.

He really likes you and can’t stop thinking about you. Think about it: it’s a big deal to just come out and tell someone you miss them. If a guy says it to you, he likely means it. He’s probably had you on his mind all day long and he just had to tell you about it.^{[12]
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- If he says, “Hey, I miss you. How’s your day going?” or “I miss your face,” he’s definitely been thinking of you.

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He talks about future plans with you.

He may be thinking about you in the long term. If he talks about a new movie coming out that he wants to go see and he asks you if you’d be interested in going, it means he thinks of you as being present in his life in the future. If he has upcoming plans like a wedding or an office party, and he mentions that he’d like you to go with him, then it means that whenever he thinks about a date, he thinks of you!^{[13]
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- It may seem simple or like it’s not a big deal, but he’s talking about doing things with you weeks, months, or even years down the line, then you’re definitely on his mind.^{[14]
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