How to Look Sexy for a Guy

Co-authored by Janet Miranda and Amber Crain

Last Updated: February 26, 2023 References

If you want to look sexy for a guy, there are many options to choose from! Try applying a shimmery body lotion to your chest and shoulders to draw his eye. Keep your face makeup natural-looking, but put on matte red lipstick for a classic, sexy pout that will definitely get his attention. Wear a sheer or lacy top when you’re out together in public, then change into some hot lingerie when you get behind closed doors!

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Tweaking Your Beauty Routine

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Apply a shimmery body lotion or powder for a healthy glow. Subtle sparkle can make your skin look soft and touchable. Try applying a shimmery body lotion or powder to your chest and shoulders to draw your man’s eye to those areas. Look for the flavored variety if you want to taste as good as you look!^{[1]
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- Exfoliate your skin in the shower before applying the lotion for the best results.
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Experiment with natural-looking makeup. Try to avoid heavy layers of foundation and concealer, which tend to look cakey. Apply a light layer of foundation to even out your skin tone and dab a tiny bit of concealer on problem areas like breakouts and dark under-eye circles. Add rosy cream blush and highlighter to create a healthy, flushed look. Finish up with 1-2 coats of mascara.^{[2]
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- If you like wearing lip color, try a red matte lipstick or lip stain for a sexy pout.^{[3]
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- If you prefer to skip lip color, apply a little lip gloss to draw attention to your lips.
- If you use a holographic lip gloss that is very sticky, apply it lightly.
- You can apply it throughout the day.
- If you are out all day, you can take it with you and apply it three times a day, like in the morning, midday, and night.
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Try a bolder makeup look to enhance your favorite facial features. You certainly don't have to stick to natural-looking makeup if you don't want to! If you prefer a more glamorous or dramatic look, use makeup to play up your favorite features.
- For example, try cat-eye makeup or winged eyeliner for a sultry look.
- Emphasize your eyes even more by adding a few extra coats of mascara or applying false lashes.
- Play up your lips by tracing them with lip liner and applying a bold lip color.
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Create a loose, sexy hair style for a bedroom-ready look. If you have long hair and typically sport an updo, try wearing it loose around your shoulders for a change of pace. Use a little texturizing paste to create a messy, undone look. If you prefer updos, go for something soft and touchable, like a loose topknot.^{[4]
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- Hold your style in place with a quick spritz of hairspray. Don't overdo it, since you want your hair to be soft.
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Use pomade or hair wax on short hair for a tousled, sexy vibe. If your hair is cropped short, scoop up a dime-sized amount of pomade in your hand and rub your palms together to distribute the product. Rub your hands through dry, clean hair to distribute the pomade from root to tip. Then, twist pieces of hair or further manipulate them to complete your tousled bed-head look.^{[5]
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- Go with a matte wax if you want your finished style to look dry and soft. Avoid "wet-look" hair products like styling gel.
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Paint your nails red for a classically vampy look. Red tends to catch the eye and oozes sensuality. Give your fingernails 2 coats of a classic red polish to get this timeless look. Finish with a clear, quick-dry top coat to add shine and protect your freshly painted nails.^{[6]
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- If you’re wearing sandals or open-toed shoes, give your toenails a matching coat of red polish.

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Wearing Sexy Clothes

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Put on something red to catch his eye. Men tend to associate the color red with sex and passion, even if it’s just on a subconscious level. Studies have shown that wearing red can actually increase your sex appeal. Choose a red dress that hugs your curves, a silky red top, or even a red button-down to catch his eye.^{[7]
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Wear high heels to get his attention. Heels are visually stimulating, draw the eye, and can make your legs look longer and leaner. Heels can also subtly affect the way that you walk by increasing motion around the pelvis and hip areas. These small changes ultimately result in a sexy spring in your step that your guy is sure to notice.^{[8]
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- Heels also engage and lift your butt muscles while you’re wearing them, which is never a bad thing!^{[9]
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Choose loose, flowing clothes that skim your silhouette. Tight clothes will definitely get you noticed, but don’t underestimate the power of soft, flowing materials! Swing your hips a little as you walk so the material shifts and skims over the curves of your figure.
- For example, wear a flowy midi skirt with a soft, loose blouse made of silk.^{[10]
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- Opt for touchable materials like silk, satin, and chiffon.
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Go for a lacy or sheer top to show off your body. Try wearing a sheer blouse over a camisole to get your guy’s attention. You can pair the blouse with your favorite pair of jeans or a figure-hugging pencil skirt to complete your look.^{[11]
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- If sheer looks aren’t your thing, look for garments that incorporate lace, even if it’s just a little around the collar!
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Wear fitted pants and cool outerwear if you'd prefer. The pants can be jeans or trousers, depending on your personal style. Just make sure they fit you perfectly to show off your waist and backside! Then, top of your look with a smart-looking shirt or stylish jacket to complete your look.^{[12]
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- For example, try black skinny jeans with a black leather jacket for an edgy look.

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Looking Hot in the Bedroom

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Set the mood with dim lighting or candlelight. Dim lighting is automatically perceived as sexier and more intense. If you’re a little shy about showing off your body, flattering warm light, like candlelight, might up your confidence a bit. Low, warm lighting softens and blurs, and the flickering flames can add an air of mystery.^{[13]
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- Try lighting a few red pillar candles around your bed. If your bedroom light has a dimmer, put it on the lowest setting.
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Keep the lights on during sex. Many people feel shy about leaving the lights on during sex, which is completely normal. Try the dim lighting or candlelight to give you a little more confidence. Then, when it's almost time, don’t snuff the flames or flick off the lights like your normally would.^{[14]
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- Men tend to enjoy visual stimulation and your guy will love being able to see all of you!
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Smile and look deeply into his eyes. It may sound too simple to be effective, but eye contact can be utterly sexy. Look deeply into your guy’s eyes, smile softly, and go in for a passionate kiss. Pull back every few minutes to gaze into his eyes and smile again.^{[15]
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Get a professional fitting at a lingerie boutique. Before you start shopping for lingerie, drop by a local lingerie boutique and get your measurements taken by a professional. Getting measured by a professional will help you choose lingerie pieces that fit perfectly.^{[16]
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- Don't forget to write down the measurements for future reference! If you don't see anything in the store that appeals to you, having your measurements will make lingerie shopping online much easier.
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Shop for lingerie with a particular look or goal in mind. If you aren't sure where to start, ask a sales associate at the boutique to suggest styles that complement your measurements. Tell them what styles or looks you're interested in and they can help you choose the perfect pieces.^{[17]
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- For example, to create a vintage femme fatale look, try a 3-piece garter set: a silky bra, matching silk panties, and garter belt. Don't forget to buy stockings to go with the garter belt!
- If you want a racy, playful look, check out sheer bras, panties, and nighties.
- Avoid neutral tones and opt for bolder colors that make you feel sensual and gorgeous, like deep burgundy.
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Bring your guy lingerie shopping with you to find out what he likes. Most guys will be more than happy to go with you to a lingerie store. The experience will be fun and put you both into a sexy frame of mind! If your man is a bit shy, shop for lingerie online with him by your side.
- You could also snap pictures on your phone when you're shopping in-store to get his opinion.
- Find out the store's return policy before you make a purchase. That way, if you end up not liking the fit, you can bring the lingerie back and get something else.

Community Q&A

Question

What if I want him to think about me when he is far away?

Community Answer

If he really loves you, he should already me thinking about you. And you don't always have to be dressed up for him. Make him remember your quirky habits, and your jokes, and memories, and those will last longer than a dress you spent a hundred dollars on.
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What if I'm only 12?

Tamara

Top Answerer

If you are only 12, then have fun with your friends and family; there will be plenty of time to dress to attract boys in the future.
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How do I make them like me?

Community Answer

Be yourself, and if they don't connect with you, find another dude who appreciates you. Don't change yourself for anyone (not even the fittest boy in the club).