This article was co-authored by Eddy Baller. Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others.
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Kissing your partner's neck can be a cute way to show your affection, or it can be a sexy move that initiates foreplay and leads to something more. You can kiss your partner's neck in a variety of places and can even mix things up with licking and biting if the mood calls for it.
Steps
Prepare to Kiss Your Partner's Neck
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1Stroke your partner's neck with your fingers. Lightly stroke or massage your partner's neck with the tips of your fingers.[1] This will begin to turn on your partner and may even make her shiver with pleasure. Stroke the area that you plan to kiss and your partner will feel even more pleasure when you kiss her there.[2]
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2Kiss your partner on a sensitive part of her neck. One of the most sensitive parts of the neck is the where the neck connects with the shoulder and collarbone. Another sensitive part of the neck is the front left or right side. But almost any part of the neck is sensitive and susceptible to your kisses.[3]
- Use your body as you kiss your partner's neck. Don't just stand apart from your partner and lean in to kiss their neck. Instead, wrap your arms around them if you're facing them, or wrap your arms around them if you're kissing them from behind.[4]
Perform a Variety of Neck-Kissing Techniques
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1Wet your lips for a closed-mouth kiss. First, wet your lips with your tongue just enough so that they're soft. Then, gently kiss any part of your partner's neck with a closed mouth, as if you were giving your partner a close-mouthed kiss on the lips. You can start by kissing the area where your partner's neck meets her shoulders or collarbone, resting your lips on the curved groove.[5]
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2Kiss your partner's neck with an opened mouth. Slowly open your mouth in between kisses, and begin to kiss your partner's neck with an open mouth, separating your lips as you gently kiss her skin. You can also move up and down your partner's neck to add some variety.
- Breathe some hot air on your partner's neck in between kisses. This will drive your partner crazy with pleasure.
- If you're really getting into it, lick your partner's neck from the bottom to the top. Use only the tip of your tongue and be very gentle. Make sure your partner is enjoying this sensation.
- Do not do this if it's your first time kissing this person. Confirm it with them first if you're interested, but only do this if you've kissed their neck before or you have some experience with it. This goes for blowing air or using your tongue, and especially for biting and sucking. If it's your very first time, just stick with open and closed mouth kisses. Do this so that you and your partner can discuss anything else that the two of you would be interested in doing.
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3Slow down. Give your partner slow wet kisses so she can really feel the sensations. You can focus on kissing one area of the neck or move all around her neck. Try kissing near her ear -- this is another sensitive area. Blowing hot air near the ear will drive your partner wild as well.[6]
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4Suck gently on your partner's neck. Gently suck on your partner's neck for just one or two seconds at a time. Just don't do it too quickly or you'll leave a hickey, and your partner may not be into that. You can suck on your partner's neck in between close-mouthed or open-mouthed kisses.
- Be very careful of hickeys. Sucking and biting is very likely to result in a hickey, and that may get both of you in some very serious trouble.[7]
- You can also blow some cool air onto the spot that you sucked when you release your mouth.
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5Gently bite your partner's neck. After you've been kissing your partner's neck for a while, try gently biting her skin. If you're careful, you can bite a little bit of skin in between your teeth and gently lift it before lowering it. Remember to take it easy with this one -- at first, you may catch your partner by surprise.
Warnings
- If you want to bite your partner's neck, make sure to do it very, very gently. Not only will a rough bite to the neck be a turn off, but it could really hurt your partner.⧼thumbs_response⧽
References
- ↑ Eddy Baller. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 7 February 2020.
- ↑ https://www.healthywomen.org/content/article/erogenous-zones-you-might-be-neglecting
- ↑ https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/jsm.12547
- ↑ Eddy Baller. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 7 February 2020.
- ↑ https://www.theguardian.com/science/2013/sep/07/neuroscientists-sex-brain
- ↑ https://www.health.com/sex/erogenous-zones
- ↑ https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation-now/2016/08/31/can-a-hickey-kill-you-mexican-teen-reportedly-dies-hickey-blood-clot-stoke/89647568/
About This Article
To kiss a girl’s neck, wait until you’re both in the mood and you’ve got an opening. A perfect time is once you’ve already started making out. When the moment feels right, go in for the kiss, but take it slow. You want to be smooth about it so you’re not catching her off guard. Use light pressure so your kisses feel sensual, not sloppy, and don’t focus on one spot for too long. Make your way from one side of her neck to the other, and try switching things up occasionally by kissing her collarbone, shoulder, or ear. Pay attention to her body language and reaction as you go to figure out what she's into and what she doesn't like—every girl has different preferences! For more tips, including how to gently suck and bite your partner’s neck, read on!
