How to Hype a Girl Up over Text

Co-authored by Suzanna Mathews and Danielle Blinka, MA, MPA

Last Updated: November 21, 2021 References

Hyping up a girl can make her feel good about herself and excited about you. Fortunately, you don’t even have to be in the same room as a girl to get her stoked. With a few keystrokes, you can pump her up and have her thinking about you all day. We’ve compiled a bunch of tips to help you hype a girl up over text.

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Tell her you’re thinking about her.

This technique can work for anyone. Keep it vague if you don’t know her well. If you’ve been talking for a while, be more specific about what you’re thinking. Stick to a short, sweet message and wait for her to respond before texting again.^{[1]
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- You could text, “Your smile is on my mind today. I can’t wait to see it again.”

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Give her a compliment.

Go with a compliment if you want to make her feel special.^{[2]
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Expert Interview. 18 August 2021.} Instead of sending a generic “you’re beautiful” text, tell her specifically what’s special about her. Point out what makes her unique or call out a recent accomplishment she made.^{[3]
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- You might text, “Your legs looked great in that dress last night,” or “The way you’re hitting your goals is impressive. You’re one-of-a-kind.”^{[4]
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Tease her.

Teasing is a great way to keep your conversation playful. Phrase the teasing so that it comes off as a compliment. Use your teasing to draw attention to something you like about her.^{[5]
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- You could say something like, “Wow, what a nerd! I must have something for sexy librarians,” “Look at those cute freckles in your last selfie. I see you showing off,” or “You say you’re great at tennis, but I’ll bet I can beat you.”
- You could also try giving her a funny nickname as a way to tease her. Try something like, “shorty,” “squeak,” or “sexy-pants.”

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Remind her of something good from the past.

Bringing up an old memory is great for when you’ve hung out before. Pick a memory that’s funny or that highlights something special about her. Stick to something positive since you’re hyping her up. Attach a photo or meme related to the memory if you can.^{[6]
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- You might send a silly selfie from a party you both attended with the caption, “Remember the night you danced like Beyoncé and I fell on my butt? You’re amazing!”
- As another option, you could send a gif of someone sweating really hard with the caption, “I’m remembering last week when you nailed your presentation but I forgot half of mine.”

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Tell her a secret.

Open up about a secret when you're ready to get vulnerable with a girl. You don’t have to pick your closest held secret. Just share something that not many people know about you. Tell her that it’s a secret so she feels special that you’re opening up.^{[7]
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- Text something like, “You wanna know a secret? I only eat cupcakes that have chocolate icing,” or “Secret time! I read comic books when I can’t fall asleep.”

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Ask a question and guess the answer.

A pretend Q&A is a playful way to flirt with her.^{[8]
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Expert Interview. 18 August 2021.} Ask her a question about her plans, her goals, or things she likes. In the same text, guess an answer that compliments her in some way. Take it to the next level by gently leading her toward making plans by asking what she’s doing over the weekend.^{[9]
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- Text something like, “What are your plans this Friday? Let me guess, adding another 500 followers on TikTok,” or “Which bands do you like? Oh, I know! Your own band because you’re basically a rockstar already.”
- If you ask about her plans and she doesn’t have any, you might follow up with, “Want to get dinner this Friday?” or “Want to Netflix and chill at my place?”

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Tell her point-blank that you like her.

Do this if you're feeling bold and want to shoot your shot. Pick a time of day when she’s likely to be on her phone. Then, type up a short, direct declaration of like. Wait for her to respond before you text her again.^{[10]
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- Don’t overthink it. Just say, “I like you.” You might add, “Do you like me back?”
- As another option, send her a meme or gif with hearts.
- You could also get creative! Text her a pic of a doodle with both of your initials written inside it or short love poem.

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Ask her how she feels so you can be there for her.

Discuss her feelings if you want to show her you’re deep. Ask her about her day and what’s been happening in her life. Listen to what she’s going through right now and offer her support as words of encouragement.^{[11]
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- You might start with, “How’s your day going?” or “How was class?”
- When she responds, say something like, “It sounds like you’re really killing it today! Keep it going,” or “I’m sorry things are so hard for you today. I’m here if you need to talk. Just know that I believe in you!”

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Send her a "good morning" text.

Use a "good morning" text to make her think about you all day. Write a simple greeting to make her smile when she wakes up. As another option, send her a quote or song lyric that makes you think about her. Take it to the next level by sending her "good morning" texts several days in a row.^{[12]
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- Text, “Good morning, love! The sun is shining as bright as you are today,” or “Good morning! I hope today is amazing!”
- If you want to use a quote or song lyric, you might text, “I found a love just for me, Oh darling just dive right in, follow my lead. Good morning!” or “Good morning! In the words of George Sand, ‘There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.”

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Describe a sexy scenario.

Get sexy when you’ve both been flirting for a while. Explain something you want to do with her. Tell her she gets you so hot she’s all you can think about. Include sensory details to really create an impression on her.^{[13]
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- You might text something like, “I can’t wait to finally feel your soft lips on mine. I want to taste your strawberry lip gloss and smell your perfume. You’re all I can think about today.”

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Send a sexy photo.

A sexy photo is a great idea if you’ve been in a relationship for a while. Time the photo so she’ll receive it when she can check her messages discreetly. Include a caption telling her she makes you feel hot.^{[14]
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- For instance, you might send a semi-nude photo with the caption, “I started thinking about you, and my shirt came off.”
- Remember to keep the focus on her since you’re trying to hype her up.
- If your relationship is new, hold off on sending sexy photos until you’re both ready. Otherwise, you might derail your budding romance.

Expert Q&A

Question

How do you make a move on a girl that is your friend?

Suzanna Mathews
Dating & Relationship Coach
Suzanna Mathews is a Dating and Relationship Coach and the Founder of The Date Maven. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in creating mindset tools, social strategies, and digital strategies that help her clients elevate dating and deepen connections. Suzanna holds a BA in Communications from Bethel College, North Newton, and an MA in Theater and Dramatic Arts from Wichita State University.

Suzanna Mathews

Dating & Relationship Coach

Expert Answer

First flirt with her, since the core of flirting is simply playfulness. It's having fun, it's building a connection that even if it doesn't lead anywhere, so both people kind of uplifted and smiled and felt a little bit better and like they had a good time. Then be a little more direct and drop different kinds of hints and make all kinds of gestures.