How to Find Out Where Your Crush Lives

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Last Updated: June 28, 2020 References

Having a crush is exciting, but it can be difficult to get to know your crush. You might want to send them a card or invitation. If you’re really brave, you might even want to pay them a surprise visit with some flowers. Finding out where your crush lives without being too obvious can be challenging.

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Taking a Direct Approach

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Ask them casually. If you are already somewhat comfortable talking to your crush, it will be easiest just to ask them where they live. Keep it light, and ask them in a way that isn’t too obvious.
- Try framing the question around yourself. Say something like, “Oh, I live on First Street! What area of the city do you live in?”
- If you know they grew up in your city, you can ask, “What area of town did you grow up in?” Then follow up with, “Do you still live in the same place?”
- Fit it into conversation. Before you ask your crush where they live, start a fun conversation.^{[1]
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  Research source} Use it to flirt and ask them other questions, too, like what kind of food and music they like. This will make asking for where they live just another fun question.
- It might help to talk to your crush over online chat or through text message. If you do this, you’ll be less nervous about starting a conversation.^{[2]
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  Research source} Plus, if they tell you their address, you’ll have it in writing with no risk of forgetting.
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Ask friends. If any of your friends know your crush, first see if they know where your crush lives.
- See if you know anyone that’s attended a birthday party at your crush’s house or studied with them.
- If none of your friends have been to your crush’s house, see if they have any friends that know your crush. If they do, they can ask their friends for you. That way, your crush won’t know that you’re trying to find out where they live.
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Ask your crush’s friends. If none of your friends really know your crush, you might consider asking some of your crush’s friends.
- First, pick one of their friends who seems like a nice and trustworthy person. It helps if this is at least an acquaintance of yours. Don’t pick their best friend, as this person is most likely to tell your crush that you asked where they lived.
- Send them a quick text or message. Say something like, “Hey! I really like Jessica, but I’m too nervous to tell her yet. I was just wanted to ask you where they lived! Thanks!” If you can, include your reason for wanting to know. For example, “I’d really like to be able to mail her a card!”
- Ask the person not to tell your crush that you asked.

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Taking an Indirect Approach

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Use an invitation to get their address. This is perfect if you’re having a birthday soon. Throw a party, and tell everyone that you want their addresses so that you can send fun paper invitations with all the party details.
- Send a group message to all your party invites asking for their addresses.^{[3]
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  Research source} It will take the pressure off of asking your crush specifically. Even if you don’t have your crush’s phone number, you can easily add them to a Facebook group message. Let everyone know they can send you their address in a personal message to keep it private. If your crush doesn’t give you their address, this could be a sign that they’re not interested.
- Get a friend to ask. If you’re really nervous about asking for addresses, have a friend handle your party invites for you as your present. That way, they can get your crush’s address, and it won’t be awkward for you.
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Find out their mode of transportation. If your crush doesn’t drive their own car, whether they take the city bus, a school bus, or a train home from school could tell you what area they live in.
- Ask a friend if they’ve noticed how your crush leaves school.
- If you can, indirectly ask your crush how they get home. Say something like, “Oh, do you take the bus?” If they don’t, they’ll probably tell you how they do get home. Maybe follow up by asking how long it takes them to get home.
- If they take a city bus or train, you can look up the line to see what direction it goes.
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Sneak a peak at their driver’s license. If you’re both over 16, ask to see their driver’s license in a funny way. This works well if you’ve both just gotten your licenses.
- First, show them how embarrassing you think your picture is and tell them the story of your driver’s test. Bonus, this gives them a chance to tell you how cute they think you are.
- Then, ask to see your crush’s license. As you tease them for their picture, take a glance at their address. Make a mental note to look it up later, or pretend you are texting and make a quick note in your phone.
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Offer to pick them up. If you both have mutual friends or participate in the same extracurricular activities, see if they want to ride with you to a practice or group hangout.
- If they say yes, they’ll have to give you their address so that you’ll know where to pick them up.
- Take two friends. If you’re not comfortable asking your crush if they want to carpool alone with you, frame your invite like this: “Hey Jessica! My friends Steve, Ally, and I are carpooling to the event together tomorrow! We have one extra seat. Want to come with?” This works best with an event or practice that you already know your crush is planning to attend.

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Using Online Resources

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Look at their locations. Various social media applications allow you to tag your location, so there’s a chance your crush might have tagged their home.
- Look at Instagram maps.^{[4]
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  Research source} Instagram allows you to tag your location, so go to their profile and check their maps for the places they’ve taken the most pictures. Start with the selfies, as these are likely to have been taken at their home.
- Check out their pictures. If you live in a smaller town, see if you notice any familiar landmarks. If your crush has a picture with their house in the background, look closely to see if you recognize it.
- See where they’ve checked in. Look at their Facebook to see if they use apps like Foursquare.^{[5]
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  Research source} This probably won’t lead you to their address. However, by seeing the places they frequent, you might get an idea of the area of your city that they live in.
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Check a directory. School or church directories often list the contact information of their members. These may be digital or physical directories. Look for them by their last name.
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Look up your crush’s parents. This will make it easier to find out where your crush lives. Use online and physical phone books.
- If you don’t know the full names of your crush’s parents, look on Facebook. Chances are that you kind find them by looking for people with the same last name as your crush in their friends list.

Warnings

Be careful when talking to too many of your crush’s friends, if you’ve never talked to your crush before. You don’t want to come across as creepy!

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Showing up at someone's house unexpectedly is usually not a good idea. If you're going to show up at someone's house, call first. If you want to surprise them, try messaging their parents.

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