How to Answer when Your Crush Asks You a Strange Question

Co-authored by Eddy Baller

Last Updated: March 5, 2023 References

It’s an exciting feeling to talk to your crush, but sometimes things can get awkward and uncomfortable. When your crush asks you a strange question, you might feel embarrassed or self-conscious. This is totally normal! If this happens, the key is to answer the question gracefully and get out of the situation quickly.

Method 1

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Buying More Time

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Pause. Don’t feel like you have to respond right away. Take a few seconds to collect your thoughts and take a deep breath. If the question is really awkward and strange, you want some time to respond appropriately. It can be awkward if you say something that doesn’t make sense!^{[1]
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Smile. If you like this person, you should give them the benefit of the doubt that their question wasn’t supposed to make you uncomfortable. Don’t become cold or angry immediately. Smile and indicate that you still like this person and want to work out this awkwardness.^{[2]
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Ask for clarification. If you want to buy even more time, ask your crush for clarification on what they asked you and why they asked. Here are some example questions:
- What did you say?
- What do you mean by that?
- Why are you asking?

Method 2

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Dodging the Question

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Laugh it off. Assume that your crush is making a weird, not funny joke. Give them a chuckle and then move on. Smile at the person and laugh a little bit in a natural way.
- This strategy works especially well for questions that seem to be teasing and/or not really serious. If your crush asks you if you have ten kittens in your backpack, they’re probably not being serious. Questions like this seem strange but might just be bad jokes.
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Joke around. Take a second and ask yourself if your crush could have been joking. Could they want you to say something strange back? Have they done this before? Try to find a way that their statement could be a joke and then respond accordingly.
- If your crush asks you, “Have you ever been to the Moon?”, say, “Yes, I have. Just got back this morning!”
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Tell the person that you don’t want to answer that question. If your crush asks you something too personal, tell them that you don’t want to answer that.
- Say, “I don’t really want to answer that question.” You could also try, “I’m not going to answer that.” Be firm but not mean.
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Say you don’t know. If it’s a personal question, saying “I don’t know” indicates that you don’t want to answer it. If it’s not a personal question about you, just say you don’t know the answer. It’s truthful and ends the conversation quickly.
- For example, if your crush asks you, “How loudly do you snore at night?”, tell them that you don’t know because you are asleep.^{[3]
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- Or, if your crush asks you what the capital of a faraway country is, say you don’t know (if you actually don’t know).
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Tell them that the question made you uncomfortable, if this is applicable. If your crush asks you something really rude or disrespectful, you should tell them that their question made you uncomfortable. If the person is worth dating, they will respect you and try to understand your point of view.
- You can say, “That question makes me uncomfortable, and I don’t want to answer it. Please don’t ask me questions like this again.”
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Ask them about something else. Change the subject quickly. Do not feel the need to continue having this strange conversation. Ask your crush about a common interest of yours, their school or workplace, the weather, current events, or anything else that interests either you or your crush.^{[4]
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- You can also say that you have to go. Make up an excuse to get out of the situation. You do not have to stay if you feel disrespected or uncomfortable.

Method 3

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Making Your Crush Feel Comfortable

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Initiate a different conversation. Maybe your crush asked an awkward question in an effort to talk to you or get to know you, but they didn’t know exactly what to say. Initiate a new conversation with your crush where you talk about something that you actually do want to talk about. Initiating conversations show people that you’re interested in them and want to get to know them more.^{[5]
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- What did you do this weekend? What are your plans this upcoming weekend?
- Do you have any pets?
- What’s your favorite subject in school? Why?
- If you could have any superpower, what would it be? Why?
- What’s your favorite food?
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Use positive, open body language. Your body language says a lot about you in social situations. If you want to make your crush feel more comfortable, you should make an effort to ensure that your body language is welcoming. Here are some tips to do this:
- Smile.
- Maintain good eye contact with the person.
- Uncross your arms if they are crossed. Turn towards the person.
- Nod while the person speaks.^{[6]
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Give your crush a compliment. Compliments make people feel appreciated. While your crush is talking, think about what you like about them. Give them an unusual, thoughtful compliment.^{[7]
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- “I really like the way you tell stories. You always make them funny and have great timing.”
- “I loved what you said in class about psychology! You brought a really unique perspective to the conversation.”
- “Those socks are great! Did you buy them because you like avocados?”

Warnings

If the question is "strange" insofar as it is too intimate, embarrassing, or it makes you uncomfortable, it is important to consider why you are interested in this person.

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Don't compromise yourself to impress a crush. If he acts in a way that is weird or perverted, don't tolerate it just because you think he's cute or cool or popular.

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