How to Act Perky

Last Updated: February 27, 2023 References

There are many benefits to being a perky person. Having a cheerful, energetic persona can help you maintain positive social relations and impress people on a professional level. If you want to act perky, first work on thinking positive. From there, take measures to up your overall energy level. Lastly, try to interact with others in a positive, happy fashion.

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Interacting with Others in a Positive Fashion

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Seek out positive people. If you want to be perky, a positive attitude is key. Seek to surround yourself with positive, happy people. You'll end up feeling happier and, as a result, acting perkier.^{[1]
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- Make plans with people who have positive attitudes. Make plans with the co-worker who always brings in muffins on a Wednesday.
- Call family members you can count on to have a positive attitude. If your mom is always looking on the bright side of life, give her a call every Sunday to keep your spirits up.
- Avoid friends who are negative. You do not have to end these friendships. However, try not to engage with complaining or other negative thought patterns.
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Listen actively. If you want to come off as perky, active listening can help. Active listening is a form of listening that encourages mutual understanding. It can also make you look more alert and engaged with another person, allowing you to come off as perky.
- As the speaker talks, offer verbal and non-verbal cues that you are paying attention. Smile, nod, and offer responses like, "Yes" and "Uh-huh" on occasion.
- When the speaker finishes talking, reiterate what was just said. Summarize the main points the speaker made to assure that you understood. For example, "I'm hearing that you feel stressed because you have a deadline coming up at work."
- Do not plan what you have to say ahead of time. Simply listen to the speaker, giving him or her your full attention.
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Engage in positive gossip. Gossip has a bad reputation, but positive gossip can actually be helpful to your relationships with others. Perky people are thought of as cheerful and positive. Always saying nice things about others can help you be perkier.
- When you hear someone engaging in negative talk about a friend or co-worker, try to turn the conversation to the positive. For example, someone says something like, "Did you hear Patrick having a screaming fight with his dad on the phone before class yesterday?" Respond with something like, "Patrick is such a nice person! I hope he can work out his family problems."^{[2]
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- Positive gossip can encourage others to look for the best in those around them. It can improve your relationships at work and in your social circle. It can also make you come across as an upbeat person, adding to your perky image.^{[3]
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Disengage with negative people. Just as positivity is infectious, negativity can spread as well. If you want to act perky, you have to work actively to shut out those around you who drain your energy. Find ways to disengage with negative people so you can keep your positive, peppy attitude.
- Never engage in negativity. If someone is complaining continually about a problem or issue, disengage as soon as you can. Say something like, "I'm sorry you feel that way. I hope it gets better." Then, end the conversation.
- When you're around people who have a negative outlook, stick to lighter topics. Talk about the weather and TV shows rather than anything heavy. A negative person is likely to put a pessimistic spin on bigger issues, so avoid talking about your personal or professional life with negative people.
- Be mindful of how much time you spend with negative people. The people you spend the most of your time with should bring you up and not down. Seek to lessen contact with people who are consistently negative thinkers.

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Increasing Your Overall Energy Level

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Maintain a regular sleep schedule. If you want to be perky, you'll need to have a high overall energy level. Work on maintaining a regular sleep schedule. This will help you get a better night's rest.
- Go to bed and get up on roughly the same time each day. Your body runs on a circadian rhythm that adjusts to a regular schedule. If you set your bedtime for 11 PM each day, and your wake-up time for 8 AM, your body will wake up and fall asleep naturally at those times.^{[4]
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- Have a bedtime ritual. This can help signal to your body that it's time for sleep. Do something relaxing before bed. Take a warm bath, read a book, or have a small snack.^{[5]
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- Avoid going on your computer or phone close to bedtime. The light emitted by electronic screens stimulates brain activity, making sleep difficult.^{[6]
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Up your magnesium intake. Magnesium is an important vitamin to a balanced diet. Upping your magnesium levels can increase your overall energy. It can increase your heart rate and oxygen levels, resulting in higher overall energy.^{[7]
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- Women should get 300 milligrams of magnesium a day. Men should strive for 350 milligrams. You should talk to your doctor about healthy ways to reach these levels.^{[8]
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- Foods high in magnesium include hazelnuts, cashews, whole grains, and bran-based products. Halibut is also high in magnesium.^{[9]
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Move throughout the day. If you feel tired during the day, take a short walk. This can increase your energy level, leaving you perkier. At work, take a 15 minute break to take a brisk walk around the block. Taking short 10 to 15 minute walks throughout the day can help boost your energy level. You should also strive for regular physical activity.^{[10]
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- Try to exercise for 20 to 30 minutes at least 3 times a week.^{[11]
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- Pick a form of exercise you enjoy. If you loathe running, you'll struggle to stay on a schedule. If a long bike ride is incredibly relaxing for you, try biking instead.
- Talk to your doctor before starting a new exercise regimen. You want to make sure you do not strain yourself.
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Eat breakfast. Many Americans skip breakfast, but if you want to be perky, breakfast is a must. Low-energy and poor performance at work and school are linked to skipping breakfast. You'll have more energy and be in a better mood if you eat breakfast every day.^{[12]
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- Pick a healthy breakfast. Go for something like oatmeal, whole grain cereal, or yogurt and fruit.
- If you don't have time for a sit down breakfast, at least grab something small. Even a piece of fruit or bread is better than nothing. Grab a banana on your way out the door in the morning.
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Reduce stress. Stress is a major drain on energy. If you're constantly stressed out, you're unlikely to come off as perky. If you have a high overall stress level, your energy can deplete quickly. Look into ways to reduce stress in order to increase energy.^{[13]
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- Meditation, deep breathing, and yoga are all great activities that help you better manage your stress. Look into medication and yoga classes in your area. You can also find guided routines online.
- If you have trouble managing stress on your own, consider talking to a psychiatrist or therapist. Many mental health disorders, like generalized anxiety disorder, are marked by an inability to cope with stress. You can find a therapist through your insurance or by asking for a referral from your regular doctor. If you are a student, you may be entitled to free counseling through your college or university.
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Drink more water. Sometimes, mild dehydration can drain energy. This can lead to you behaving in a less than perky manner. Work on drinking water throughout the day. Keep a cool glass of water near you desk at the office. Carry a water bottle around throughout your day. If you feel yourself getting tired, sip on some water and see if you notice a difference.^{[14]
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- Bring a water bottle with you to work or school. Take a sip when you find yourself getting thirsty.
- Drink a glass of water with each meal. If you exercise, make sure to stop and drink water throughout your workout.
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Go for whole grains over sugar. Oftentimes, the food we eat is high in sugar. White breads and pastas are often high in added sugar. Sugar and refined grains can deplete energy, robbing you of the ability to act perky.^{[15]
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- Go for whole grains over processed grains whenever possible. Select wheat bread over white bread on a sandwich, for example. Swap out normal noodles for spaghetti with whole grain noodles.
- Read labels. A lot of products, like canned pasta sauce and spread for bread, are surprisingly high in added sugar. Make sure you're not inadvertently consuming high amounts of sugar from unexpected sources.

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Changing Your Behavior with Positive Thinking

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Engage in positive self-talk. The mind is a busy place. You likely engage in self-talk all the time, even on an unconscious level. When you screw something up at work, for example, you may immediately begin to beat yourself up. If you want to appear more perky, taking control of your internal monologue can help. Start engaging in positive self-talk to develop a perkier persona.^{[16]
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- Do not say anything to yourself you would not say to another person. If you find yourself beating yourself up, pause and think about what you are saying. What would you say to a friend or loved one in a similar position?^{[17]
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- For example, say you miss a deadline at work. You had a stressful week emotionally, and your job fell to the wayside. You may say to yourself, "What's wrong with you? You should be more responsible." Stop. What would you say to a friend in this situation? You would probably tell a friend something like, "Everyone makes mistakes. This isn't a reflection of you. Try not to hold onto it and just do better next time."
- Be as gentle and encouraging with yourself as you would with others. When facing setbacks or difficulties, say nice things to yourself. Reaffirm your good qualities. For example, say something like, "You made a mistake, but this isn't a reflection of you. I know you'll do better tomorrow."^{[18]
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Identify negative thought patterns. People tend to engage in negative, and often irrational, thought patterns throughout the day. You may be guilty of certain black-and-white thinking patterns that skew your perception, resulting in a negative overall attitude. If you want to be more perky, work on identifying and abandoning negative thoughts.
- Many people engage in filtering. This means you magnify negative aspects of a situation while ignoring the positive ones. For example, three co-workers complimented on your new haircut but you overheard one co-worker making a catty comment. While the majority of people were nice, you may latch on to the negative comment.^{[19]
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- You may also personalize problems. If something negative occurs, for example, you may blame yourself. A friend fails to return a call and you assume it's something you've done when, in reality, a variety of factors can affect someone's ability to answer phone calls.^{[20]
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- You may also be guilty of catastrophizing or polarizing issues. For example, if you have a bad morning, you assume the rest of your day will be a disaster. Your co-worker disagrees with you on how to pursue a project. You see your side as the right side, without recognizing the middle ground.^{[21]
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- If you catch yourself engaging in any of the above thought patterns, try to stop yourself. Remind yourself that many people get trapped in negative thought patterns, which are almost always irrational. Recognizing thought patterns as they're happening can increase your overall energy, making you a more energetic, cheerful person.^{[22]
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Check yourself throughout the day. If you want to be perky, you have to actively work towards a positive attitude. Throughout the day, check yourself. Stop and evaluate what you're thinking. Are you engaging in negative thoughts? Are you being too hard on yourself? If so, try to do some positive self-talk to get back on the track to perkiness.^{[23]
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- Many setbacks can occur from one day to the next. For example, say you are 5 minutes late for work due to an accident on the highway. You may find yourself thinking, "I should have woken up earlier. I could have avoided this setback. Why am I so unmotivated?"
- Stop and imagine another person in this scenario. What would you say to that person? Try to say that to yourself. For example, take a deep breath and think, "I am not normally late, and these were unforeseen circumstances. No one is perfect and I'm allowed to have the occasional mix up."
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Have a sense of humor. Humor can be a great way to cultivate a cheerful attitude. If you want to be perky, learning to laugh at life's trials and tribulations can help. Work on making jokes throughout the day.^{[24]
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- If something goes wrong, try to crack a joke. If you spill coffee on your keyboard at work, for example, joke about your clumsy nature. Laughing off troubling times can help you feel perkier.
- Try to watch humorous films and TV shows. If you saturate yourself in humorous material, it's likely to rub off on you. You'll be able to make jokes in your day-to-day life more easily.
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Change how you carry yourself. Sometimes, small physical changes can actually alter your thinking. Carrying yourself in a more confident matter can make you feel more sure of yourself. This can make you more perky.
- Smile. It's a small change, but a powerful one. Many studies indicate that smiling actually affects your mood. If you smile, you will feel happier.^{[25]
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- Sit up straight. Your posture also has a profound effect on your mood and overall perkiness. Sitting up straight throughout the day can lead to a higher overall energy level, resulting in a perkier attitude.^{[26]
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- Adopt a power stance. If you carry your body in a way that conveys confidence, you'll feel perkier. Lean back when sitting down. When standing, place your feet flat on the floor, push your shoulders back, and move your chest forward.^{[27]
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Expert Q&A

Question

How do you recognize when you're having negative thoughts?

Jennifer McVey, Cht
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Jennifer McVey is a Spiritualist, Seer, and the Spiritual Director of Spiritual Answers and Solutions. With more than 22 years of experience, she specializes in manifesting, ghosts and spirit attachments, hypnotherapy, channeling, and spiritually based life coaching. Jennifer has also published 13 Affirmation Image and six Word Search Puzzle books in spirituality and self-help and has produced over 600 audio sessions.

Jennifer McVey, Cht

Spiritual Director

Expert Answer

Check in with yourself to see what you're thinking and feeling! Your emotions are messengers that are reminding you to look at your thoughts, and they help you recognize when you need to make a change or think differently.

Warnings

If you find yourself feeling consistently low-energy, consider visiting a doctor to have your thyroid checked. Hypothyroidism, a condition that reduces thyroid function, can lead to feelings of lethargy.

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