This article was co-authored by Christina Jay, NLP and by wikiHow staff writer, Glenn Carreau. Christina Jay is a Matchmaker and Certified Life Coach based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Christina is the founder of Preferred Match (preferredmatch.ca), her matchmaking service that finds love for successful and elite individuals. She has over 10 years of coaching experience, earned her NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) certification through NLP Canada Training, and has a BA in Business Administration from Brock University.
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Breakups can be tricky to navigate when you have to see your ex around work or school all the time. It may be impossible to avoid being in the same room and even talking to your ex, but there are ways to make each encounter less painful. With some confidence and poise, you can skillfully manage interactions with your ex, whether you're trying to get over them, stay friends, or get back together!
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QuestionHow should I act around my ex if we have kids together?Christina Jay, NLPChristina Jay is a Matchmaker and Certified Life Coach based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Christina is the founder of Preferred Match (preferredmatch.ca), her matchmaking service that finds love for successful and elite individuals. She has over 10 years of coaching experience, earned her NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) certification through NLP Canada Training, and has a BA in Business Administration from Brock University.
Matchmaker & Certified Life CoachIf you have kids with your ex and have to stay in each other’s lives, act civil around them. Try not to pry into their personal life too much, like who they are dating now.
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- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-fitness/201109/10-tips-help-you-deal-your-ex
- ↑ https://www.glamour.com/story/the-8-step-program-for-attendi
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-fitness/201109/10-tips-help-you-deal-your-ex
- ↑ https://www.teenvogue.com/story/how-to-deal-with-seeing-your-ex-at-school
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-fitness/201109/10-tips-help-you-deal-your-ex
- ↑ https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/boundaries-expectations/
About This Article
It can be difficult to spend time around your ex, but you can make it less painful by keeping your conversations light and not talking about your relationship issues. One way to keep yourself emotionally distanced from your ex is to treat them as if they are a colleague. Avoid bringing up long-simmering issues you have with them since that will only make things awkward or even lead to a fight. Instead, have a respectful conversation about something basic, like sports or the weather. If you have to be around your ex at work or school, make a pledge to stay professional and keep all personal discussions with them outside the workplace. For more help from our co-author, like how to meet your ex’s new partner, read on.