This article was co-authored by Asa Don Brown, PhD, DNCCM, FAAETS and by wikiHow staff writer, Madeleine Criglow. Dr. Asa Don Brown is a Clinical Psychologist with over 25 years of experience. He specializes in working with families, children, and couples, treating a variety of psychological disorders, trauma, and abuse. Dr. Brown has specialized in negotiation and profiling. He is also a prolific author having published three books and numerous articles in magazines, journals, and popular publications. Dr. Brown earned a BS in Theology and Religion with a minor in Marketing and an MS in Counseling with a specialization in Marriage and Family from The University of Great Falls. Furthermore, he received a PhD in Psychology with a specialization in Clinical Psychology from Capella University. He is also a candidate for a Masters of Liberal Arts through Harvard University. Dr. Brown is a Fellow of the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress and a Diplomate for the National Center for Crisis Management and continues to serve a number of psychological and scientific boards.
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Nearly everyone gets defensive sometimes. People have an instinctual need to defend themselves, and that can come out in even the most unexpected times. If you struggle with defensiveness, you might have realized that it can sometimes put a strain on your relationships with your family, friends, and coworkers. This article is here to help you understand the root cause of your defensiveness so that you can make changes going forward.[1]
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QuestionWhat are examples of defensive behavior?Asa Don Brown, PhD, DNCCM, FAAETSDr. Asa Don Brown is a Clinical Psychologist with over 25 years of experience. He specializes in working with families, children, and couples, treating a variety of psychological disorders, trauma, and abuse. Dr. Brown has specialized in negotiation and profiling. He is also a prolific author having published three books and numerous articles in magazines, journals, and popular publications. Dr. Brown earned a BS in Theology and Religion with a minor in Marketing and an MS in Counseling with a specialization in Marriage and Family from The University of Great Falls. Furthermore, he received a PhD in Psychology with a specialization in Clinical Psychology from Capella University. He is also a candidate for a Masters of Liberal Arts through Harvard University. Dr. Brown is a Fellow of the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress and a Diplomate for the National Center for Crisis Management and continues to serve a number of psychological and scientific boards.
Clinical PsychologistPeople communicate their defensiveness in a variety of ways, including: aggression, blaming, bringing up another's own past deeds or personal conduct, gaslighting, hostility, oppositional behaviors, righteous indignation, and quiet or muted communication.
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- ↑ https://www.abc.net.au/everyday/why-we-get-defensive-and-how-to-try-a-different-approach/11295736
- ↑ Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW. Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 30 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/16036/reasons-why-people-get-defensive/
- ↑ https://www.abc.net.au/everyday/why-we-get-defensive-and-how-to-try-a-different-approach/11295736
- ↑ Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW. Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 30 September 2021.
- ↑ https://nickwignall.com/defensiveness/
- ↑ Asa Don Brown, PhD, DNCCM, FAAETS. Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 3 February 2022.
- ↑ https://nickwignall.com/defensiveness/
- ↑ https://www.psychalive.org/anxious-avoidant-attachment/
- ↑ Asa Don Brown, PhD, DNCCM, FAAETS. Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 3 February 2022.
- ↑ https://www.abc.net.au/everyday/why-we-get-defensive-and-how-to-try-a-different-approach/11295736
- ↑ https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/16036/reasons-why-people-get-defensive/
- ↑ https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/16036/reasons-why-people-get-defensive/
- ↑ Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW. Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 30 September 2021.
- ↑ Asa Don Brown, PhD, DNCCM, FAAETS. Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 3 February 2022.
- ↑ https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-defensiveness/
- ↑ Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW. Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 30 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-defensiveness/
- ↑ https://nickwignall.com/defensiveness/
- ↑ https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/personality-disorders/symptoms-causes/syc-20354463
- ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9742-narcissistic-personality-disorder