If you found a new guy that you really like, it can be tempting to blurt out your feelings and tell him how much you like him. However, for some guys, that can be a little intimidating, and it might cause them to pull away from the relationship. Fortunately, there are a few ways you can express yourself without scaring a guy off. Keep reading to learn how you can tell a guy you like him without sending him running for the hills.

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Flirt a little.

  1. Drop some hints that you like him without directly saying it. You can laugh at his jokes, give him a few compliments, or even tell him you think he’s cute. If he’s paying attention, he’ll get the message that you like him.[1]
    • Other things you can do to be flirtatious include making eye contact, leaning toward him when he's talking, or playing with your hair.[2]
    • This is a super subtle approach, so he might not get the message (especially if he’s bad at picking up on hints). You can try flirting for a little while, but you may need to switch to a more direct approach eventually.
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Touch his shoulder or his hand.

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Make it into a joke.

  1. You can use this method if you want to keep it super casual. Try something like, “I wouldn’t want you to get a crush on me.” When you two are out together, try inserting this line in if he asks you to sit closer to him or give you a hug.[9]
    • If he invites you out for dinner, you could say something like, “Watch out—if we do that, people might think we’re dating!”
    • Or, if you two just hung out together alone, you could say, “If we keep seeing each other like this, I might just start to like you.”
    • If you’re trying to keep things super casual, only joke about it once or twice while you’re together. If you keep pressing it, he could get scared off.
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Just tell him.

  1. If your hints aren’t working, this might be your best bet. Stay cool and confident so you don’t come across as needy. Some guys get scared off when they hear you like them because it seems like you’re putting them on a pedestal. However, if you walk up to him confidently and lay your feelings out on the table, he won’t be afraid to keep a relationship going with you.[11] [12]
    • Try something like, “I think you’re pretty cool, and I’d love to keep hanging out with you.”
    • Or, “I’d like to see where this goes, if that’s okay with you.”
    • If you know he gets scared off easily, stay away from anything too intense, like “I have feelings for you” or “I think I’m falling in love with you.”
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Accept whatever he says.

  1. Try not to take a rejection personally. If you express your feelings toward him and he doesn’t feel the same way, that’s okay! It just means you two weren’t meant to be together. If he doesn’t like you back, try to take it in stride and move onto the next guy.[13]
    • If he isn’t ready to commit yet, he might tell you that he likes you but he isn’t ready for a relationship. It’s up to you whether you want to wait for him to be ready or just move on.
    • He also might say that he likes you back, which is great! You can ask him out on a date to keep the relationship going.
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Cher Gopman
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This article was co-authored by Cher Gopman and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post. This article has been viewed 12,878 times.
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