Getting a new girlfriend is super exciting (but also a little nerve wracking). If you’re new to the dating game or this is your first relationship, figuring out how to push through that initial awkwardness with your first partner can be tough. Fortunately, with enough time and a little effort on your part, you can form a deep connection with your girlfriend and feel totally comfortable around her in no time!

This article is based on an interview with our professional dating and relationship coach, Mark Rosenfeld, founder of Make Him Yours. Check out the full interview here.

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Talk to your girlfriend often.

  1. You can do it in person, over text, or even through a video call. The more you two talk and get to know each other, the less awkward you’ll both feel. Plus, texting and video calling while you aren’t together can help create inside jokes and experiences that you can refer to in-person. You might even try scheduling a time to talk to her, like when you get back home from school or finish work.[1]
    • Your conversations might start out a little bit surface level at first, which is fine! Over time, you’ll get deeper and deeper as you get to know each other more.
    • Spice things up by sending her a voice message instead of a plain old text message. It will add some variety to your chats, and she can hear your tone of voice as you speak, too.[2]
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Think of some conversation topics ahead of time.

  1. That way, if there’s an awkward pause, you already have something prepared. Try coming up with 2 or 3 conversation topics before you two hang out in person together. Then, ask her open-ended questions to keep the conversation flowing. Keep in mind, though, that some people are comfortable sitting in silence, so you don’t always have to talk with your girlfriend constantly. You might ask things like:[3]
    • “When you were little, what did you want to be when you grew up?”
    • “What’s your favorite smell?”
    • “If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?”
    • “What would you do with a million dollars?”
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Be honest about your nervousness.

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Take her out on more dates.

  1. Doing activities together can give you something to talk about. Plus, face-to-face interactions are a great way to strengthen your bond. Plan fun, spontaneous dates that your girlfriend looks forward to, like going mini golfing, taking a hike, or visiting a museum. Over time, your hang-outs will become more natural as you get to know each other.[5]
    • There’s no set amount of time that you should be spending together, but most couples like to go out on a date about once a week.
    • Don’t feel pressured to spend a ton of money on your date, either! Even grabbing takeout and walking in the park can be a fun way to spend time with your girlfriend.[6]
    • You could also try playing a board game, watching a movie, going on a picnic, working out together, seeing live music, going dancing, or going on a weekend trip somewhere.
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Make eye contact and smile at her.

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Try holding her hand.

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Buy her a few small gifts.

References

  1. https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=48&v=lOXRwzdizA8&feature=youtu.be
  2. Mark Rosenfeld. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 29 July 2021.
  3. https://www.thecut.com/article/questions-to-ask-your-girlfriend.html
  4. https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=71&v=dOt99cRHEHI&feature=youtu.be
  5. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lOXRwzdizA8&t=136s
  6. Mark Rosenfeld. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 29 July 2021.
  7. Mark Rosenfeld. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 29 July 2021.
  8. Mark Rosenfeld. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 29 July 2021.
  9. Mark Rosenfeld. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 29 July 2021.

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This article was written by Mark Rosenfeld and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Mark Rosenfeld is a Dating and Relationship Coach for women and founded Make Him Yours in 2015. Mark specializes in helping people find, attract, and keep extraordinary relationships. He has been featured in Style Magazine, Thought Catalog, Elite Daily, News.com.au, and The Good Men Project. Mark’s dating videos have received over 60 million views, and his book “Make Him Yours – Beating the Odds of Modern Dating” was a best-seller on Amazon on its release. This article has been viewed 18,943 times.
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