How to Look Appealing in Front of Your Crush

Co-authored by Spencer Shimada and Amy Bobinger

Last Updated: December 4, 2022 References

When you have a crush on someone, it's natural that you'd want to look great whenever they're around! Luckily, there are plenty of things you can do to look your best, from taking good care of your body to wearing clothes that flatter your figure. try to have clothes that you feel are good and not what everybody else has. However, if you really want to impress your crush, let them see your personality—and don't be afraid to show off your confidence!^{[1]
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Looking and Feeling Your Best

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Keep a regular sleeping schedule so you get plenty of rest. Sticking to a regular sleep schedule can help you get a better night's sleep, so try to go to bed at the same time every night, and wake up at the same time each morning. When you're well-rested, you're going to look refreshed, youthful, and energetic, so you’ll look great even if you run into your crush first thing in the morning!^{[2]
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- If you can, try to stick to the same schedule every night, even on the weekends. However, if you stay up late one night, try to make yourself wake up at your normal time so you don't disrupt your schedule more than you have.
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Maintain your personal hygiene every day. If you want your crush to find you attractive, it's important to make sure you keep your body clean and cared for. Each day, take a shower or a bath, brush your teeth and floss, and wear deodorant.^{[3]
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- You should also wash your face and apply a lightweight facial moisturizer twice a day. Choose face products that are formulated for your skin type, like a gentle cream cleanser for dry skin or a foaming cleanser for oily skin.
- To make sure your hands look nice, keep your nails clean and trimmed.
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Try wearing the color red to catch your crush’s eye. If you know you’re going to be around your crush, try grabbing an eye-catching color from your closet. For instance, you could go bold with a bright red top, or you could wear a neutral shirt with red accents for a more toned-down look. Red is the color of passion and love, so it’s a great way to send a signal to your crush!
- You can still impress your crush when you wear other colors besides red, especially if you see your crush every day. Try to pick colors that look good with your skin tone. For instance, if you have a warm skin tone, you might complement that by wearing colors like orange, yellow, and beige. If you have a cooler skin tone, you might look best in blues and greens.
- Remember, no matter what your personal style, you'll look your best if your clothes are clean and wrinkle-free. Also, opt for clothing that skims across your figure for the most flattering fit. If your clothes are too tight, you might seem uncomfortable, and if they're too baggy, you may come across as sloppy.
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Take the time to style your hair before you see your crush. While the way you do your hair will depend on your haircut and your personal style, you'll look your best if you take at least a little time in the mirror each morning. If you need to, use a product like mousse or hairspray to help your hair hold the style you choose. If you’re in a hurry, at least use your fingers to smooth down any flyaways.^{[4]
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- For instance, if you have short hair, you might use gel to create a spiky hairstyle if your style is edgy, or you might comb it behind your ears and hairspray it for a put-together look.
- If you have long hair, you might tie it in a neat braid or ponytail to keep it out of your face, you could straighten it so it lies flat, or you might use a curling wand to create beachy waves.
Having a Bad Hair Day? Try using a scarf, headband, or hat to cover your hair!
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Use accessories to show your personal style. When you’re getting dressed, try to pick at least one accessory to jazz up your outfit. Sometimes the smallest touches can elevate your look from basic to amazing! For instance, even if you're wearing a basic jeans-and-tee combo, you could change the whole feel of the outfit just by adding a pair of bold earrings, a choker, a cocktail ring, or a thick belt.^{[5]
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- Try to pick accessories that you feel reflect your personality. For instance, if you're independent and rebellious, you might look for rockstar-inspired pieces, like a leather or canvas cuff bracelet, a flashy belt, or a studded choker.
- If you're reserved and polished, you might prefer tasteful, classic jewelry, like pearl earrings, a pendant on a chain, or a nice watch.
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Opt for natural-looking makeup if you wear any. It's fine to use a little makeup to hide any blemishes or accentuate your favorite features. However, keep in mind that you want your crush to like you for you, so if you do wear makeup, it's a good idea to keep it light and natural.
- For instance, for a simple everyday look, you might dot a little concealer on any blemishes and under your eyes, then fill in your brows with a brow pencil. Use your fingers to swipe a little highlighter across your cheekbones, then define your lashes by brushing on a light coat of mascara.
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Practice taking selfies for a fun way to boost your self-image. When you have some free time at home, take a series of selfies of yourself. Practice making different faces and shoot the pictures from different angles until you find the most flattering shots. Seeing cute pictures of yourself is a great way to improve your confidence, so you’ll seem more self-assured when your crush is around.^{[6]
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- For a bold approach, try sending your favorite selfie to your crush. If you’re not quite ready for that, post it somewhere you know they’ll see it!
- If you choose to share your selfies on social media, just pick 1-2 of your favorites. If you share too many pictures of yourself, you might seem self-centered.
Tip: A selfie session is the perfect time to experiment with different outfits, hairstyles, and makeup techniques!

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Catching Your Crush’s Eye

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Smile and make eye contact when you see the person you like. Even if you’re talking to someone else, whenever you see your crush, try to glance their way to see if you can make quick eye contact. If you do meet eyes, give your crush a brief smile, then go back to what you’re doing. This will show that you're confident and self-assured, and it will also show your crush that you noticed them.^{[7]
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- If you notice your crush is looking at you, make eye contact and hold their gaze for a few seconds, then smile and look away.
- Smiling can actually make you feel happier, so it might be worth it to force a smile even if you aren't having the best day.^{[8]
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- Having a good sense of humor can make you seem cuter, too. When it's appropriate, tell jokes or funny stories to get other people laughing, and don't be shy about laughing at other people's jokes!
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Give your crush your full attention whenever they’re talking. Show your crush that you care about what they say by being a good listener. Whether you're around your friends, your crush, or someone you hardly know, try to give others your undivided attention when they're talking. Use active listening techniques like saying, "Yeah?" or "Go on" to show them that you're following along with what they say, and follow up later to show them that you remember what they were talking about.^{[9]
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- For instance, if your crush says, "My aunt is having surgery on Thursday and I'm really worried about her," you might text them early on Thursday to say something like, "Hey, I'm thinking about you and your family today."
- Being a thoughtful person toward others—not necessarily just your crush—will make you seem more likable to your crush.
Tip: For an extra flirtatious approach, try leaning in close to your crush while they’re talking.
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Compliment your crush to make them smile. Whenever you get the opportunity, try to point out when you notice something nice about the person you like, whether it's their outfit or a great personality trait. If your crush sees that you're generous with compliments, they may see you as a positive, kind person. In addition, constantly focusing on the best attributes of people can make it easier for you to see those qualities in yourself and others.^{[10]
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- For instance, you might say, "Jenny, I can't believe how hard you worked on that presentation yesterday! You did so amazing!"
- You might also say something like, "Hey Chris, I love that haircut!"
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Share your likes and dislikes with your crush to show your personality. Sometimes when you like someone, it can be tempting to try to relate to the things they like to try to impress them. However, you'll seem more confident—and therefore more attractive—if you have your own unique interests.^{[11]
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- If you hate avocados and your crush loves them, don't pretend to like them. Instead, show your independence by telling the truth. For instance, you could say, "I just can't stand plain avocados, but I do love guacamole!"
- If you do have some of the same interests as your crush, try to focus on those, rather than things you might have different opinions on.
- It’s okay to hold a little bit about yourself back, too, so don’t feel like you have to tell your crush everything about you. Acting a little mysterious might even make your crush more interested!
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Hang out with your crush’s friends to get to know your crush better. If you want to put yourself right in your crush’s line of sight, try making friends with people who are friends with your crush. Strike up a conversation with them in class, for instance, or sit by them while you eat lunch. As you get to know them better, you’ll likely come across more chances to hang out with your crush, so the two of you can get closer, too.
- Only do this if you actually like the other people. Otherwise, there’s a chance it could backfire, since they might annoy you or talk bad about you to your crush.
- Try not to give the impression that you might be interested in dating any of your crush's friends! For instance, you might avoid being too physically affectionate with them, especially in front of your crush.

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Keeping Your Cool Around Your Crush

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Take a deep breath if you start to feel nervous around your crush. Even if you seem cool and confident on the outside, sometimes you might notice that you get butterflies when your crush is around. Whenever you start to feel a little anxious, inhale slowly so the breath goes deep into your belly as you count to 4, then count to 4 again as you exhale. If you need to, repeat this several times until you start to feel calm.
- When you breathe deeply, it sends a signal to your body that everything is okay, so it will be easier to relax.
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Strike a power pose around your crush to seem more confident. To have good posture when you're sitting, try to sit up with your back straight, shoulders back, and head up. When you're standing, place your feet about shoulder-width apart, push your shoulders back and your chest out, and hold your head high. This will help you not only to look authoritative and in-control, but also to charm the girl.^{[12]
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- If you look confident, you'll feel more confident, and adjusting your posture is a great way to do that.
- Everybody can recognize a confident person by the way they carry themselves. In most circumstances, it doesn’t matter what you’re wearing, as long as you feel proud wearing it.^{[13]
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- Keeping your body language open is another good way to show your crush you're interested. Avoid crossing your arms or legs, for instance, which can make you look unapproachable.
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Use positive affirmations to help build yourself up. Spend time thinking about what makes you special. As you come up with things that you like about yourself, write them down, then repeat those things out loud to yourself. This will help boost your self-esteem, and that confidence will be visible to other people—including your crush. ^{[14]
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- You might choose to say positive affirmations in the mirror each day as you get ready, or you might use them when you're feeling especially vulnerable or anxious, like when your crush is around.
- For instance, you could tell yourself, "I'm smart and funny, and it's going to be a good day!"

Expert Q&A

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So I've liked this boy at school for almost a year, and I've never said a word to him. He lowkey knows I do but how should I approach him?

Connell Barrett
Dating Coach
Connell Barrett is a Relationship Expert and the Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation in New York City. Connell has over five years of experience as an international coach who helps men connect with women by unlocking their best, true, most confident selves. He is the author of the Amazon bestseller “Dating Sucks but You Don’t,” and has appeared on Good Morning America, the "Today" show, Access Hollywood, and in Best Life, Cosmopolitan, and The Oprah Magazine. In 2019 he was named Datezie.com's “New York City’s Best Male Dating Coach."

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Expert Answer

Be honest about how you feel! This way, your friend can confirm if they feel the same way.
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How do i get my crush to like me back. Heres my situation: well i kinda told him i liked him and asked him out and he said we should get to know eachother more before going out but i think he likes me

Amy Gremillion

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Spend time around him! Be yourself, so that way he can get a chance to get to know the real you. Then, he can decide whether he feels like you're a good fit for each other. If he doesn't, that's okay—just keep being you and don't put too much pressure on yourself to find someone to date.
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What do u do when your crush smiles at you back

Amy Gremillion

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Try walking up and saying hi! If you're feeling shy, you could also wave at them as an extra acknowledgment.