10 Flirty Texts to Tell Your Crush You'd Like to Kiss Them!

Co-authored by John Keegan and Janice Tieperman

Last Updated: September 30, 2021 References

You exchanged phone numbers with your crush, and sparks are beginning to fly. But how can you keep fanning the flames without seeming too pushy? Don’t worry. Hinting for a kiss over text is a lot easier than you might think.

Here are 10 flirty ways to tell your crush you want to kiss them over text.

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Send some creative emojis.

Believe it or not, your emoji keyboard is a pretty powerful arsenal. Just a few emojis can turn up the heat, and lead the conversation in a whole new direction. Try mixing and matching some playful combinations, like a kiss and/or a wink emoji. Or, feel free to keep things simple with a series of heart-eyes.^{[1]
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Research source} You can always lean on the classic “blowing a kiss” emoji to get your message across, too.
- There’s no right or wrong way to flirt with emojis. It really depends on who you’re chatting with, and how well you know them.

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Tag them in a flirtatious meme.

Memes get messages across in a way that regular texts just can’t.^{[2]
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Research source} Shoot over a silly, relatable meme to break the ice, or dive right into something flirty. Even if your crush isn’t in the mood for a kiss, your memes will still keep the conversation light and playful.
- You might send a meme saying “I have to say… I want to kiss you” or “I want to kiss you… true story.”
- You can find some great memes online! Check out sites like Know Your Meme and IMGur to get started.^{[3]
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Flirt with a GIF.

Show your crush how you’re feeling instead of saying it. Unlike emojis, GIFs leave much less room for interpretation and add a fun, playful tone to your conversation.^{[4]
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- You might send a GIF from a romantic movie for a more dramatic touch or keep things light with a clip from a silly cartoon.
- Sites like GIPHY, Reddit, GIFbin, and Tenor are great places to find new GIFs.^{[5]
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Text them a flirty question.

Feel free to be as subtle or obvious as you’d like. Text message flirting comes with pros and cons—but testing the waters with a playful message is definitely one of the perks. Play it safe with a simple, flirty message, or take the plunge and let them know how you’re really feeling.^{[6]
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- “Ready to have some fun?” or “Want to have this conversation in person?” might be some playful ways to hint at something more.
- “Our first kiss is going to be amazing!” could be a riskier but still effective way to let them know how you’re feeling.

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Build up the hype.

Explain how excited you are to meet up. You don’t have to explicitly ask for a kiss. Letting them know how hyped you are for your next date or hang-out is a great hint all on its own. Then, leave the rest up to their imagination!^{[7]
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- You could say something like, “So excited to hang out with you tonight. It’s going to be a great time!”
- Be extra obvious by tossing a wink emoji at the end of your text.

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Draft a silly pick-up line.

Believe it or not, a silly hint can seal the deal. Recycle an old cliche, or play around with a classic pick-up line. This way, you can turn up the heat while still playing it safe.^{[8]
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- There’s always the classic “Welcome to kissville, population us!”
- It’s true—pick-up lines are definitely corny. Still, you might score some points by making your crush laugh!

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Make up a silly excuse for them to come over.

A cheesy story or suggestion can get the ball rolling. You might explain that you had a great dream about them, and would love to recreate it in real life. Or, you could take the more casual route and invite them over for some “Netflix and chill.”^{[9]
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- For instance, you might say, “Hey cutie! Couldn’t stop dreaming about you last night. Once I woke up, I wanted to make it a reality.”
- You could also say, “Up for some Netflix and chill? Maybe we could skip over the Netflix part.”

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Send over some song lyrics.

A song is the perfect way to set the mood. Sometimes, it can be hard to say what’s really on your mind, especially when you’re in the mood for a kiss. Instead, send over a snippet of lyrics from a sweet love song to let your crush know that they’re on your mind.^{[10]
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- You might say, “I can’t get this song out of my head!” or “Do you like this song? I’ve played it on repeat all day.”

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Let them know they’re on your mind.

Start off your conversation nice and slow. You might shoot them a text while you’re doing some homework, or while you’re tossing and turning in bed. Before getting super flirty, let your crush know that you’re thinking about them, and that you’d love to spend some time together.^{[11]
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- You could say, “I’m trying to sleep, but I can’t stop thinking about you!” or “My to-do list is jam-packed today, but I wanted to text you first.”
- If you guys met in person and made a real connection, feel free to talk about it. You could say something like, "You have a really sweet hug."^{[12]
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Get straight to the point.

Hints aren’t all they’re cracked up to be. Texting can be a tricky medium, and hints don’t always hit their mark. Instead, let them know exactly what’s on your mind. Even if they say no, at least there won’t be any miscommunication.^{[13]
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- You might say, “Can I kiss you?” or “I would love to kiss you right now.”

Expert Q&A

Question

How do you ask someone to kiss you over text?

John Keegan
Dating Coach
John Keegan is a dating coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.

John Keegan

Dating Coach

Expert Answer

Start by setting the tone you want for the conversation. If there’s already chemistry between you and you’ve met each other, talk about a wish to solidify or move your relationship along quicker so the next meeting is already on the romantic tone. This way, you can kiss them without really any awkwardness.
Question

How do you tell your crush you want to kiss them?

John Keegan
Dating Coach
John Keegan is a dating coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.

John Keegan

Dating Coach

Expert Answer

Try going back to your last meeting. Did you guys hug or anything of sorts? If so, tell them that you felt really comfortable in that hug and that you wanted to kiss them, but knew you shouldn’t. Then, gauge the other person’s answer. This way, you kind of set up the situation for the next date.
Question

When should you ask for a kiss?

John Keegan
Dating Coach
John Keegan is a dating coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.

John Keegan

Dating Coach

Expert Answer

You should definitely wait until there’s some magic, sweet feeling or a clear flirting between you two. Just asking for a kiss without a nice conversation or some real feeling probably won’t work. Try creating some build-up to your request!