How to Have a Good Relationship in Middle School

Last Updated: March 24, 2023

A lot of relationships in middle school fizzle out quickly. Romance isn't your only focus in middle school, so how do you maintain a relationship that works for both of you, without it getting in the way of school, family, or friends? This wikiHow will help you have a good relationship in middle school.

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Building a Relationship

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Be friends with your boyfriend or girlfriend first. Start a relationship from there. Hang out every now and then with him/her and a few other friends. Get to the point that you can openly talk to them about anything.
- Find someone who likes you. Do they like you for you and make sure you like them the way they are.
- Find common interests. Maybe you two love to play soccer. Or maybe you two are both choir nerds. You don't have to be a cheerleader-quarterback couple. Find something that you both can share an interest in!
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Let your boyfriend or girlfriend know that you care about them. Every now and then it is good to keep updated with your crush/boyfriend/girlfriend. Be clear with your communication, an "I appreciate you" or compliment is reassuring.

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Show affection. Hug, hold hands, go on cute dates, and maybe even a little peck on the cheek or lips on special occasions, but keep it comfortable and appropriate. If you're still trying to pursue them and you feel like holding hands or kissing, the best way may be to try to sit next to them and touch their leg or arm. You shouldn't go any further than a peck on the lips unless you're okay with it. Talk to them about what you want and are comfortable with.
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See each other places besides school. Go on a date at the mall, movies, etc. You don't have to have intense one-on-one dates. You can go with other friends and keep it casual.

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Supporting Your Relationship

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Give your boyfriend or girlfriend space to live their life. Don't stalk them but talk to them. Be casual and let whatever happens, happen.
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Be nice to your boyfriend or girlfriend's friends and family. Don't act rude to their friends they can make them easily break up with you be as nice as can be but don't creep them out.
- Get to know their family. This will let them know you, and chances are they'll like you, especially if you are friendly and show good manners to them.
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Look nice and keep yourself healthy. Just because you have them does not mean you can't lose them. This does not mean dress like a model every day. Just try not to wear a sweatshirt and sweatpants every day. Make sure your hair is orderly and clean.
- Make sure you take care of yourself and stay healthy and hygienic. Brush and floss your teeth and use mouthwash for fresher breath. Take showers daily and wash your face every day with a cleanser and moisturize. Brush your hair.
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Protect yourself. If you suspect something is wrong. If they are cheating break up, and just be friends. Do not go back if they aren't treating you well!
- You are not an adult just yet. This is a safe low-pressure environment to explore what you like and don't like in a person! It's okay to experiment; just be sensitive of their feelings.
- Take everything with a fat grain of salt. Don't listen to haters, rumor spreaders, and those immature preps asking "Hey! Did you guys make out yet?" But be wary about your partner's past, and signs your friends are seeing.
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Be yourself! Dating someone ingenuine isn't fun, then find out you're different! Be honest and it's vital to have good communication.
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Have fun! You two are still really young, so relationships should be really light-hearted and fun. Don't take everything so seriously, just go with the flow.

Warnings

Do not let your partner peer pressure you into doing things you don't want to do. Set your limits, make sure they are aware. If they don't accept it, break up. Date someone who has respect for your wishes.

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