This article was co-authored by Kateri Berasi, PsyD. Dr. Kateri Berasi is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and the Founder of Transcendent Self, PLLC, a group therapy practice offering affirmative, collaborative, and intentional care, based in Brooklyn, New York. With over ten years of experience in the mental health field, Dr. Berasi specializes in working with adults from the LGBTQIA+ community and creative industries through individual therapy, couples counseling, group therapy, and costume therapy. She holds a BA in Psychology, Art History, and French Language and Literature from George Washington University and an MA and MEd in Mental Health Counseling from Columbia University. Dr. Berasi also holds a PsyD in Clinical Psychology from Long Island University.
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When LGBT Pride month comes around every June, that means huge celebrations, events, and of course, Pride parades. Filled with elaborate floats, amazing costumes, and excited crowds, a Pride parade is a great way to enjoy unique events and connect with welcoming LGBT communities around the world.
Steps
Celebrating Pride at the Parade and Beyond
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1Scout out a viewing area ahead of time. Once you’ve decided where you’ll be celebrating, look up the parade route and start to think about where you want to watch.[1] Many people like to watch Pride parades from outside major LGBT landmarks (like the Stonewall Inn in New York City), but these areas can get crowded fast. If smaller crowds and more breathing room is more your speed, look for wider streets on less central areas of the route.[2]
- You can also try to watch the parade from a building along the route. You won’t be as close, but you’ll have a better view and less crowded atmosphere.
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2Make sure your group is all on the same page. If you’re going with a big group, make sure to talk beforehand about what everyone wants out of the day.[3] Some people might want to party or drink, while others would just relax and walk around the neighborhood. Talk about what you want to do, then split up based on preferences.[4]
- If you’d rather head to Pride on your own, it’s a great chance make friends in the crowd or meet people in the community outside of your friend group. Remember to stay safe and use common sense when talking with strangers.[5]
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3Pack appropriately. It's good to bring food and water.[6] If you want to buy things, bring cash, because vendors may not take credit cards. You will want to pack:
- A water bottle
- Snacks (e.g. fruit or granola bars)
- Cash
- Headphones or earplugs if you have sensory issues
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4Wear sunscreen and a hat. Another Pride essential: sun protection. Put on a layer of sunscreen before you leave and bring a bottle so you can reapply throughout the day. For extra protection, bring along a hat and sunglasses.[7]
- This is especially important if you’re wearing an outfit or costume that shows more skin than usual! To make your sun protection part of your outfit, you can even decorate your hat or sunglasses to match.
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5Expect wild floats and high spirits. Pride parades feature floats and marchers both tame and wild. Every parade is different, but you can expect marching bands, clowns, drag queens, and dancers alongside LGBT-friendly politicians, church choirs, and local businesses. Every float is unique, but each participant will be spirited and excited to be there.[8]
- You can also expect to see some contingents that march in nearly every LGBT Pride parade, such as Parents, Friends, and Families of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) and People with AIDS.
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6Get there early to claim your spot. Pride parade routes get crowded fast, especially in big cities, and streets getting to the route can fill up or even close down, making it hard to get to your viewing area. Plan to get there at least an hour early to make sure you can claim your spot![9]
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7Head to other Pride events after the parade. While the parade is typically the main event of a city’s Pride celebrations, the festivities don’t end there. If you’re looking to celebrate before and after the parade, you can check out bars and nightclubs having Pride parties, or opt for sober or family-friendly events. Look online to see what events your city is offering and plan out the rest of your day.[10]
- Try to head for events that give back to the LGBT community. Their advertisements should say something like, “Proceeds go to…”, followed by a non-profit LGBT group.
Dressing for Pride
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1Dress in rainbow colors to show your support and fit in with the crowd. At a Pride parade, wearing rainbow patterns is the perfect way to stand out and show your support while blending in with the crowds. Look for rainbow everything—shirts, shorts, dresses, rompers, hats, shoes, and more![11]
- Look online for the widest range of rainbow clothing choices.
- Don’t forget to bring along a rainbow flag to wave! Buy one online well in advance of the parade to ensure that they don’t sell out.
- Remember to check the weather before choosing your outfit. Many Pride parades are held in warm weather, so go with lightweight fabrics to keep you comfortable.
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2Dress up in colors for another LGBT flag. While the rainbow flag is the most well-recognized LGBT symbol, there are plenty of other colors you can dress up in and flags you can wave to support different parts of the community. Look up the flags, see what the design stands for, and choose one to show your support. Here are a few choices:[12]
- The transgender flag, which has pastel blue, light pink, and white stripes.
- The pansexual pride flag, which is 3 stripes of hot pink, bright yellow, and blue.
- The bisexual flag, which uses dark pink and royal blue along with purple.
- The intersex pride flag, which has a yellow background and a purple “O” shape in the middle.
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3Accent your outfit with bright accessories. Complete your look with brightly-colored socks, tights, or stockings, sunglasses, and jewelry. You could even bring along a glittery bag or fanny pack to hold your gear in style.[13]
- Wilder accessories like feather boas and tutus are also perfect for Pride. Make your outfit as crazy or relaxed as you want—it’s all about expressing yourself.
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4Go for bright, glittery makeup and a fun hairstyle. Makeup is a great way to finish off your Pride look! Feel free to go all-out with bright eyeshadow and lipstick, body glitter, and face paint. You can keep your hair casual and relaxed or make it part of your style as well.
- You could try non-permanent hair dye or add hair accessories like extensions, feathers, or headbands to make your hairstyle pop.
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5Wear a costume to express your creativity. If you feel like standing out, Pride is a great time to try out crazy costumes. Look up examples online to get an idea for what other people wear, then go for a look that’s as creative or over-the-top as you want.
- You could dress like a movie character, a fairytale creature like a mermaid or unicorn, or anything else that’s fun and eye-catching.
- Use your outfit as a way to express yourself, not offend or make fun of others. Pride is all about loving people for who they are.
Staying Safe and Respectful
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1Ignore protestors, or keep conversations short and polite. LGBT Pride events can attract protestors who don’t approve of the community or think that being LGBT is wrong. Don’t let protestors—or anyone else—bother you or ruin your day. Ignore them if you can, or keep interactions as brief as possible.[14] [15]
- If a protester comes up to you, for example, you could say something like, “I don’t agree with you, but I’m not interested in talking about it right now.”
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2Respect the different costumes and signs that you see. Pride parades bring together people from across the LGBT community, including lots of straight people. Expect to see people expressing themselves through costumes and signs, and remember that you might not agree with all the things you see or hear. It’s important to celebrate the diversity of people and viewpoints in the LGBT community, even if it feels uncomfortable at first.[16]
- Challenge yourself to accept everyone as they are today—including yourself! It’s OK to disagree with someone and talk about your different perspectives, but never make anyone ashamed of who they are or what they believe.
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3Avoid assuming anyone’s sexual orientation. Pride parades are open to people of any sexual orientation, from LGBT to straight. Don’t make any assumptions about people’s preferences. If you’re curious or interested in them, simply ask first.[17]
- You could say something like, “Just curious, are you interested in guys? I think you’re really cute.” Remember that they might not feel comfortable sharing, and that’s OK too.
- Be confident; Pride events are a great chance to go outside your comfort zone and be more open than you usually would.
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4Make up an excuse if you’re LGBT but not ready to come out. It’s completely OK to attend a Pride parade when you’re not ready to come out yet. In fact, Pride can be a great way to explore the community without feeling pressured to define your orientation. If it makes you feel more comfortable, though, you can have an excuse ready in case you run into anyone you know.[18]
- You could say that you’re there supporting an LGBT friend, that you’re writing a paper on the LGBT community, or even that you were just curious. People of all sexual orientations attend Pride parades; just being there doesn’t mean that people will assume you’re LGBT.
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5Keep the history of Pride in mind. Pride parades today are huge, over-the-top celebrations of color and life, but they started as a march in remembrance of the Stonewall Riots in 1969. That first Pride parade was a turning point for the LGBT community, where activism turned from more serious marches to loud-and-proud celebrations.[19]
- Take the time to remember the hardships that the LGBT community has gone through and appreciate the strides its made, while recognizing that there is a lot more to be done.
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6Use protection and stay safe if you choose to have sex. Pride is a great time to meet people to get intimate with, but remember to stay safe and use protection. Bring condoms and make sure to ask any potential partners if they’ve been tested for STDs, and try to celebrate with people you know and trust.[20]
Choosing a Parade Location
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1Search online to find the date of a Pride parade near you. Depending on where you live, even smaller cities and towns now hold their own Pride parades. Most are held in June, which is LGBT Pride month, but other events are scattered throughout the summer. Look online to see when and where the closest Pride parade is.
- You can also reach out to your local LGBT center to ask about local Pride events, or even see if you can plan your own.
- Going to a Pride parade in your town or city is a great way to celebrate with your local LGBT community.
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2Travel to a different parade to experience a new community. Going to a Pride parade outside of your area is a great opportunity to experience a different culture and mix with a new LGBT community. It can also be a great option if you want to avoid running into anyone you know at local celebrations.[21]
- Look up Pride traditions in other cities to decide where you want to go. Smaller areas will have shorter, more intimate celebrations, while bigger cities tend to go all-out—New York City’s parade can last for up to 9 hours!
- You can check out an online Gay Pride calendar to find Pride events near and far.
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3Check out a famous parade for the most elaborate celebrations. Pride events are held all over the world, and some cities are known for their trademark events and unique histories, Whether you’re close by or looking to travel to a distinctive celebration, going to one of these huge, well-known events is a great way to connect with different communities and celebrate in style. Check out places like:[22]
- New York City, which held the first ever LGBT Pride event in 1970, one year after the Stonewall Riot. In addition to the parade, which welcomes over 40,000 marchers, the NYC celebration also features dance parties and a big street festival.
- Amsterdam, where the Pride celebration lasts for a week and ends with a colorful boat parade down the city’s canals.
- Sydney, Australia, where Pride celebrations last for multiple weeks in February and March, featuring a fair, comedy festival, pool party, and several art shows.
- Puerto Vallarta, Mexico, which is known its welcoming atmosphere during its Pride events in May. The parade ends with a block party, and the celebrations also include a combination drag pageant and obstacle course race.
Expert Q&A
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QuestionI really want to go to pride but I'm not out to my parents yet. How can I go without having to come out to them?Kateri Berasi, PsyDDr. Kateri Berasi is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and the Founder of Transcendent Self, PLLC, a group therapy practice offering affirmative, collaborative, and intentional care, based in Brooklyn, New York. With over ten years of experience in the mental health field, Dr. Berasi specializes in working with adults from the LGBTQIA+ community and creative industries through individual therapy, couples counseling, group therapy, and costume therapy. She holds a BA in Psychology, Art History, and French Language and Literature from George Washington University and an MA and MEd in Mental Health Counseling from Columbia University. Dr. Berasi also holds a PsyD in Clinical Psychology from Long Island University.
Licensed Clinical PsychologistIt’s always best to go with another person whom you trust, whether a friend or a partner. Let another person you trust know that you will be attending the parade, and make sure you each have one another’s contact information in case you need help at any point. -
QuestionWhat should I take to the parade?Kateri Berasi, PsyDDr. Kateri Berasi is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and the Founder of Transcendent Self, PLLC, a group therapy practice offering affirmative, collaborative, and intentional care, based in Brooklyn, New York. With over ten years of experience in the mental health field, Dr. Berasi specializes in working with adults from the LGBTQIA+ community and creative industries through individual therapy, couples counseling, group therapy, and costume therapy. She holds a BA in Psychology, Art History, and French Language and Literature from George Washington University and an MA and MEd in Mental Health Counseling from Columbia University. Dr. Berasi also holds a PsyD in Clinical Psychology from Long Island University.
Licensed Clinical PsychologistBring your phone, water, and a snack. To stay safe, avoid any signs of uprising or violence, know the route of the parade, and map out several places along the way where you can take a break if need be. You can always leave at any point if you feel uncomfortable or unsafe. -
QuestionHow would I ask my parents to go to pride if I'm not fully out as LGBTQ+?Community AnswerTell them you want to go to support the community. If you have LGBTQ+ friends, say you're supporting them specifically. Or just take this opportunity to tell your parents!
Warnings
- If you choose to drink, do so safely and responsibly.⧼thumbs_response⧽
References
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- ↑ Kateri Berasi, PsyD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 9 September 2021.
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About This Article
To go to an LGBT parade, first put together a bright, glittery outfit in the colors of an LGBT flag, like rainbow for the LGBT pride flag. Before the parade starts, scout out a viewing area on a wide street so you won’t be too crowded. Get there an hour beforehand and bring lots of water, food, and sunscreen. After the parade, head to other Pride events, like street fairs or dance parties! Remember to stay safe and drink responsibly, and respect the different people and celebrations you come across. For tips on finding a parade and being respectful, read on!