How to Get Your Crush to Like You

Co-authored by Mark Rosenfeld

Last Updated: March 29, 2023 References

If you have a crush on someone and want them to feel the same way about you, there are a few things you can do to try to get their attention. Try being their friend first by being supportive and learning about their interests and hobbies. Show them all of the amazing qualities about yourself, like your ability to have fun, your sense of style, and your confidence in yourself. By showing your interest in getting to know your crush and doing small things like smiling and making eye contact, your crush may start liking you too. If you know that your crush is interested in someone else, it's probably not a good idea to use these techniques.

This article is based on an interview with our professional dating and relationship coach, Mark Rosenfeld, founder of Make Him Yours. Check out the full interview here.

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Forming a Friendship

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Be a supportive friend. The best relationships start as a strong friendship. Focus on being the best friend you can be by doing things like helping them when they’re in need, being an active listener, and showing your support whenever possible.^{[1]
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- Let your crush tell you all about their bad day, an exciting achievement, or whatever is on their mind. Try to be engaged and focused on them. Give them eye contact!
- Support them by doing things like cheering them on if they’re on the basketball team, helping them study for a test, or getting them a treat when they’re feeling down.
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Find out what they’re passionate about. This includes things like music, sports, books, and hobbies. Finding out what types of things they love will give you something to talk about with them, and you might even find a common interest that you both share.^{[2]
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- For example, maybe they’re passionate about volunteering at a nursing home, sailing, and woodworking.
- Find out about their passions by asking them what they’re interested in, asking one of their friends, or looking at their social media profiles.
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Ask questions about their interests and life. This is one of the best ways to show someone you’re interested while establishing a strong connection. Ask them about their family, pets, hobbies, or any other topic that helps you get to know them.^{[3]
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Mark Rosenfeld
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Expert Interview. 11 June 2021.} This shows that you’re engaged and interested in their life.^{[4]
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- For example, you might ask them what they’d like to study in college, what the names of their pets are, or how they learned to play the guitar.
- Asking questions will likely encourage them to ask questions about your life in return so that you both get to know each other on a deeper level.
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Listen when they talk to you. This means showing the signs of a good listener by looking at your crush when they’re talking and avoiding interrupting them. Try to remember things they’ve told you to show that you truly do listen and want to hear more of what they have to say.^{[5]
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- Show that you’re truly listening by making eye contact and nodding appropriately when they’re speaking to you.
- If you're speaking to them over text or social media, try to respond to their messages in a timely manner and give thoughtful responses.
- For example, if your crush told you they love a certain musician, you might let them know when that musician is performing near you to show that you were listening to their interests.
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Spend lots of time with them. The more time you spend around someone, the more likely they are to develop an attraction to you.^{[6]
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Expert Interview. 11 June 2021.} Try to hang out with your crush as much as possible, whether it’s in a large group, with just a few other friends, or alone.^{[7]
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- Try doing different activities when you’re with each other, like going to a movie, hanging out in a park with friends, or even just sitting together at lunch.

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Portraying Your Best Self

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Have good personal hygiene. This means doing things like brushing your teeth, showering, and putting on deodorant. Keep your body clean by washing your face daily and lathering with soap. When you take care of your body, you’ll look and feel more attractive.^{[8]
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- Wash your hair every couple of days, using conditioner after you shampoo if desired.
- Wear clean clothes daily to ensure you look and smell fresh.
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Show them your playful and fun side. If your crush sees you having a good time, they’ll be more likely to want to spend time with you so they have fun too.^{[9]
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Expert Interview. 11 June 2021.} Try telling your crush funny stories about yourself or just being laid-back and goofy around them to show your humorous side.^{[10]
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- Consider being playful and flirty by giving your crush a gentle shove or tap.
- Show off your wit or any jokes you know when you’re around your crush or over text.
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Dress in clothing that shows off your style. Choose trendy clothes that you truly like and that fit your body well. Try not to wear certain clothes just because they’re in fashion or you think your crush would like them—pick out clothes you feel confident in and that mirror your personality.^{[11]
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- If you want to look fashionable and girly, find dresses or flowy tops in prints or patterns you like.
- Wear fitted jeans and a t-shirt with a picture of your favorite band or book on it to show your interests.
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Maintain a level of mysteriousness. Instead of telling your crush everything about yourself at once, try to take it slow and let them learn about you in small tidbits. Constantly talking about yourself is going to overwhelm your crush. Instead, space out the information you tell them, making them want to hear more about you.^{[12]
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- If your crush asks you a question about your life like “What’s your favorite thing to do in your free time?” you could answer the question and then ask your crush a question to keep the conversation flowing naturally.
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Be yourself! Try not to act differently or pretend to be interested in things you’re not just so that your crush will like you. When you’re being your true self, you’ll give off more confidence and energy than you would if you were faking it, making it more likely for your crush to be attracted to you.^{[13]
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Expert Interview. 11 June 2021.} Stay true to yourself and don’t worry if your crush doesn’t realize how great you are.^{[14]
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- Share your passions with your crush to show them what you’re interested in and find out whether you have any common interests.

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Using Body Language

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Smile as often as possible. A smile will immediately brighten your entire look, making it a simple way to help attract your crush. Try to smile more often when you’re around your crush, even if you’re not directly talking to them. It will make you look and feel naturally happier!^{[15]
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- Smile at your crush if you see them in the hallway, or give them a smile when talking to them about their weekend plans.
- If you're texting your crush or using social media, try sending them a smiley face symbol or emoji.
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Hold eye contact to show your interest. When your crush looks at you, hold their gaze for a few seconds before looking away. This extra eye contact hints that you like them, and it may stir up feelings inside of them too.^{[16]
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- If you’re talking to your crush, look into their eyes as you’re speaking.
- If your crush notices you looking at them, hold the eye contact for a few seconds and give them a smile.
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Lean in when you’re talking to them. This shows that you’re interested in what they’re saying or doing. Whether you’re sitting across from them at a table or standing a few feet from one another, try to lean towards them a couple of inches to show that you’re engaged.^{[17]
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- For example, if you’re sitting in class at separate desks, lean your body towards them when asking your crush a question or telling them about your day.
- Pointing your body towards someone is a signal that you’re attracted to them.
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Pay attention to your posture. You’ll look more attractive and confident if you have great posture. Sit or stand up straight with your shoulders relaxed and back, and avoid crossing your arms in front of you.^{[18]
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- Avoid hunching over when you’re walking or sitting at a table.
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Laugh at your crush's jokes. And as you are laughing, playfully and lightly hit your crush on the shoulder, this will let your crush know that you're paying attention to what he is saying. Don't overdo it though, as it will make you seem weird.

Expert Q&A

Question

How do I get my crush to notice me?

Mark Rosenfeld
Dating & Relationship Coach
Mark Rosenfeld is a Dating and Relationship Coach for women and founded Make Him Yours in 2015. Mark specializes in helping people find, attract, and keep extraordinary relationships. He has been featured in Style Magazine, Thought Catalog, Elite Daily, News.com.au, and The Good Men Project. Mark’s dating videos have received over 60 million views, and his book “Make Him Yours – Beating the Odds of Modern Dating” was a best-seller on Amazon on its release.

Mark Rosenfeld

Dating & Relationship Coach

Expert Answer

Start up a conversation with them! For instance, you might make a comment when you see them in class or brush past them in the hallway. Try to hold eye contact for a little longer when you talk with them, and let the eye contact linger for a little more as you walk away.
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How do I make the first move on my crush?

Mark Rosenfeld
Dating & Relationship Coach
Mark Rosenfeld is a Dating and Relationship Coach for women and founded Make Him Yours in 2015. Mark specializes in helping people find, attract, and keep extraordinary relationships. He has been featured in Style Magazine, Thought Catalog, Elite Daily, News.com.au, and The Good Men Project. Mark’s dating videos have received over 60 million views, and his book “Make Him Yours – Beating the Odds of Modern Dating” was a best-seller on Amazon on its release.

Mark Rosenfeld

Dating & Relationship Coach

Expert Answer

Pay attention to the little things they mention in a conversation. For instance, if they talk about having a dog, you might say something like, "You've got to introduce me to your dog someday." If they're a tennis player, you might say, "We've gotta hit the tennis courts sometime so you can introduce me to the sport." If the other person seems enthusiastic, you can do a number exchange right away to set things up.
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How can you make your crush fall in love with you?

wikiHow Staff Editor
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This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.

wikiHow Staff Editor

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You can’t really make anyone fall in love with you—only they can decide how they feel! The best you can do is spend time getting to know them, treat them with kindness and respect, and be your best self around them. From there, it’s up to them!