How to Flirt on Snapchat: App Etiquette, Tips, & More

Learn to flirt like a pro on Snapchat with this ultimate guide

Written by Hardy Jean | Edited by Eric McClure

Last Updated: March 24, 2023 References

If somebody has caught your eye on Snapchat, you may be wondering how you can get their attention. That’s where we come in! We’ve dug deep into research to give you the cutest and most engaging methods you can use to land the guy or girl of your dreams! In this article, we’ll show you the best flirting tips, give you examples of snaps you might send, and help you close the deal.

Things You Should Know

Tease your crush periodically and pepper them with cute selfies and questions to keep their attention.
Use Snapchat to your advantage by playing with cute filters and checking in on their story to let them know you’re interested.
Move from basic snaps to DM convo to get more intimate and take things to the next level.

1

Take a flirty selfie.

Snap a cute, playful selfie and send it only to your crush. Spend the extra few minutes getting your lighting right, throwing on a cute outfit, and fixing your hair. Take a few selfies and choose the cutest one to send to your crush.^{[1]
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- Include a caption like, “So bored 😆 wyd?” or, “Feeling super extra today 🤪.”
- Don’t put the selfie on your story, no matter how cute it is! If your crush thinks your selfie isn’t just for them, they may assume you aren’t flirting with them.
- You can go with a cuter, smiling vibe for a coy look, or raise an eyebrow and purse your lips out to go for a more seductive vibe.

2

Tease playfully.

Be a little forward and provocative to elicit a response. Want to get their blood pumping a bit? Don’t hesitate to be mess with your crush a bit. If you send them a cute selfie, you might say, “No way you can handle me today 😜.” If you respond to a snap of theirs, you might say something like, “Oh, so you think you’re bad huh? Just how bad are you? 😉”^{[2]
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- Don’t get mean! The trick here is to make it clear that you’re just goofing around.
- Teasing gets to the core of that playground flirting everyone used to do as a kid. It sends the signal that you’re fun, easygoing, and maybe a little naughty in the best ways possible.

3

Ask questions.

Give your crush something to respond to in your snaps. It is totally okay to send your crush an occasional snap with no caption or intuitive way to respond, but the occasional question gives your crush something to respond to. It also opens the door for conversation to develop over Snapchat! You might:^{[3]
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- Take a snap of the night sky and ask, “Do you believe in aliens? Space is so big and scary.”
- Snap a photo of your dog and say, “Are you a dog or a cat person? Don’t worry, Rufus won’t judge you.”
- Shoot a photo of the book you’re reading and go, “You ever read this? I’m halfway in and I’m not sure if it’s worth finishing.”

4

Use fun captions.

Use playful, energetic, and funny captions to draw your crush in. Whether you’re snapping your boo privately or posting on your story, get creative with the captions. You may be cute as a button, but the caption is the material your crush is most likely to reply to.^{[4]
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- Take a selfie and write, “If I was a fruit, I’d totally be a FINEapple.”
- Shoot a short video of your dog, then turn the camera on yourself and write, “Cute < Cuter.”
- Take an ironic vid of your hair blowing dramatically in front of a table fan and say, “This is my biggest fan.”
- Snap a photo of your lunch and write, “Who will be my bae-ritto?”

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Lure them in with suggestive emojis.

Emojis are fun, inviting, and can help convey your interest quickly. Flirting with emojis can be a cute way to convey your interest in someone without putting yourself too out there early on. You can drop a cute emoji into a DM convo, or rely on them heavily in the snaps you send.^{[5]
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- A sweet, loving emoji conveys closeness. You might say, “You’re the best 🥰” or, “I can’t wait to see you 🙈.”
- The “I’m up to no good” emojis are a fun way to hint at your sensual side. You could say, “I’m up for anything 😏” or, “What are you trying to get into tonight? 😈”
- Be careful with the explicitly sexual emojis (🍆, 💦, 🍑, etc.), especially if you don’t know them super well. If you two are getting really flirty and you’re comfortable, go for it!

6

Pick fun filters.

Give yourself puppy ears or put hearts around you to convey cuteness. Snapchat filters that add some cute visuals or make you look more attractive can be a great way to entice your crush to flirt back. Pick fun filters, but don’t overdo it by using them in every snap you send.^{[6]
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- Unless the two of you have a super ironic and self-deprecating sense of humor you’ve been bonding over, avoid the filters that make you look unappealing, like the one that makes you look like a senior citizen.

7

View their stories.

Snapchat shares who watches your stories, so show them you’re paying attention. If your crush is into you, seeing your name pop up early and often on their stories is a great way to let them know you’re paying attention. It’s also a good way to give you two something to talk about, since people use their stories to share what they’re doing throughout the day.^{[7]
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- Comment on their story periodically to publicly show your interest and show you’re serious about them.^{[8]
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- Just be friendly and playful in the comments. You might say things like, “Looks like you had a blast 😊” or, “What a cool experience!”

8

Keep the streak going.

Your Snapchat streak is a big sign you’re both interested. When you and another person snap each other every single day, you start a streak and get a little 🔥 next to their name in your contacts. The streak is a subtle little sign that there might be something going on between you two!^{[9]
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- This is also a great excuse to send them a snap and talk every day!

9

Slide into their DMs.

After a few weeks of snapping back and forth, message them! The transition from Snapchat photos/videos to the DMs is a huge sign you two are developing something here. Shoot your shot by messaging them directly. You could reference something from their recent snaps or simply ask them how they’re doing.^{[10]
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- “Hey! How’s it going stranger? I thought it might just be faster to chat here.”
- “I really loved that snap you sent earlier today. You’ve got such a snazzy sense of style.”
- “What’s up? What are you doing tonight?”
- Give your crush time to reply to you without pushing too hard. Take things slow and play it cool by only sending your crush one snap at a time.

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Don’t re-share snaps you send them.

Make them feel special by keeping snaps you send your crush private. Don’t share any snaps you send them on your story. This is a great way to subtly communicate that you’re really invested in your crush without actually saying anything. If you share all of your private snaps with other friends or on your story, they may think they aren’t special to you.^{[11]
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- Skip the nudes unless you’re both over 18 and you’re absolutely positive you want to establish that kind of relationship with one another.

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Ask them out!

If the flirting keeps going well, it’s a sign it’s time to take the next step. Flirting for the sake of flirting is fun enough, but you’re building up to something right? If the energy feels right and you’ve got a good sense that they’re into you just as much as you’re into them, ask them on a date.^{[12]
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- “Are you interesting in getting a coffee or something this weekend?”
- “Sorry if this is super forward, but I really like you. Do you want to catch a movie?”
- “Hey, I know you’re into punk music. I’ve got an extra ticket to a show this weekend. Want to be my date?”