This article was co-authored by Jennifer Butler, MSW. Jennifer Butler is a Love & Transformation Coach and the Owner of JennJoyCoaching, a life coaching business based in Miami, Florida, although Jennifer works with clients all over the world. Jennifer’s work centers around empowering women who are navigating any stage of the divorce or breakup process. She has over four years of life coaching experience. She is also the co-host of the Deep Chats Podcast along with Leah Morris and the host of season 2 “Divorce and Other Things You Can Handle” by Worthy. Her work has been featured in ESME, DivorceForce, and Divorced Girl Smiling. She received her Masters of Social Work (MSW) from New York University. She is also a Certified Health Coach, a Communications & Life Mastery Specialist, and a Certified Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “the One” coach.
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Sometimes we feel like we’re doomed to keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again, but what really holds us back are exactly those voices of fear and regret. The best way to break the cycle is to encourage the better sides of yourself with positive emotions.[1] Learn from your mistakes, yes, but not by locking yourself in a state of pain and self-loathing. There is a better way forward.
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QuestionHow do you stop repeating mistakes?Jennifer Butler, MSWJennifer Butler is a Love & Transformation Coach and the Owner of JennJoyCoaching, a life coaching business based in Miami, Florida, although Jennifer works with clients all over the world. Jennifer’s work centers around empowering women who are navigating any stage of the divorce or breakup process. She has over four years of life coaching experience. She is also the co-host of the Deep Chats Podcast along with Leah Morris and the host of season 2 “Divorce and Other Things You Can Handle” by Worthy. Her work has been featured in ESME, DivorceForce, and Divorced Girl Smiling. She received her Masters of Social Work (MSW) from New York University. She is also a Certified Health Coach, a Communications & Life Mastery Specialist, and a Certified Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “the One” coach.
Life CoachBecause we all have stories that run in our subconscious, we can create patterns and habits that we live into without even realizing it. Ask yourself how you may be creating situations in which you can repeat these mistakes, and how you can adjust those triggers so you're less likely to make the same mistakes as before.
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- ↑ Jennifer Butler, MSW. Love & Empowerment Coach. Expert Interview. 31 July 2020.
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- ↑ https://jamesclear.com/how-to-break-a-bad-habit
- ↑ Jennifer Butler, MSW. Love & Empowerment Coach. Expert Interview. 31 July 2020.
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About This Article
If you want to stop repeating the same mistakes, begin by recognizing your mistakes and their causes. For example, if you made a mistake at work because you were tired, that probably means you aren’t getting enough sleep! Don’t be afraid of making another mistake though, because this fear actually makes mistakes more likely. Instead, focus on replacing bad habits with good habits, like going to bed early instead of staying up late. For more advice from our reviewer, including how to set realistic goals and deal with setbacks, read on!