How to Act Around a Guy You Think Likes You

Co-authored by Laura Bilotta

Last Updated: October 3, 2022 References

If a guy likes you, how you react depends on how you feel. It can be thrilling to know someone you're crushing on likes you back. In this case, try to return flirtation. However, if you don't feel the same way, unwanted attention can be stressful. Try to send the signal you're not interested. Either way, if the guy is not receiving your message, have a sit down talk about your relationship.

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Responding If You Feel the Same Way

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Get close to him. If a guy is giving you signals, return them by getting a little snuggly on your end. Try to sit close to him at social events. When talking to him between classes or during lunch, stand a little closer to him than you normally would. This sends the signal you like him back and enjoy being near him.^{[1]
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Make excuses to spend time alone with him. Solo time with your crush can help you assess if he likes you. It can also send the message you're interested in him as well. Try to find ways to get him alone so the two of you can have a chance to make your feelings clear.^{[2]
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- For example, text him something like, "I'm really craving a burger. Want to run and get a snack after class?"
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Flirt on social media. Paying a guy you think likes you extra attention on social media can let him know you like him back. Try leaving comments on his pictures and posts on sites like Instagram and Facebook. Respond to his tweets on Twitter and re-tweet the ones you find interesting.^{[3]
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- Work in some mild flirtation with your comments. For example, "Cute pic! Blue is a great color on you."
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Return flirtatious gestures. If he flirts with you, flirt back. Common flirting tactics include making eye contact, flashing a smile, flashing your eyebrows, and casual touching.^{[4]
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- For example, if your crush brushes your arm, wait a few moments. Then, do something like tussle his hair or place your hand on his knee.
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Be yourself. Remember, if a guy already likes you, you don't need to change. Be your unique self around him and don't be afraid to let your inhibitions down. Feel free to get a little goofy or wild around him, as this is likely to endear you to him more.^{[5]
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- For example, if you're a fan of a certain musical artist that's a little obscure, don't be afraid to talk about this in front of the guy. If you like a unique type of movie, invite him to watch these movies with you.

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Responding If You Feel Differently

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Try to hang out in group settings. To send the signal you just want to be friends, keep the guy in question in your friends group. Avoid solo hang outs. When inviting him out, make it clear a whole group is coming and not just the two of you.^{[6]
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- For example, invite him to a movie night with a group of friends.
- You can also redirect him if he asks you to go somewhere with him. For example, say he asks you to go to a party with him. Say something like, "Oh, I'm going with a whole group of my friends. You're totally welcome to join."
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Avoid touch. Many people are casually touchy with their friends. You may hug friends hello or goodbye or casually pat friends on the shoulder during conversation. If you think a guy likes you, refrain from engaging in these rituals with him. This can easily send the wrong message.^{[7]
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Go easy on the compliments. It's normal to compliment your friends. However, you don't want to go overboard complimenting a guy you think likes you. This may make him think you're interested when you're not.^{[8]
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- For example, say he's wearing a shirt you like. Saying something like, "You look nice today" could come off as flirtatious.
- Instead, find a less flirty comment. Say something like, "Nice shirt!" You could also forego commenting altogether, just to be safe.
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Do not respond to flirtatious gestures and comments. If the guy starts flirting with you, try your best to ignore it. Responding to flirtation could be read the wrong way. If the guy, say, grins at you from across the room, return his gaze with a curt nod rather than smiling back.
- If a guy is persistently flirting with you in ways that make you feel uncomfortable, say something. For example, "I really don't like you touching me all the time."

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Talking Things Out

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Choose a good time and place to talk. When having a conversation about something delicate, like your feelings for someone, it's important you have the time and space to talk. Find a time when you're both free and there are no external limits on time. Pick a private area, like a quiet bench in a local park.^{[9]
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Confess your feelings directly. If you're letting the guy know you like him, be direct. There's no sense in beating around the bush and dropping hints. Get directly to the point by saying something like, "I have feelings for you. Sometimes, I get the sense you also have feelings for me. Am I right about that?"^{[10]
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Be honest, but kind, if you're not interested. If you're not interested, let the guy down easy. Tell him you appreciate his friendship, but you're not interested in him in a romantic sense. There's no need to be brutal, but you should make it clear a relationship is not happening.^{[11]
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- Say something that clearly indicates you don't feel the same way. For example, "I'm not interested in you romantically."
- If you want to give a reason, that's okay, but be kind about it. For example, if you're not attracted to him, don't say, "I'm not attracted to you." Say something like, "I just see you as a friend."
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Respond appropriately if he does not have feelings for you. If you misinterpreted a situation, this can be embarrassing. Whether the feelings were returned or not, it can be awkward if you thought someone had feelings for you if they didn't. Make sure you have a plan to respond in this case.
- Accept his response gracefully. In either scenario, you can say something like, "Oh, I guess I misread the signs. Thanks for being honest with me."
- It's okay to be sad if you were rejected by someone you thought liked you. Take some time to vent to friends and do something nice for yourself, like go see a movie or order take out.^{[12]
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Expert Q&A

Question

How do you act around a guy you really like?

Laura Bilotta
Dating Coach & Matchmaker
Laura Bilotta is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Founder of Single in the City, her dating and relationship coaching service based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. With over 18 years of experience, she focuses on helping singles date more intentionally, encouraging them to let go of negative patterns so that they can attract the love that they deserve. Her experience, skills, and insights have led to thousands of successfully united over 65,000 singles through events and one-on-one matchmaking coaching sessions. She has been the host of The Dating and Relationship Show on Global News Radio 640 Toronto (AM640) for 6 years and is known as The Hookup Queen of Clubhouse; her popular singles club, Single in the City, has over 95.5K members who regularly join in weekly dating and relationship-focused rooms.

Laura Bilotta

Dating Coach & Matchmaker

Expert Answer

Make sure you use eye contact. When you want to show someone you like them, make lots of eye contact with long gazes to let them know you're interested. Also, sit closer to them and give them subtle touches.
Question

How do you get a guy to realize he likes you?

Laura Bilotta
Dating Coach & Matchmaker
Laura Bilotta is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Founder of Single in the City, her dating and relationship coaching service based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. With over 18 years of experience, she focuses on helping singles date more intentionally, encouraging them to let go of negative patterns so that they can attract the love that they deserve. Her experience, skills, and insights have led to thousands of successfully united over 65,000 singles through events and one-on-one matchmaking coaching sessions. She has been the host of The Dating and Relationship Show on Global News Radio 640 Toronto (AM640) for 6 years and is known as The Hookup Queen of Clubhouse; her popular singles club, Single in the City, has over 95.5K members who regularly join in weekly dating and relationship-focused rooms.

Laura Bilotta

Dating Coach & Matchmaker

Expert Answer

Develop a trusting relationship so you can really get to know the other person. Be a good listener and remember the little things they tell you, and show interest in their dreams and passions.
Question

How do you act around your crush if he knows you like him?

Laura Bilotta
Dating Coach & Matchmaker
Laura Bilotta is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Founder of Single in the City, her dating and relationship coaching service based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. With over 18 years of experience, she focuses on helping singles date more intentionally, encouraging them to let go of negative patterns so that they can attract the love that they deserve. Her experience, skills, and insights have led to thousands of successfully united over 65,000 singles through events and one-on-one matchmaking coaching sessions. She has been the host of The Dating and Relationship Show on Global News Radio 640 Toronto (AM640) for 6 years and is known as The Hookup Queen of Clubhouse; her popular singles club, Single in the City, has over 95.5K members who regularly join in weekly dating and relationship-focused rooms.

Laura Bilotta

Dating Coach & Matchmaker

Expert Answer

Let them get to know you. Show the person you trust them by letting them in on things that are important and meaningful in your life. Be genuine, and don't tweak who you really are because you think it sounds better or because you think that's what they want to hear.

Warnings

Don't just go for him because he likes you. This is not fair to him. Make sure you have genuine feelings for him before pursuing a relationship.

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