It’s important to be open and honest with your partner when you’re in a relationship. If you notice that your boyfriend is being sneakier with his phone than he usually is, you’re probably wondering if he’s hiding something. Read through these common signs of deception to see if your boyfriend is keeping something from you and what he might be hiding on his phone.

Things You Should Know

  • Your boyfriend might be hiding something if won't let you see his phone. He might change his password or tuck it away when you enter the room.
  • He might also develop weird habits with his phone, like texting late at night and bringing his device into the bathroom with him.
  • He could also act suspiciously when you bring up your concerns. He might either get angry with you or dismiss your feelings.
3

He texts at all hours of the night.

4

He keeps his phone locked around you.

  1. He might make a point to lock it before he leaves the room. It’s probably because he doesn’t want you to go through his phone. While it’s normal to lock your phone most of the time, you might notice him checking or double-checking it multiple times.[4]
    • He might also turn his phone face down before he leaves the room. This is to prevent you from seeing any notifications that might pop up while he’s gone.
    • Keep in mind that it’s normal for people to lock their phones, even if they have nothing to hide (think about how often you lock your phone before you set it down or leave the room). The problem arises when he’s doing it obsessively, especially around you.
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He never lets you use his phone.

  1. He might even get mad when you use it to check the time. While you shouldn’t expect to have free access to his phone 24/7, partners usually let each other use their phones to order food or pick a new song to play on the radio. If he won’t even do that, it’s a red flag.[8]
9

He gets angry if you find something on his phone.

10

He refuses to talk about your concerns.

  1. If you think your boyfriend is cheating, it’s best to have a talk with him about it. You can bring up any doubts you’re having and why you feel like he’s acting shady. If he’s not doing anything wrong, he’ll most likely be happy to talk it out and work on any issues.[11] If he is doing something he knows you won’t like, he probably won’t talk to you about it or he’ll just get angry.[12]
    • You can bring it up by saying something like, “Could we talk? I’ve noticed that you’re on your phone a lot more lately and I’m starting to feel a little weird about it.”

Expert Q&A

  • Question
    What does it mean when a guy puts his phone face down?
    Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. Kelli also facilitates groups for those struggling with alcohol and drug addiction as well as anger management groups. She is the author of “Professor Kelli’s Guide to Finding a Husband” and the award-winning and best-selling book “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and is a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.
    Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW
    Psychotherapist
    Expert Answer
    That can mean lots of things or nothing at all. I think that really speaks about the relationship because the phone is just a symptom. You should ask yourself something like, "Okay, how can I feel more secure in this relationship?" and then discuss the situation with your partner before coming to any conclusion.
  • Question
    Should I check my boyfriend's phone?
    Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. Kelli also facilitates groups for those struggling with alcohol and drug addiction as well as anger management groups. She is the author of “Professor Kelli’s Guide to Finding a Husband” and the award-winning and best-selling book “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and is a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.
    Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW
    Psychotherapist
    Expert Answer
    This is a question of privacy that should be discussed by the couple so that both are on the same page. Try saying something like: "Hey, we've been dating for X amount of months now… what are your thoughts about us checking each other's phones?" Listen to what your partner has to say with attention!
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This article was co-authored by Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. Kelli also facilitates groups for those struggling with alcohol and drug addiction as well as anger management groups. She is the author of “Professor Kelli’s Guide to Finding a Husband” and the award-winning and best-selling book “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and is a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida. This article has been viewed 169,142 times.
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