This article was co-authored by Amy Chan and by wikiHow staff writer, Hunter Rising. Amy Chan is a Relationship Coach and the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing after the end of a relationship. Her team of psychologists and coaches has helped hundreds of individuals in just five years of operation, and the Bootcamp has been featured on CNN, Vogue, the New York Times, and Fortune. She has published a book on her work, Breakup Bootcamp.
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We know how hard it is when you end a relationship. Breakups are tough on both people, no matter who ended things, so it’s perfectly normal to feel sad losing someone you care about. Even if the breakup felt like the end of the world, you can still use it as an opportunity for you to learn and grow.
Here are 15 tips to help you survive a bad breakup and come out the other side a stronger, happier person.
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Expert Q&A
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QuestionWhat is the best thing about being single?Amy ChanAmy Chan is a Relationship Coach and the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing after the end of a relationship. Her team of psychologists and coaches has helped hundreds of individuals in just five years of operation, and the Bootcamp has been featured on CNN, Vogue, the New York Times, and Fortune. She has published a book on her work, Breakup Bootcamp.
Relationship CoachThere's a freedom of being single—of being able to do what you want, when you want, where you want, without having to worry about someone else. That is liberating and exciting. You can date different people and test out what you like and don't like. Then, you can get really conscious of the type of partner that will be a good fit for you next time around. -
QuestionHow do I know if I'm ready to start dating again?Amy ChanAmy Chan is a Relationship Coach and the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing after the end of a relationship. Her team of psychologists and coaches has helped hundreds of individuals in just five years of operation, and the Bootcamp has been featured on CNN, Vogue, the New York Times, and Fortune. She has published a book on her work, Breakup Bootcamp.
Relationship CoachYou know you're ready to start dating when you're ready to practice opening your heart and connecting again. When you date with the intention of creating connection, of practicing your ability to be present and curious, then you are ready. -
QuestionHow can I recover from the shock of a breakup?Amy ChanAmy Chan is a Relationship Coach and the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing after the end of a relationship. Her team of psychologists and coaches has helped hundreds of individuals in just five years of operation, and the Bootcamp has been featured on CNN, Vogue, the New York Times, and Fortune. She has published a book on her work, Breakup Bootcamp.
Relationship CoachTry creating morning and evening rituals for yourself. Each morning, set aside time for yourself so you can get grounded and start your day feeling inspired. You might meditate, or write down an intention or goal for the day in your journal. In the evening, take time to practice gratitude by writing 3 things you're thankful for and why.
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