During the semester, schoolwork and studying might seem like a third wheel in your relationship. That’s okay—believe it or not, there are plenty of ways to spend meaningful time with your girlfriend while helping her gear up for her classes. Here are a few studying tips and tricks to get you on your way!

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Cater to her learning style.

  1. Some people learn and study better with different activities. Does your girlfriend like to read and process new information visually, or does she prefer to listen to the information? Or, does she learn best with hands-on activities? Ask her if she studies better with specific activities and habits—depending on what she says, you might suggest specific, helpful activities she can try while studying.[2]
    • If she’s a visual learner, you might suggest that she draw diagrams or color-code notes for her calculus class.
    • You could offer to read her literature notes aloud if she’s more of an auditory learner.
    • You might prepare for a public speaking class with a role-playing activity, or build models to help study for a physics exam.
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Offer to make some flashcards.

  1. Flashcards are a great way to recall different words and terms. If your girlfriend doesn’t already have some, ask if she’d like you to write out any important terms or definitions on flashcards that she can review later. It’s okay if she doesn’t need your help—just let her study in a way that’s best for her.[4]
    • Don’t write too much on each card—just a word or definition on each side is enough.
    • To keep things organized, write a question on 1 side and an answer on the other.
    • For an anatomy class, you might write flashcards that label different parts of the body. In a French class, you might define specific vocabulary words.
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Come up with some creative mnemonics.

  1. Mnemonics are creative ways to commit information to memory. Ask your girlfriend if she’d like to use mnemonics while studying. If she agrees, think of some different possible mnemonics for what your girlfriend is studying for—chances are, she might like the suggestion![5]
    • My Very Excellent mother Just Served Us Nachos is a common mnemonic used to memorize the planets in the solar system.
    • Rhyming sentences or short poems are other great ways to memorize information.
    • PEMDAS (parentheses, exponents, multiply, divide, addition, subtraction) is an example of a popular math mnemonic.
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Invite her to teach you the material.

  1. You’re more likely to recall information if you put it in action. A short lesson is a great way to do this! Ask your girlfriend if she’d like to teach you about whatever she’s studying, whether it’s history, math, a foreign language, chemistry, or something else altogether. Some studies show that you’ll remember 90% of what you’ve learned when you teach it to someone else.[6]
    • Your girlfriend might teach you how to conjugate Spanish verbs in the past tense, or walk you through the dark and light stages of photosynthesis.
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Bring over some snacks.

  1. Healthy snacks are excellent study fuel. Ask her if you can grab some food for her study session. If she agrees, offer some almonds or trail mix as a more savory snack, or bring over some fruit salad, frozen grapes, or apple slices and peanut butter to satisfy her sweet tooth. Greek yogurt, veggies and hummus, air-popped popcorn, dark chocolate, or roasted chickpeas are also tasty, nutritious snacks to consider.[9]
    • Apples, strawberries, blueberries, kiwis, pineapple chunks, banana slices, and grapes are all great ingredients for a delicious fruit salad.
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Avoid being controlling.

  1. Commandeering the situation is never a good idea. While it’s great that you want to help, controlling and manipulating her study routine will do far more harm than good. Let her decide when and how she wants to study for her test, and just follow along with whatever she decides.[12]
    • One study shows that controlling behavior in a relationship can often backfire, with the “controlled” partner deliberately opposing their partner’s demanding wishes.
    • Don’t say something like “You will study for 2 hours tonight.” Instead, suggest or offer an alternative, like “Would you like to study tonight?” or “Do you need any help getting ready for the math test tomorrow?”

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    My best advice is to help her create a schedule and encourage her to stick with it. It could be a paper calendar, or a digital calendar on Google or something. Have her map out each day's studying plan. Then, help her jot down all of the major assignments she has coming up. Often, just getting in the habit of planning to study will help make it happen!
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  • Don’t be condescending if you know more about the subject than she does. If she asks for your help, avoid walking her through basic information—instead, help specifically on whatever’s confusing her the most.[14]
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This article was co-authored by Ronitte Libedinsky, MS and by wikiHow staff writer, Janice Tieperman. Ronitte Libedinsky is an Academic Tutor and the Founder of Brighter Minds SF, a San Francisco, California based company that provides one-on-one and small group tutoring. Specializing in tutoring mathematics (pre-algebra, algebra I/II, geometry, pre-calculus, calculus) and science (chemistry, biology), Ronitte has over 10 years of experience tutoring to middle school, high school, and college students. She also tutors in SSAT, Terra Nova, HSPT, SAT, and ACT test prep. Ronitte holds a BS in Chemistry from the University of California, Berkeley, and an MS in Chemistry from Tel Aviv University. This article has been viewed 62,929 times.
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