How to Get Your Crush's Number

Co-authored by Imad Jbara

Last Updated: August 28, 2022 References

Getting your crush's number can be as intimidating as actually calling it. There are a few approaches you can take to improve your chances of success. Asking someone out is actually an easy thing to do. The only thing stopping you from being proactive is yourself.

Method 1

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Tricking Your Crush into Asking for Yours

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Approach him in person. This technique works better if you are face to face with your crush. This tactic requires you to trick your crush into calling or texting you to find out some sort of information. The key is to express interest in an activity but tell him you are in a rush.
- Start small and say, “hey James”. Then follow up with a question about an event he’s interested in or even what he’s doing over the weekend. Express an interest in the plans.
- Try something like: “let me know if you end up going” or “maybe we can go together”
- As a result, your crush will be backed into a corner and may have no choice but to ask for your number. Once he calls or texts you, you can save his contact information to your phone.
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Make plans like he already has your number. Invite your crush to an event with a larger group of friends. Tell him that you can text the details later, and try to walk away. Your crush should realize that the two of you have never exchanged numbers and mention it right then and there.^{[1]
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- It is essential that the event you invite your crush to is a group event. Group events are non-committal and less nerve-wracking. Your crush is more likely to respond favorably in this set of circumstances than he might if you invite him on a date.
- Try to make the group consist of people your crush knows casually but not too well. If the group consists of your crush's close friends, odds are, he will know someone else's phone number and just text that person for the details instead of you.
- Start walking away as soon as you make the invitation. If you hang around too long, your crush might ask you for the details then and there.
- Your crush will likely respond in one of three ways. With any luck, he will call or text you right then to store his number in your phone. If this does not happen and the event passes, he might ask you for your number afterward, so he doesn’t miss out next time. Of course, there is also a chance that your crush will not ask at all, in which case, he probably isn't interested in exchanging digits.
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Use an excuse. Instead of making plans, you can offer your phone number to your crush on a “just in case” basis. Think of a specific circumstance that you and your crush share and develop an excuse around that. If you can do this skillfully, your crush may even ask for your number without you offering it.^{[2]
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- If the two of you share a class, use that as a starting place. Consider your options. If you are great at math and your crush struggles with it, you could offer tutoring whenever he gets stuck on a homework problem. Similarly, if your crush knows in advance that he will be absent, tell him that you are just a phone call away if he needs an update on what was missed.^{[3]
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- For a crush that shares an extracurricular activity with you: offer your phone number and tell him to use it if he needs a ride to or from school.
- When you and your crush root for the same sports team, use that as an opportunity to hand over your number. Say that you will miss the big game this weekend and ask your crush to text you with an update on the score.
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Trick your crush into calling you. When hanging out with your crush, mention that the ringer on your phone has been acting up and ask your crush to call it. This should prompt him to ask for your number. Once your crush calls you, you’ll get his number without even asking for it.
- You and your crush need to be talking alone so that no one else offers to call your phone instead.
- Once your crush calls you, act relieved about the fact that your phone went off. Make it convincing, but try not to get too carried away.
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Play it cool. Once you and your crush have exchanged phone numbers, stay calm about it. Do not call or text that night. Give it some time to prevent yourself from seeming too intrigued.^{[4]
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- It’s okay if he figures out your plan and knows you like him. If he likes you back, he’ll have even more of a reason to ask you out.

Method 2

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Asking Your Crush Directly

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Ask in person or online. If you know your crush well enough and communicate via email or social media, you can ask for her number while talking online. Asking in person works just as well, but requires a bit more self confidence.
- Bring it up during conversation. Being direct is a good thing, but time your directness to be more effective. Try to let the question appear organic in the conversation.
- Ask her out. If she is interested on going on a date, then ask for her phone number.
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Think of a good excuse. If you have a good reason to ask for her number, she is more likely to comply.^{[5]
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- A shared class is a great starting point. If the two of you are in the same group for a project, ask for her number so that you can arrange a meet-up for a project outside of class. Likewise, if you have trouble with a particular topic that your crush excels at, ask your crush if she might be willing to help you with your homework over the phone.
- Work is another great place to get a phone number organically. Ask for her number if you need someone to check the schedule for you. Alternatively, ask for her number in case she needs a ride to work in the rain.
- If you discuss interests or plans, you can use them as an excuse. For example, ask for her number to text her next week when the new season of your favorite show comes out, or when you will be traveling to another city.^{[6]
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Be direct about seeing her. If you feel bold and confident about the possibility that your crush might have similar feelings, you could offer your phone number directly without an excuse.^{[7]
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- Stay cool and confident. Make a simple statement: give your phone number and tell your crush to text you if he or she feels like it. If your feelings are mutual, your crush will probably give you her number in exchange.^{[8]
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- If you and your crush are already flirtatious with each other, you can ask for your crush's number in the midst of flirting. Say something simple like, "I'll give you my number if you give me yours." Keep the mood lighthearted to avoid putting too much pressure or tension on the situation.
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Give it time. As before, you should avoid using your crush's number that same night you get it. If you are too zealous about sending the first text or placing the first phone call, you might scare the apple of your eye away.
- If you used a specific excuse to get your crush's number, your first call or text should be made with that excuse in mind.
- If you did not have an excuse when you asked, however, you can call or text whenever you have something to say.

Method 3

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Getting the Number from a Third Party

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Use a business card. If you and your crush are both adults and part of the professional world, you can indirectly ask for a phone number by asking for a business card.
- The downside of this option is that you may end up getting a business phone number instead of a private phone number. Make sure that one of the phone number on the card is marked as a cell phone before calling for personal reasons.
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Find out from a friend. Asking another person to interfere works well if the third person is a mutual friend with both of you. Ideally, this mutual friend will already have your crush's number. If not, he may be more comfortable asking for it than you are.^{[9]
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- Your mutual friend may catch onto your motives, so choose who you ask carefully. If you are not ready to have word get back to your crush about how you feel, make sure that the friend you ask can keep a secret.
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Use social media. Nowadays, you can find out a lot about a person just by snooping online for a bit. The easiest way to find someone's phone number online is to check that person's Facebook page. If the two of you are friends, there is a decent chance that your crush's phone number will be visible to you.
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Look it up. While there are no free, reliable services that allow you to find anyone's cell phone number, you can simply check the phone book for a home phone number. This might be better than nothing.
- This tactic will only work if your crush has a landline and if that number is publicly listed.
- Note that if your crush is underage or otherwise lives with her parents you will need to know the names of your crush's parents.
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Have a good reason to call or text.^{[10]
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Research source} Since she doesn’t know you have her number, she might find it a little creepy if you call or text suddenly without a decent reason. When you do call, make sure that your reason for doing so sounds justifiably urgent. Acknowledge that you got the number from a third party and explain why you needed it.
- For instance, you could call to ask a question about a shared assignment and explain that you got the number from a friend in another class. You could also text an invitation to a group event and mention who passed the number along to you.
- You could also just tell her that you wanted to call her to ask her out. Sometimes playing games is not the way to go.