Just because you've finally gotten the girl of your dreams doesn't mean the fun of flirting has to stop! Work to keep your girl interested—and more into you than ever—by flirting with her on a regular basis. Be confident. Chances are that she'll appreciate the attention!

Method 1
Method 1 of 3:

Keeping the Flame Alive

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    Show her that you're attracted to her. Go out of your way to touch her, look at her, and create sexual attention. Make her feel wanted! You may notice that you aren't doing these things because you're embarrassed, or insecure, or unsure of how she will react. If she is your girlfriend, and you've been intimate with each other, and you're attracted to her, then you don't need to hold back. Let your hormones take control from time to time, and show her that she is the object of your animal urges.
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    Use your eyes. Let your gaze rest on her when she's working on something, when she's in the other room, or when she just looks particularly beautiful. Do not worry about being weird! You're attracted to her, and she's attracted to you, and there's nothing wrong with owning that dynamic by staring at her.[1]
    • When she asks you what you're looking at, tell her how beautiful she looks. Only say it if you truly mean it!
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    Be confident. Do not hesitate to flirt with your girlfriend. She is your girlfriend because the two of you have entered into a verbal agreement – so there's a pretty good chance that she likes you and wants your attention. Many people find confidence sexy. Own it!
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    Touch her. Don't be afraid to get casually physical. Touch is one of the most powerful ways to build attraction and sexual tension. [2] However, it doesn't need to be overtly sexual. A light touch can be enough to signal that you're thinking about her, and it can go a long way toward reestablishing intimacy.
    • Put your arm around her when you're watching a movie, or hug her from behind while she's standing at the counter. Run your fingers through her hair. Touch her arm, gently, when you pass her in the hall.
    • Don't be afraid to get more sexual if you're comfortable being intimate with one another. Grab her butt, or caress her thigh. If you're in a private place: walk up behind her, put your hands around her waist, and grind slowly into her body.
    • Hold her hand! This is a great way to flirt, and it can also break the touch barrier if you're in a new relationship. You don't need to come up with a reason to hold her hand; if you feel it, do it.[3]
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    Smile at her.[4] Even if you are upset, or stressed out, or thinking about something else: take the time to be present and smile a lot in her presence. There's something about a guy's smile that can really turn a girl on. Girls like genuine smiles, not just flirtatious smiles. Don't try too hard on this one. Just think positive thoughts and let your face do the work. [5]
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Method 2
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Being Romantic

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    Appreciate her. Every day, find the opportunity to compliment her about small things: tell her that she's beautiful, or that you love it when she sings, or that you admire the way that she stood up to her frustrating boss. Don't just recycle the same compliments! Try to think of something new to say. This is not just about giving her a compliment – it's about challenging yourself to continually appreciate your girlfriend for the unique, beautiful, and always-growing human being that she is.
    • Find unique and genuine ways to phrase your compliments. Don't just say, "You're really beautiful." Say, "Sometimes I am just so captivated by how gorgeous you are. I can't stop staring at you today."
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    Declare your feelings for her. A romantic declaration isn't always as playful as some of the other flirting methods, but it can make your girlfriend feel warm, safe, and loved. She might even respond to your words with a physical demonstration of that love! It's always important to check in with your partner and affirm your feelings, especially if you think that she might feel insecure about the state of your relationship. Tell her that you love her, or that you really like her, or just that you think she's awesome. When you feel it, say it!
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    Write notes. Send her a sweet "good morning" text message to wake up to. Leave a physical note on her bathroom mirror, her car window, or her locker at school. Make her a card, or draw her a picture, or write her a poem. Tell her that you love her, or that she is awesome, or that you're thinking of her. The medium and the message don't matter so much as the act of showing her that you care. [6]
    • If she is having a big day, write her a note that encourages her and inspires her. "Go get 'em, tiger! You're brilliant, and you're going to ace this test today!" or "You've got this. Play hard and good luck!"
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    Give her something sweet. Bring her flowers, or a box of chocolates, or a book that you think she'd like. Bake something for her, or make something for her, or give her something pretty that you've found. You never need a reason to give your girlfriend a thoughtful gift. [7]
    • The gift can be something incredibly simple. When you meet up with her, bring her favorite snack or a bottle of her favorite drink. It is truly the thought that counts.
    • Ask her what her favorite flower is. Not every girl has a favorite flower – but many do. You can use this knowledge again and again, or you can surprise her with new flower types that make you think of her.
    • Consider hand-making something for her. Write her a song, or paint her a picture, or fold a piece of origami, or whittle her something from a piece of wood. She will appreciate the time you spend.
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Method 3
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Making Time for Her

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    Make her laugh. Using your sense of humor is a wonderful way to flirt around. It's good to be able to talk about serious things – but don't let your relationship itself become too starchy and serious! Relax and have fun every once in a while.[8] Don't be afraid to get goofy and let your true self shine!
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    Be present. Put away your phone, your computer, and your other devices when she's around. If you are always fixated on other things when you're hanging out with your girlfriend, she might feel as though you don't value her time. Listen to her, and make it clear that she has your full attention. This is one of the simplest ways to make your girlfriend—or anyone, really—feel wanted and appreciated.
    • Keep perspective. Your phone isn't going to go anywhere. You can call that person back. Indeed, it can be a great, simple romantic gesture if you make a show of seeing your phone buzz, then decisively turning it off and putting it away.
    • If you absolutely need to take a call or send a text, just explain yourself and get it over with. Say, "I'm sorry to be rude and text while we're at dinner! I just want to send this quick text to my brother so that I can give you my full attention."
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    Take her out. Set some plans in advance, but remember to be spontaneous! Create new experiences together, and make her feel as though her life is an adventure. This can be as simple as a trip to the movies, or as involved as a spur-of-the-moment trip to Hawaii. It can be easy to fall into a routine when you're always going to the same places and doing the same things together. She's your girlfriend, now, but that doesn't mean that you should stop dating her!
    • Take her on a trip for the day or the weekend. Go camping, or to the beach, or to a new city. Shake the patterns of the everyday, and see how it spices up your love life!
    • Find something that neither of you have ever done before. Explore the world together. Choose experiences that enrich and excite you both.
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    Surprise her. Not every girl likes surprises. If she does, however, a mystery date or an unexpected visit to her workplace can be a great way to show her that you're thinking about her. Building anticipation can also be a great way to create sexual tension and get her thinking about you.
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    One way to flirt with your girl is to compliment her. Don't just tell her that you appreciate her physical beauty. Let her know that you appreciate her personality, her creativity, her intellect—the things that really make her who she is.
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To flirt with your girlfriend, try using physical affection and flirty body language. When you’re with her, make eye contact, smile a lot, and don’t hesitate to snuggle up if she’s in the mood. For example, try holding hands with her, putting an arm around her shoulder, or giving her kisses. Flirting isn’t just about what you do—it’s also what you say. Give her sincere compliments and tell her how much you appreciate her. If you’re having trouble putting your feelings into words, write them down and leave her a surprise love note. You can also show your appreciation by spending quality time with her. Do things together that you both enjoy, whether it’s going out on dates, taking walks together, or just hanging out and watching a favorite movie. Keep the spark alive by surprising her sometimes. This might mean getting her a little gift, bringing her a snack she likes, or taking her out on a special date. To learn how to be more present in your relationship, read on!

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