How to Beat an Aries Man at His Own Game

Written by Tara Divina | Edited by Madeleine Criglow

Last Updated: March 17, 2023 References Approved

It’s hard to resist an Aries man. They’re charming, bold, and adventurous, and it's thrilling to be in their presence. If you’re crushing on an Aries, you probably know that they can also be a little hard to read. In love and relationships, an Aries man might play hard to get or suddenly disappear after a string of amazing back-to-back dates. To beat him at his own game, you'll have to show him that you're more than fine without him.^{[1]
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Tara Divina
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Expert Interview. 20 November 2019.} Flaunt your independence and strategically appeal to his sensitive side and this Aries man will be back in no time.

This article is based on an interview with our professional vedic astrologer, Tara Divina. Check out the full interview here.

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Compliment him to boost his ego.

An Aries man enjoys attention and loves to be flattered. When you’re hanging out with your Aries man, tell him what you like about him. Give him flirty compliments that are unique to him. You might compliment his sophisticated style, his witty sense of humor, or even his dashing good looks.^{[2]
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Research source} Just don’t overdo it. Make your attention special by complimenting him every other time you see him. He'll be left craving your attention and may end up dropping his bad boy act.
- Next time you meet up, you might say, "I love that T-shirt. You've got really cool style" or "You're pretty clever, you know that right?"
- Aries men aren't usually shy. If you're feeling bold, compliment him on his good looks. Text him something like, "I like that picture you posted. You're really cute."

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Flirt with him a lot and then back off a little bit.

This strategy will make him work to get your attention. Aries men have a tendency to give up if wooing you is too easy. Make him fight for your attention by being super flirty in one instance and then pretty casual the next. He'll wonder why you weren't all over him like last time and will work to win you back.^{[3]
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- If you see him at a party, be bold and give him a sly smile. He'll love the attention and will likely come over to talk to you.
- If you're comfortable, try flirting with him by being a little touchy-feely. Touch his shoulder, give him a sweet hug, or play with his hair. You might even try holding his hand or giving him a kiss on a date to be super forward.
- To play it cool and casual, simply give him a smile or a quick hello. He'll miss all the attention you gave him last time and will want you bad.

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Show off your witty sense of humor

Aries men are known for being quick-witted and clever. To show him you share his sense of humor, send him funny GIFS and memes that appeal to his interests and tease him a little (he'll like that you're not too intimidated to do that).^{[4]
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Research source} Your playful and flirty sense of humor will really draw him in and make him consider dropping his cool guy act.^{[5]
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- Send your Aries crush a funny GIF from a TV show. An Aries will likely appreciate anything from a silly TV show like Spongebob SquarePants or Bob's Burgers.
- He'll appreciate witty, irreverent memes that other less clever signs might not get.
- To tease him, text him something like, "I can't believe you didn't tell me you went to cooking school until now. What else are you hiding?"

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Be mysterious so that he’ll fight for your attention.

Aries men enjoy a challenge. You can blame that on the fact that their sign is ruled by Mars, the God of War. Make him fight for your attention by only revealing a little bit about yourself at a time. You might also try ending your text conversations first and filling up your schedule with plans that don't include him. You’ll make this notorious player so intrigued that he’ll give up his game and start seeking you out.^{[6]
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- If he asks you what you've been up to lately, avoid giving him your full routine. Say something like, "Things have been so wild lately. I've been working on a cool art project, though 🙂"
- Make a bunch of fun plans with your friends and family. If he ever asks to hang out when you're busy, don't change your plans for him. Instead, you might text him, "Oh dang, I'm busy that night. I'd love to see you later this week, though."

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Plan spontaneous and adventurous dates.

An Aries man wants to keep things exciting. Go on fun, activity-based dates, like catching the concert of a new band, dancing all night at a local club, and exploring a semi-treacherous hiking trail. Avoid planning dates super far off in advance, too. Embrace spontaneity and ask to hang out within the week so that he doesn't feel tied down.^{[7]
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Tara Divina
Vedic Astrologer
Expert Interview. 20 November 2019.} If you live in the moment with your Aries crush, he's way more likely to cease his games and start chasing you.
- Other date ideas you might try include checking out a rock climbing gym, getting midnight breakfast, and taking an exciting day trip to another city or nature site in your area.

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Take things slow to leave him wanting more.

Taking your time to get physical gives you all the power. As a qualified charmer, your Aries crush might try to seduce you pretty fast.^{[8]
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Research source} To make him work for it a little more, you might try holding off on getting super physical the first few dates. Taking it slow will make him want you more, which will likely encourage him cool it on the games.
- Once you do get physical, try embracing your experimental, uninhibited side. Aries men are usually pretty passionate and up to try anything. He'll be super into it if you're open about what you want.
- What you do with this Aries man is totally up to you. You're a prize catch no matter when you decide to get physical with him, and there are plenty of other ways to beat him at his own game if this isn't your style.

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Flaunt your intelligence in a fiery debate.

In love, an Aries man is looking for an intellectual match. To make him really want to get to know you, prove that you can take him in a debate. Bring up subjects like politics, philosophy, and current news stories to get this Aries man fired up. Be respectful, but don't be afraid to disagree. Show this guy you're not willing to back down and he'll be royally impressed, so much so that he might just stop playing games and commit.^{[9]
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Expert Interview. 20 November 2019.}
- Next time you're getting dinner or drinks, say something like, "Have you been following the local election? I've got a lot of thoughts..."
- Text him news stories and articles about politics and current events. Add the caption, "Just read this and I need to know your opinion. Even if it's different than mine 😉"

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Ask him for help to appeal to his protective side.

Aries men have the secret desire to be a little chivalrous. Appeal to that side of him by asking for his help or expertise. He'll enjoy helping you out and will like getting the chance to show off his many talents and skills.^{[10]
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Research source} Sharing a real moment like this might also help you get through to him past his many games and disappearing acts.
- Maybe your computer has been giving you trouble lately. Next time you're hanging out, you might say something like, "Do you know anything about laptops? I think my computer is dying on me."
- Perhaps you've been struggling to plan a presentation at work. See if he's got any advice with a text like, "Do you have any pointers on public speaking?"

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Encourage him to meet his goals.

Aries men are always working towards making their dreams a reality. Underneath his bad-boy exterior, he wants someone to support him along the way.^{[11]
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Research source} Encourage him to keep going if he ever mentions any doubts and let him know how much you respect his work ethic. Your honesty and support will mean a lot to him, and it may convince him to start being more honest with you in return.
- Maybe he mentioned that he was stressed about a project at work. Text him something like, "You're so talented, though. I know you can do it!" or "You're gonna ace it no matter what. You're like a rockstar."

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Be independent so he knows that you don’t need him.

He'll drop his games for someone who lives life on their own terms. Don't invest all of your energy in getting this Aries guy's attention. He wants someone as independent as he is (very, very independent). Focus on your dreams, interests, and career ambitions, and spend plenty of time with your friends and family. Seeing you live your life to the fullest will make this Aries man want to get in on the fun. He may even want you so bad that he owns up to really liking you.^{[12]
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- Aries men are usually pretty comfortable spending time alone. Show him that you can do the same thing by spending some time by yourself. You might try reading at the park on a sunny afternoon or taking yourself out to a solo lunch.^{[13]
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- If this Aries guy follows you on social media, post pictures of your solo adventures to show him all the cool stuff you do without him.

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Let him have his freedom.

Show him that you’re unaffected by his need for space. Part of an Aries man’s game is to play a little hard to get. After hanging out nonstop for a few weeks, he may back off. When he does this, resist the urge to double-text or pine for him. Make other plans and stay busy with your own life. If he sees that you’re comfortable with him doing his own thing, he’ll give up his game and reach out again.^{[14]
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Expert Interview. 20 November 2019.}
- If your Aries guy says he can’t hang out because he’s out with his friends, show him you’ve got plenty of other things to do. Text him, “Have a great time! I think Sarah and I are gonna check out that new bar down the street.”
- Avoid keeping your schedule open on the off chance that he’ll ask to hang out. You’ll seem way more appealing if you’re super busy.

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Believe in yourself no matter what games he’s playing.

Confidence is the ultimate key to beating an Aries man at his own game. It may be hard, but try not to let his behavior affect your self-esteem. Remind yourself of all of your amazing qualities, talents, and accomplishments. Think of that list or call a friend if you're ever feeling down about yourself. If you remember how hot and amazing you are, your inner confidence will shine through and make you irresistible to this Aries guy.^{[15]
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- Maybe you've been seeing him for a long time and he's still playing games. If that's the case, you might consider walking away. It's super tough to let go, but remember that there are tons of people out there looking for something real.