How to Attract a Gemini Man Physically

Co-authored by Jessica Lanyadoo and Dan Hickey

Last Updated: March 29, 2023 References

It’s easy to fall for Gemini men. They’re chatty, witty, and curious socialites who know a little bit about everything and everyone. Attracting one is no easy feat, though—they’re equally stimulated by brains and beauty and don’t really have a type, so you’ll have to engage their sharp minds before you can pique their physical interest. Luckily, there are subtle tricks you can use to grab a Gemini man’s attention and rev up his engine. Keep reading for a list of looks, touches, and flirting tips you can use to attract your Gem to you, mentally and physically.

1

Dress impeccably.

Gemini men love trendy and cool outfits. A person in a sharp ensemble will grab their attention from across the room. They’re addicted to novelty and you’ll keep their elusive attention if you try to change up your look day-to-day.^{[1]
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- Gemini men will be more attracted to your confidence and unique sense of style than to the showiness of your outfit, so don’t feel pressure to wear something that makes you uncomfortable. It’s like the old saying goes, “It’s not about what you wear, but how you wear it.”

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Make eye contact.

A strong gaze will grab a Gemini man’s interest. He needs to feel like he’s the center of your attention, and no words or touches will make him feel that way more than a long look into his curious eyes. Plus, eye contact is just sexy!^{[2]
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- Throw on a pair of glasses if you have them to hype up your “brainy” look. A Gem man won’t be able to resist the combination of beauty and intelligence.^{[3]
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Engage him in rapid-fire conversation.

Geminis never stop talking. Ever. Stay up-to-date on current events, the news, gossip, and random fun facts so you always have a conversation topic up your sleeve. He wants to know a little bit about everything, so the more you can bounce around between different ideas and subjects, the better.^{[4]
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Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.} A quick flow is more interesting to him than a deep discussion, and he’ll go wild for anyone that can keep up with his mile-a-minute mouth.^{[5]
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- Stimulating his mind with new ideas and topics is the first step toward attracting a Gemini man. Be prepared to talk a lot on your journey to reel him in.

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Flirt with him nonstop.

A Gem man can’t keep his focus on one person for too long. Reeling in a Gemini man takes a lot of flirtatious determination, so get ready to lay it on thick. He thrives on attention, so engage him on social media to let him know you’re thinking about him and show that you know how popular he is. Tell him he’s interesting and fascinating outright—the more shameless the flirting, the more responsive he’ll be.^{[6]
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- Even though your flirting is unabashed and direct, keep your personal self a little mysterious. Geminis don’t like head games, but they’re attracted to a little puzzle.

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Give him a gentle touch on his arms.

The Gemini sign is the ruler of the arms. That means your Gemini man’s arms are a sensitive, sensual place for him. Rest your hand on his forearm or lightly run a finger along his bicep while you flirt to stimulate his senses. Plus, what guy doesn’t like to think that his arms are sexy?^{[7]
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- Try touching his tricep or the underside of his arm for an unexpected and sensitive sensation.

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Play with his hands.

A Gemini man’s hands are an erogenous place for him. A lot of Gems talk with their hands, so playing with them is almost like continuing your conversation physically. Hold or rub his hand, kiss his palm, or play with his fingers to channel his chatty energy into his body language. He’ll be extra stimulated and responsive to a hand massage.^{[8]
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Kiss and rub his neck.

Geminis respond to sensual touches around the throat and neck. They’re the most talkative of the Zodiac signs, so this area is important and sensitive to them. Gentle strokes, playful bites, or kisses on their neck will drive them wild.^{[9]
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- In Vedic astrology, Gemini rules the throat chakra. This chakra controls communication and emotion, so sensual touches here will make your Gem man feel closer to you.^{[10]
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Keep his attention on you with playful sexting.

Geminis are probably the best sexters in the Zodiac. They’re hard to offend and their signature sense of humor applies to all things sexy too. Send him your raunchiest jokes and innuendos without fear because he’ll eat it up. A Gem man’s mind and body will both be aroused by flirty and offbeat messages, and he’ll appreciate having the concrete knowledge that, yes, you are into him.^{[11]
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- Gemini men love written communication because of their planet Mercury ruler and won’t be turned off if you blow up their phone now and then.^{[12]
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- Keep your texting and sexting light and funny. If the conversation turns too serious or emotional too soon, he’ll start putting distance between you.

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Turn him on with the idea of sex.

Stimulate your Gem man’s mind to get to his libido. A Gemini man’s sexuality is cerebral, so play some fun mind games and engage him in rapid-fire, flirty banter to rev up his brain. This will turn him on and up his attraction to you more than any revealing outfit or a trail of rose petals will.^{[13]
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- Your Gem man finds it fun to exchange sexy thoughts. He’s a generous lover and will use whatever information you give him during your banter once you’re in bed.

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Let him learn how to please you.

A Gemini man is curious about what turns you on. Even if you’ve already got him into bed, his mind will keep searching for new ways to please you. Keep the lights on and have a mirror nearby so he can see how the two of you look together. Give him some breadcrumbs about what you want him to do, but don’t tell him outright—he’ll get a thrill out of solving the puzzle on his own.^{[14]
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Keep things spontaneous and unpredictable.

Boredom and monotony are a Gemini man’s biggest turn offs. Geminis like spontaneity.^{[15]
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Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.} He’s an active guy that loses focus easily, so keep him engaged with surprises like last-minute dinner plans at a restaurant he’s never been to, thrilling dates like zip lining or hiking an unknown trail, or even just a random night out at the bars when he wasn’t expecting one. When he sees how adventurous and fun you are to be around, his physical attraction to you will grow stronger.^{[16]
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- Spontaneity will help get your Gem into bed, but you’ll need to keep the surprises coming to keep him there. Play with new toys, positions, or role playing to keep things fresh. Geminis feel shackled by routine, so be flexible with when (and even where) the two of you get intimate.

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Be hilarious.

A great sense of humor is one of a Gemini man’s signature traits. He loves to laugh, and witty jokes are a big turn on for him even if they’re not overtly sexual. Keep him laughing to show you’re on the same intellectual level as him and his physical attraction to you will follow. Keep laughing at his jokes too—the funnier he feels, the more stimulated he’ll be.^{[17]
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- Take your jokes to a bold and inappropriate level to help get your Gem into bed. He’ll be seduced by your directness and fearlessness.^{[18]
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Let him have space.

A Gemini man wants to feel wanted, but not needed. He’ll start to pull away from a potential lover the second he thinks his freedom is getting stepped on. Let him socialize freely (he is the life of the party, after all) and spend time away from you so he doesn’t feel tethered down. You’ll know he’s attracted to you when he keeps coming back.^{[19]
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- A Gemini man is ultimately attracted to someone who can be his equal partner and maintain their own independent life. Explore your own interests, hobbies, and social groups while he spends time with his to show that you don’t need him. He’s a curious guy and will want to know all about what you’ve been up to the next time you see him.

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Be a social butterfly.

Wow your Gemini man with your social stamina. Gems run in 100 social circles and are always on the go, so you’ve got to keep up! They are constantly making plans and soaking up attention and gossip like their life depends on it. Join him on impromptu nights out, weekend trips, parties, and high-profile special events. Geminis are attracted to people they can call their equals, and this definitely includes matching his ability to party.^{[20]
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- Most Geminis will love anyone that can keep up with their bustling social lives. You’ll know that your Gemini man is attracted to you specifically when he invites you to meet his friends or shows interest in joining your social life.

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Make your moves fast.

Gemini men have incredibly short attention spans. They’ll lose interest in you if you don’t keep them mentally engaged and wondering what you’re going to say or do next. Skip the small talk and ask him out for drinks sooner than later, or even just flat out tell him that you’re attracted to him after you’ve gotten to know him a little bit. Geminis are communicators, and they’re attracted to people who talk to them clearly and directly.^{[21]
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- Geminis don’t respond well to partners who play hard-to-get. Mind games and reverse psychology might work for attracting men of other Zodiac signs, but a Gemini will always see right through them.

Expert Q&A

Question

What type of a sign is Gemini?

Jessica Lanyadoo
Astrologer & Psychic Medium
Jessica Lanyadoo is an astrologer with over 20 years of consulting experience. She is the author of Astrology for Real Relationships: Understanding You, Me, and How We All Get Along and is the host of the popular astrology and advice show, Ghost of a Podcast. Lanyadoo co-hosted TLC’s digital astrology show Stargazing and writes weekly and monthly horoscopes that help you heal.

Jessica Lanyadoo

Astrologer & Psychic Medium

Expert Answer

Gemini is a mutable sign and an air sign. Mercury is its ruling planet which is a planet of communication.
Question

What are the qualities of a Gemini?

Jessica Lanyadoo
Astrologer & Psychic Medium
Jessica Lanyadoo is an astrologer with over 20 years of consulting experience. She is the author of Astrology for Real Relationships: Understanding You, Me, and How We All Get Along and is the host of the popular astrology and advice show, Ghost of a Podcast. Lanyadoo co-hosted TLC’s digital astrology show Stargazing and writes weekly and monthly horoscopes that help you heal.

Jessica Lanyadoo

Astrologer & Psychic Medium

Expert Answer

Gemini people are curious to know things. They are interested in a lot of things. So you can communicate effectively with them by sharing a wide variety of ideas.