How to Wear a Tie if You're a Woman

Neck ties aren’t just for men—they’re a great way to add a little moxie to your look. If you’ve never worn one before, you’ll need to know some style basics beyond how to tie a neck tie. Building a look and avoiding neck tie faux pas will make sure you leave the house looking smart and spunky.

Method 1
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Building Casual Outfits

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    Pair a skinny tie with a blazer for a clever, casual look. If you already wear a blazer at work, add a skinny tie into the mix to elevate your everyday look. A black or navy blazer is a good investment because you can pair it with any color tie.[1]
    • Choose a colorful tie with a solid-colored button-up for playful, post-work vibes.
    • Go for a casual-chic look with jeans, a collared blouse, and a blazer.
    • If you want to go for a grunge or rockstar look, pair a skinny silk tie (either worn traditionally or tied into a messy bow) with a relaxed tee or scuffed-up top.
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    Tuck your tie into a vest for a put-together casual look. Wear any size tie with the base tucked into a vest. Button the vest if you want to look fancy or wear the vest open if you want to go casual.[2]
    • Punk it up by pairing a black vest and black tie with a red and black patterned shirt.
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    Wear a loose tie with a button-up for an ultra-casual look. To keep the look consistent with the loose, casual tie, make sure your collar isn't too stiff. Keep it loose and a little disheveled by unbuttoning the top 2 to 3 buttons.[3] [4]
    • Avoid trying to match your tie to a patterned button-up shirt. If your top has lots of loud colors, choose a black (or other solid color) tie.
    • If your shirt is solid, opt for a playful look by wearing a colorful or patterned tie.
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    Leave the very top button on your shirt undone. Buttoning the very top button on your shirt might stiffen up your look (plus it can be uncomfortable), so feel free to leave it unbuttoned to give yourself a little breathing room around your neck. You can even unbutton the top 2 or 3 buttons for a sexy or more casual look.[5]
    • But if you want to look very prim and proper or ultra-modern, feel free to button all the way up!
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    Go for a preppy look by wearing a tie under a sweater. Let the top of the tie peek out from the neck of your sweater for a clever take on the college-prep style. Be careful not to look too scholastic—make sure the tie is a darker color than your sweater and the collared shirt underneath.[6]
    • Make sure the sweater isn’t so tight that there’s a lump where the tie lays underneath.
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    Add a tie to a simple summer or day dress for a playful look. If you like to wear casual dresses, try draping a tie around your neck or making a loose bow tie to hang around your neck. This is a great way to make a simple neckline look more fashion-forward.[7]
    • If you have an A-line dress or shirtdress with a collar, wear a skinny tie (tied into a standard neck tie knot) for an androgynous look.
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    Choose a plain belt that complements your tie. Don’t forget to wear a belt when you’re wearing a tie! The belt will balance out your look, especially if you’re wearing jeans or slacks. However, this isn’t a strict rule—a tie can look just as great without a belt depending on what aesthetic you’re going for.[8]
    • For instance, it’s more than acceptable to avoid wearing a belt if you’re pairing the tie with a dress or long blouse that covers the top of your pants or jeans.
    • A brown or black belt is always a good way to go.
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Creating Polished Looks

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    Drape the tie around your neck like a scarf for a feminine, classy touch. Simply toss the tie around your neck the way you would a scarf. It won’t keep you warm, but it’ll look effortlessly chic and upgrade a standard jeans-and-top outfit.[9]
    • This is a great way to take your jeans, blouse, and blazer from daytime to night time.
    • If you’re wearing a collared button-up, leave the top 2 or 3 buttons undone.
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    Tie your tie into a loose bow for a runway-chic look. Hang the tie around your neck like a scarf and then tie it into a big, floppy bow (just like you would tie your shoelaces).[10] Complete the look with tailor slacks or skinny jeans and heels for a night time outfit.[11]
    • Make it casual by wearing tailored shorts, flats, and a simple top.
    • Put on a blazer and let the bow hang over the top for a vintage-chic vibe.
    • Turn the bow so it’s slightly off-centered for a statement piece.
    • You can use a regular skinny tie or a pussy bow tie for this look.
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    Avoid wearing a tie with anything other than a collared shirt or blouse. Only wear a tie with shirts that support and frame the tie (e.g., button-down shirts or blouses with collars). That means no tank tops, t-shirts, scoop-necks, or halter tops paired with a tie. However, a neck tie tied into a bow can look ultra-chic with a scoop-neck or off-the-shoulder blouse, so feel free to break away from the standard.[12]
    • Stay true to your style—if you want to wear a statement tie with any top, do it!
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    Add an off-center neck tie bow to a dress as a statement accessory. Go ultra fancy by tying a regular neck tie or pussy bow tie into a loose bow and letting it drape over a classic tunic dress, A-line dress, or shirtdress. Choose a single color scheme for the rest of your outfit and let the tie be your pop of color for a modern look.[13]
    • Try pairing a black neck tie bow with a red, black, and tan color scheme for a posh, en vogue look.
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    Match the quality of your tie with the quality of your top. If you want to wear a tie with something other than collared shirt or blouse, wear high-quality fabrics that complement the fanciness of the tie. For instance, wear a silk tie with a silk blouse (not an old wrinkled t-shirt!).[14]
    • Feel free to break this rule to achieve the look you want for a casual or avant-garde look. For instance, you might pair a plain cotton neck tie with a silk blouse, tweed shorts, and cropped jacket for a playful daytime or date night look.
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    Wear a pussy bow tie with a high-collared blouse for a vintage look. Go full “Gibson Girl” by pairing a pussy bow tie with a high-collared or turtleneck blouse. Keep the rest of your outfit relatively plan and modern to avoid looking dated.[15]
    • If you want to craft a polished look with (a heavy vintage slant), pair a high collar and pussy bow with high-waisted dark wash jeans or slacks and pumps, heeled boots, or slingbacks.
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    Go for a runway look with a pussy bow and a plunging neckline. Pair a short or long pussy bow with a little black dress or blouse with a plunging neckline. If you’re shy about showing some skin, choose a wider pussy bow.[16]
    • Avoid wearing a necklace with this look because it might look too busy.
    • Choose a short, narrow pussy bow for an avant-garde look.
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Choosing a Tie

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    Buy a tie long enough to graze the top of your belt. Wear the right size tie to avoid looking costumey. The tongue of the tie should fall all the way down your torso to graze the very top of your belt. Anything shorter can look a little silly.[17]
    • If your tie is too short, consider hiding it the end of it under a blazer or vest.
    • If you’re wearing a tie draped like a scarf, feel free to let it hang lower to play up the drama.
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    Match the width of the tie to your body frame to complement your shape. If you have a small frame, opt for skinny or narrow ties that are usually about 1.5 inches (3.8 cm) to 2 inches (5.1 cm) wide. If you have a medium or large frame, you can go with a tie that’s around 2.5 inches (6.4 cm) to 3.5 inches (8.9 cm) wide.[18]
    • This isn’t a strict rule—feel free to try all widths of ties and see which one best suits your style.
    • An ultra-thick tie can come off looking cartoony, so when in doubt, go for a more slender size.
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    Choose a pussy bow to create both modern and vintage looks. This is a great option if you want to create more feminine looks with some classy, vintage flare. Get one that’s thicker to go ultra-vintage. An ultra-skinny pussy bow can look very modern and, depending on the rest of your outfit, create an androgynous or avant-garde look.[19]
    • A pussy bow is a great accessory for power suits and flowy blouses.
    • Channel the 1920s by attaching a pussy bow to the bottom of a collared v-neck shirt or sweater (first tie the bow then attach it with a safety pin).
    • Pussy bows are super versatile—they’ve been around since the early 1900s and they’re definitely having a comeback!
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    Stick to classic colors and thoughtful patterns. To get the most versatility, choose ties and pussy bows that are solid white, black, navy, or taupe. If you plan to wear ties and bows as statement pieces, go for bold colors like electric blues, hot reds, bright pinks, emerald greens, or neon yellows. If you like patterns, choose polka dots, florals, geometric designs, or simple stripes—and be mindful about pairing the motif with other patterns.[20]
    • For instance, pairing a paisley shirt with a floral tie might look too busy or clash—you’re better off sticking with a solid color tie or bow.
    • If you typically wear lots of solid colors head to toe, feel free to choose bold patterns and color schemes for your tie or pussy bow to make a statement.
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Expert Q&A

  • Question
    Can a woman wear a tie?
    Kalee Hewlett
    Kalee Hewlett
    Image Consultant
    Kalee Hewlett is a Celebrity Stylist & Confidence Coach with almost two decades of experience helping clients build confidence and ‘dress for success.' She works with her clients to transform their sense of self 'from the inside out’ by merging her expertise in image consulting with Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Kalee’s work is rooted in science, style, and the understanding that ‘identity is destiny'. She uses her own methodology and Style To Success Strategy to create positive identity shifts. Kalee is a fashion TV host and appears regularly on QVC UK sharing her fashion expertise. She also was appointed as the head judge and host of Fashion One Network’s 6-part TV show 'Design Genius.’
    Kalee Hewlett
    Kalee Hewlett
    Image Consultant
    Expert Answer
    Absolutely! Never be afraid to wear whatever you feel comfortable and good in, but in this case, it's not even like ties are out of style for women. You can absolutely rock a necktie!
  • Question
    Can I wear a necktie without a collared shirt?
    Kalee Hewlett
    Kalee Hewlett
    Image Consultant
    Kalee Hewlett is a Celebrity Stylist & Confidence Coach with almost two decades of experience helping clients build confidence and ‘dress for success.' She works with her clients to transform their sense of self 'from the inside out’ by merging her expertise in image consulting with Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Kalee’s work is rooted in science, style, and the understanding that ‘identity is destiny'. She uses her own methodology and Style To Success Strategy to create positive identity shifts. Kalee is a fashion TV host and appears regularly on QVC UK sharing her fashion expertise. She also was appointed as the head judge and host of Fashion One Network’s 6-part TV show 'Design Genius.’
    Kalee Hewlett
    Kalee Hewlett
    Image Consultant
    Expert Answer
    I really wouldn't recommend it. You can do whatever you want with your wardrobe, but it isn't particularly "in style" to ever wear a tie without a collared shirt.
  • Question
    Do I need to tie the knot the same way that men typically do?
    Kalee Hewlett
    Kalee Hewlett
    Image Consultant
    Kalee Hewlett is a Celebrity Stylist & Confidence Coach with almost two decades of experience helping clients build confidence and ‘dress for success.' She works with her clients to transform their sense of self 'from the inside out’ by merging her expertise in image consulting with Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Kalee’s work is rooted in science, style, and the understanding that ‘identity is destiny'. She uses her own methodology and Style To Success Strategy to create positive identity shifts. Kalee is a fashion TV host and appears regularly on QVC UK sharing her fashion expertise. She also was appointed as the head judge and host of Fashion One Network’s 6-part TV show 'Design Genius.’
    Kalee Hewlett
    Kalee Hewlett
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    Expert Answer
    No, absolutely not. You can use a standard knot, but you can also fasten it twice to create a mini-knot, or arrange the tie to hang like a cute, neat bow.
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