This article was co-authored by Amy Chan and by wikiHow staff writer, Hunter Rising. Amy Chan is a Relationship Coach and the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing after the end of a relationship. Her team of psychologists and coaches has helped hundreds of individuals in just five years of operation, and the Bootcamp has been featured on CNN, Vogue, the New York Times, and Fortune. She has published a book on her work, Breakup Bootcamp.
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We know that it’s a painful and confusing time when someone breaks your heart. Even though it hurts, heartbreak shows you were open and cared a lot about your relationship. It’s going to take some time to heal, but there are a lot of things you can do to make coping easier. We’ll start with some tips on how to boost your self-esteem before covering some ways to fill your time and move on from a broken heart!
Steps
Expert Q&A
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QuestionWhy am I hurting so much?Amy ChanAmy Chan is a Relationship Coach and the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing after the end of a relationship. Her team of psychologists and coaches has helped hundreds of individuals in just five years of operation, and the Bootcamp has been featured on CNN, Vogue, the New York Times, and Fortune. She has published a book on her work, Breakup Bootcamp.
Relationship CoachThrough repetition, your brain got used to getting a dose of dopamine from interactions with your partner. After the loss of that person, each one of those neural circuits has to be reconstructed to account for your new reality. -
QuestionHow long does it take to get over heartbreak?Amy ChanAmy Chan is a Relationship Coach and the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing after the end of a relationship. Her team of psychologists and coaches has helped hundreds of individuals in just five years of operation, and the Bootcamp has been featured on CNN, Vogue, the New York Times, and Fortune. She has published a book on her work, Breakup Bootcamp.
Relationship CoachResearch shows that the pain of a romantic rejection usually fades away over the course of about 6 months to 2 years. -
QuestionHow I can forget someone who I loved that lied and ruined my life?Community AnswerThere are some good tips in Forget Someone You Love.
Warnings
- If you’re really struggling to overcome heartbreak and nothing else is working, reach out to a therapist and talk to them.[23]⧼thumbs_response⧽
- Even though it may give you relief in the moment, avoid coping with drugs or alcohol since relying on substances becomes an unhealthy habit in the long run.[24]⧼thumbs_response⧽
References
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart#1
- ↑ https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/how-get-over-breakup-5-ways-move-ncna968396
- ↑ Amy Chan. Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 1 May 2019.
- ↑ https://www.mcgill.ca/counselling/files/counselling/surviving_a_break-up_-_20_strategies_0.pdf
- ↑ https://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/sc-get-over-heartbreak-family-0704-20170629-story.html
- ↑ https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2017-37800-001
- ↑ https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-to-recover-from-romantic-heartbreak/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-forward/201706/how-reclaim-your-self-respect-after-bad-breakup
- ↑ https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2017/09/28/is-it-possible-to-forgive-an-ex-without-exchanging-a-single-word/
- ↑ https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/996edc30-d6e9-480b-b4a8-15b626f0aa76
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- ↑ https://www.mcgill.ca/counselling/files/counselling/surviving_a_break-up_-_20_strategies_0.pdf
- ↑ https://www.glamour.com/story/how-to-get-over-a-broken-heart
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart#1
- ↑ https://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/sc-get-over-heartbreak-family-0704-20170629-story.html
- ↑ https://www.liebertpub.com/doi/full/10.1089/cyber.2012.0125
- ↑ https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/how-get-over-breakup-5-ways-move-ncna968396
- ↑ https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/996edc30-d6e9-480b-b4a8-15b626f0aa76
- ↑ Amy Chan. Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 1 May 2019.
- ↑ https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2017/04/06/when-you-should-and-shouldnt-stay-friends-with-an-ex/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifetime-connections/201912/after-breakup-when-should-you-begin-dating-again
- ↑ https://www.glamour.com/story/how-to-get-over-a-broken-heart
- ↑ https://headspace.org.au/young-people/how-to-get-over-a-relationship-breakup/
- ↑ https://headspace.org.au/young-people/how-to-get-over-a-relationship-breakup/
About This Article
While overcoming hearbreak is a long process, there are some things you can do to ease the pain, like being kind to yourself and recognizing that the pain won't last forever. It can be hard to feel comforted by the future, but talking to friends or a therapist, if you can afford one, may help you to deal with your feelings and see what you may have learned from the breakup. To help get through the day, distract yourself with other things, like pets or hobbies. To better understand why we feel heartbroken, keep reading.