How to Meet Band Members at a Concert

Co-authored by Nicolas Adams

Last Updated: June 3, 2021 References

It's totally normal to want to meet the members of your favorite band. After all, when you see them in concert, you're literally in the same room with them. Of course, you can't just nudge your way to the stage and hope for the best, but you can improve your chances of meeting the band. To make your experience truly memorable, don't forget to make a good impression and follow some rules of etiquette.

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Improving Your Odds of Meeting the Band

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Join the band's fan club. Many fan clubs get secret meet-and-greets before or after the show. This can give you more time to talk to them. Be prepared to pay annual membership fees. Some clubs limit the number of meet-and-greets you can have each year.^{[1]
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Form connections with the band online. Follow the band on social media. Get involved in chats or “follow-back” parties they host. Make sure you're chatting with a verified account. On Twitter and Facebook, verified accounts usually have white checkmarks in blue circles.^{[2]
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- “I can't believe you wrote that guitar solo in just 15 minutes. That's amazing!”
- “I was so psyched to find out you like rock climbing. I've been doing it for a few years now. If you're ever in my city, I can show you the gyms with the best climbing walls.”
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Ask for introductions within your network. Do this if you're lucky enough to have a friend or relative in the music business. You'll probably have the most luck if you know a roadie or someone who works in a recording studio. However, it never hurts to ask your friend who writes for a music magazine or cousin who works as a DJ.
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Enter contests for backstage passes. Listen to your local radio stations when tickets go on sale. Be prepared to answer a trivia question or call in at exactly the right time. If you don't have time to surf the radio for hours, search online. Many stations will announce these contests on their websites.
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Buy VIP tickets. They cost extra, but you'll be guaranteed to briefly meet the band. Don't get your hopes up. You won't be able to hang out for too long. Most sessions only last long enough to get an autograph or quick snapshot.^{[3]
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Search online for signings near you. Many bands sign tee shirts, CDs, autograph books, etc. at music festivals like Coachella or Glastonbury. On the day of the signing, check the band's website or social media page for a specific time and location at the festival. Get there early, since most signings last for a short time.^{[4]
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- Bands also have signings at music stores when their new albums launch. If you have a music store in your community, keep an eye out when you know the new single is being released.
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Arrive at the venue a few hours early. If the concert doesn't have reserved seating, this is your chance to get as close to the stage as possible. If there is reserved seating, you might still be able to catch the band arriving for their soundcheck. Make sure you're standing at the back entrance reserved for the band. Do this with a few friends, since many back entrances are in dark alleyways.^{[5]
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Hang around after the show. Find out ahead of time from crew members or other fans where the band will be exiting. You don't want to be behind the venue if the band will be exiting through a side door. Leave the concert a bit early to get a good spot. Just stick to legally designated areas to avoid getting arrested!^{[6]
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Attend a concert at a smaller venue. Older, more established bands sometimes play at local clubs, bars, and casinos. Of course, you must be old enough to legally drink alcohol and/or gamble to enter. If you're under legal drinking and/or gambling age, some bands might still play at state and county fairs. Smaller venues like these can improve your chances of meeting the band.

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Making a Good Impression

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Read music magazines for background info. Look up the band's information on their official website or in magazines (or their companion websites) like Rolling Stone or The NME. Read up on the band's history, backstories behind your favorite songs, and the band members' likes and dislikes. This will give you something to talk about.^{[7]
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- Choose your sources wisely. Wikipedia can be edited by anyone. Third-party blogs and fan sites aren't always reliable. You don't want to embarrass yourself by talking about a rumor as if it were true.
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Re-listen to the band's music. Use it as an experience. Focus on the moods or emotions each song evokes. Listen for interesting changes in chords or keys. Pick out any catchy symbols or metaphors in the lyrics. Use these as something to talk about when you meet the band.^{[8]
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Practice what you want to say. Don't worry about memorizing a script. Just have a few handy talking points ready. Point out how one or two of their songs have made an impact on your life. If they influenced you to pursue a career in music, mention that. Avoid over-the-top statements like declarations of love or anything else that might make you seem like a crazed fan. You could say:^{[9]
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- “I really love the riffs in 'Stairway to Heaven.' That's what inspired me to start playing the guitar.”
- “After I saw you profiled on 'Behind the Music,' I decided to pursue a career in music journalism.”
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Watch what you eat. Eat energizing foods like leafy greens, fruits, and whole grains to keep you going through the excitement. If you eat right before the concert, avoid garlic, onions, or other foods that can make you gassy or give you bad breath. To be on the safe side, pack some mints to chew before you meet the band.^{[10]
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Pack toiletries. Unless you're a seasoned pro around famous musicians, you'll be nervous, which will make you sweaty. Pack a travel-size deodorant to apply right before you plan to meet the band. If you wear makeup, bring your facial powder to touch up shiny spots. Have a makeup sponge on hand to blot any eyeliner or mascara that might have smeared (unless, of course, that's the look you're going for).^{[11]
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Following Proper Etiquette

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Act calmly. Don't scream or coo. Talk to them the way you talk to your friends. If you get too excited, they might think you're just a crazed fan. Famous people are just as human as you are. Most of them prefer fans to treat them like everyday people.^{[12]
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Give them space. Don't interrupt them if they're eating or talking to someone. Ask permission before making any physical contact. An unexpected hug might freak them out. Finally, show other fans the same respect you'd expect by not hogging the band for yourself.^{[13]
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Ask permission before taking pictures. This includes still pictures and video. The last thing you want is to embarrass your favorite musician by recording them in a touchy moment. If you give them a heads-up, they'll have a chance to straighten up before you snap a picture or record a video.^{[14]
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- Be respectful if they don't want to appear in a picture. Everyone has a bad hair or outfit day. If that's the case, opt for a short conversation. That memory might be greater than a picture.
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Show interest in their work. Compliment their performance if you're talking to them after the show. Give positive feedback about past performances you've seen for pre-show meet-and-greets. If possible, talk to them about their work or side projects, especially if they write or produce for another band.^{[15]
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Use discretion when asking questions. Ask questions about their approach to music, how they warm up, or what inspired them to start performing. Even if you're their biggest fan, there's always something new to learn. However, you should avoid asking personal questions, especially about their love lives or family lives. This will only make them uncomfortable.^{[16]
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Expert Q&A

Question

How do I meet famous musicians?

Nicolas Adams
Professional Guitarist
Nicolas Adams is a 5th generation musician of Serbian Gypsy descent and the lead guitarist of the band Gypsy Tribe. Based in the San Francisco Bay Area, Nicolas specializes in Rumba Flamenco and Gypsy jazz and playing the guitar, Bouzouki, Balalaika, and piano.

Nicolas Adams

Professional Guitarist

Expert Answer

If you want to meet the band at a concert, it's best to buy either a VIP pass or a Meet and Greet pass. Sometimes you can buy them through the website where you purchase your tickets, but sometimes it has to be through either the management or the band itself. Sometimes you can even just email the band's management and ask nicely and they'll give them to you.
Question

I have liver cancer and need a liver transplant one of my last wish is to the Band Kansas

Community Answer

First of all, I hope you can get that transplant as soon as possible! As for meeting the band, I would suggest contacting the band through their official website and making your case. You could also check into local or national charities that grant cancer patients such wishes.
Question

I got standard tickets to a concert with VIP Area/Club/Lounge access included. Does that mean I get to meet anyone or get autographs?

Community Answer

It would probably say so on the tickets if it did. If it's a smaller venue and a lesser known band or artist, it's possible.

Warnings

Don't go backstage unless you have a VIP pass or other official badge from the band or a local radio station. Otherwise, you could get arrested.

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Don't stalk the band at the airport, at their hotel, or near their tour bus. Stick to the areas legally designated for fans.

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Never meet a band member in private. Just because they're famous, it doesn't necessarily mean they're honorable. Always bring one or more friends with you.

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