Here’s How to Ask for Feedback When You’ve Been Turn Down for a Job

Begin by showing gratitude. You can say “Thank you for interviewing me for this position.” This leaves a good impression and increases the chances that you’ll be provided with constructive feedback.

• Throw in a few extra words like “It was a pleasure to meet your team and learn more about the company.”^[3]
• If you met with specific people during the interview process, be sure to mention them by name: “It was great to meet you and Charlie,” “Please extend my gratitude to Maria.”

Express disappointment in a positive way. For example, “I’m saddened that I won’t be joining your team, but I’m grateful for having applied.” This reaffirms your appreciation while showing that you respect their decision.

• Add a few specifics about the company or position, if possible.^[4]
• For example, “While I’m saddened that I won’t be working with Alex and the rest of the Human Resources team, I’m grateful for having applied and wish you all the best.”

Show that you want to grow and learn. “I’m always looking to improve my skills and would appreciate your feedback.” This positivity will reflect well on you. It also shows that you value their opinion, which might persuade them to offer their insights.^[5]

• If you’re requesting feedback over the phone, you could say, “If you have a few moments, I’d love to get some brief feedback on my application.”

Ask specific questions. For instance, “Could you tell me one or two ways I could have done better during the interview?” Recruiters are often busy and have little time to reply to rejected candidates. Keeping things brief shows that you respect their time and gives them the option to say as much—or as little—as they want.

• Ask if you lacked necessary qualifications. Recruiters often prefer candidates who already have the skillsets and experience needed for the job, so this could be opportunity to learn which qualifications you’re missing, if any.
• Take notes on any feedback you receive. Pay attention to specific suggestions for areas to improve.
• Take feedback as an opportunity to grow. While rejection hurts and criticism stings, learning your weaknesses can help you make the changes necessary to achieving your goals.

Request input on your resumé and cover letter. You could ask “Do you have any feedback on my resumé or CL?” Pay attention to what they liked, didn’t like, and what was missing. Use this info to polish up your applications and make yourself a stronger job candidate.

• If you’re getting feedback on the phone, have your resumé and cover letter in front of you during the call. Make highlights and take notes according to the feedback you receive.
• If there were other materials in your application, like a portfolio or test results, you can ask about those as well.
• For example “Did my writing portfolio contain the proper material?” or “Was there a particular section of the aptitude test where I could have improved?”

Once you’ve asked specific questions, ask for general feedback. “Are there any other thoughts or feedback that come to mind?” This gives them a chance to share extra feedback that may be totally unrelated to your previous questions.

• Save this question for the end of your email or phone conversation, after more specific questions have been asked.
• For an email, you can phrase this as a statement. “Please feel free to share any other feedback that comes to mind.”

End with a warm “Thank you.” You can also reaffirm your interest in working for the company down the line. For example, you can say “Thank you, again. And please keep me in mind if any positions that match my skillset become available.”^[6]

• If you’re writing an email, you could say “Thank you, again, and I hope to hear from you soon,” or “Thank you, and please send my regards to the rest of the team.”
• You can also acknowledge recent events or the time of year. For example “Thank you, again. I wish you a wonderful Thanksgiving.”

Hello Michelle,Thank you so much for following up to let me know your decision. While I’m saddened that I won’t be joining your team, I’m grateful to have had the opportunity to interview and wish you the best of luck going forward. As you know, I’m always looking to improve my skills and expand my horizons. I’d love to get your feedback on my interview and application materials. Could you tell me one or two ways I could have done better during my interview? Was I missing any qualifications or required experience? Do you have any feedback on my resumé and cover letter? I’d welcome your thoughts on these and any other areas where I could improve as candidate for similar roles. As always, I can be reached at this email from 9am-5pm, Monday-Friday, or by phone at 917-555-2313. Thank you, again, for your time and consideration. Best wishes,Adamadam.smith@company.com917-555-2313

Dear Mr. Rosetti,Thank you for informing me of your decision. While I regret that I won’t be joining the group as a Junior Associate, I nonetheless feel privileged to have been considered for the position. Despite my disappointment at this outcome, I’d like to take this opportunity to learn from my mistakes and improve my prospects going forward. If you could spare a few moments, I’d be obliged if you could provide feedback on my interview and overall candidacy. Could you recommend one or two ways I could have improved during my interview? Was I lacking any important qualifications or prerequisite experience? Lastly, do you have any recommendations regarding my cover letter and resumé? I’d appreciate your feedback on these areas, along with any other thoughts you’d like to share. Please feel free to contact me at your convenience via this email address, or by phone at 908-555-1881. My availability and further contact information are in my signature line. Thank you, once again, and please extend my gratitude to Maria and the rest of the team at ABC Associates. Best regards, Dana Rodriguezd.rodriguez@xyz.comOffice: +1 (908) 555-1881Fax: +1 (908) 555-1200Mon - Wed: 9:00am - 5:00pm PTThu: 8:00am - 6:00pm PTFri: 10:00am - 3:00pm PT

Avoid broad questions. “Is there anything I should have done differently?” or “How can I do better next time?” are both fair questions, but they can be tricky to answer. A busy recruiter may not have the time for such an open-ended conversation.

• You can end an email or phone call with a general question or statement.
• For example, “Is there anything else you’d like to share?” or “Let me know if you have any additional comments or feedback.”

It’s best not to argue with feedback. While it’s possible that a recruiter’s feedback is unfair or just plain wrong, you shouldn’t challenge them on it. Arguing may create an impression that you’re unreceptive to feedback. It could also make it harder to absorb meaningful advice that could benefit you down the road.

• If you feel hurt by the feedback you receive, try setting it aside and coming back to it later. It may be easier to hear criticism once you’d had a chance to process your feelings.

Avoid asking why you weren’t hired. It’s normal to want to know, but asking about it directly can seem rude. Recruiters may not even be at liberty to say exactly what tipped the scale in favor of another candidate.^[7]

• In some cases, the reason might be clear, such as if you scored too low on an aptitude test. But the recruiter may not be able to confirm this one way or another.